My husband spoils me

What a kind and thoughtful man! A lovely heartwarming story.

Spindrift you are a good example to everyone x x

Thanks Cheelu, I like everyone else in my situation find it hard at times, but when I do I think what would Ron have wanted me to do & I get on with it, we did everthing together, went everywhere together, one thing he didn't like though was people coming here, stemed from his upbringing, so now I only have the one friend, she has been wonderful, but has her own problems at the moment, her husband is going through Radiotherapy. The computer is a lifeline for me because sometimes I don't speak to anyone for days face to face, I go in a chat room every evening & have some good friends in there.

Hi Spindrift I myself am a bit like your Husband in that I am not really one for having loads of people round, so I fully understand his thinking and for me, it was, my up bringing, My Mum always had loads of people in the House, drove me mad!! But you know as I said its great to read that yes its not a good position to be in but you do just have to get on and as you sooo rightly say what would your loved one have you do, they would not want you to be un happy. Best wishes

spindrift I do hope you manged to get through Xmas ok.

love that poem as Janeainsworth said Remember, it is so true better to forget and smile than remeber and be sad, but very very hard.

Well Christmas wasn't as bad as I expected, 12 months yesterday was my hubby's funeral, we had to wait because of the holiday & the Crematorium was busy, will now pick myself up & start a new year hoping to find a pottery class near me so I can at least get out & talk to people, we don't have a community centre anywhere near me or any club I could join, have looked on line, town library etc, up to now no luck, I am partially disabled & only drive very locally, I was 53 when I decided to learn to drive , never driven on a motorway, but wouldn't be able to manage now anyway so no big deal.
Hope you all have a great 2013

Sheila

And to you to Sheila.
Although it will always be sad time of year for you, I'm sure you will look back this time next year and be able to feel you have come a long way and achieved a lot. x

so glad spindrift just read about what happend and my deepest sympathy.

my OH is 67 and 10 years older than me we must treasure our time together and not let our sad situaiton ruin what we have.

pleased Xmas was not as bad as you imagined, and well done for positive thoughts about new year.

spindrift How I feel for you.
I am going through a 'this time last year we were doing this and that' phase and quite soon it will be 'this time last year it was his funeral' for me too. It's very hard to be brave all the time isn't it? But we must or down hill we will go. Here's to a better year for us and all others who have lost someone dear.

Hi Gally, yes we do have to be strong, nothing else for it if we don't want to go under, I have now had my firsts of everything & now 2nd Christmas & New year, though I can't say I remember much about last Christmas & new year.
Hope you will have a good 2013, onwards & upwards as they say