Private Messaging

Surely we should be encouraging people who receive these nasty PMs to report them, and make sure GN actually does something about it. It would not be tolerated in other forums. It is a form of bullying, and should not be tolerated, full stop. As you sayMovedalot I would hope that they would feel bad about it on reading this thread, but sadly I have my doubts

Movedalot If you say so. Presumably helpful Gransnetters have been passing these pms on to you. Inciting trouble seems a little OTT as it's difficult to see what sort of trouble anyone could incite – except, perhaps, helpful Gransnetters passing them on to you. That would be devious. Still, if you say so.

I think I should make it clear that I haven't been talking about any pms I have received. I am big enough and I'm sure most would agree quite nasty enough to take care of myself. I am talking about pms sent to other Grannetters, some of whom are among our most popular and highly respected members.

absent how do you know about the private messages sent to these popular and highly respected members?

Nobody told me.

petallus Some Gransnetters consider me a friend and a confidante.

Perhaps some Gransnetters consider Movedalot to be a friend and confidante as well.

Oh! Can't we have a list somewhere?! Who sent what to who/whom (?)

Pleeease!!

Ana If some Gransnetters sought reassurance and comfort from Movedalot because they had received insulting pms, then I am sure that she would have responded readily.

Of course.

I would love to know Absent how you decide who are the 'most popular and highly respected members'? Unless there has been a poll, which I must have missed, then it is surely only your opinion?

I am a little confused how someone telling me what is in a PM they have received can be described as 'devious' if you presumably think that those which have been disclosed to you by others are not. I would appreciate it if you would clarify. Maybe the drugs are stopping me understanding.

Is it not possible to 'incite' in a PM? I think it is.

Now see what you've done!

Poor Geraldine.

Movedalot Let us call the poster Doris and the recipient Gladys for argument's sake. Doris sends a pm to Gladys that is about you with the knowledge that Gladys will forward it to you. That would be a very devious way for Doris to incite trouble. It's just a scenario; I can't see any other way of inciting trouble. I don't know – I have never forwarded any pms to anyone.

Could you just avoid sneering at me once, please. Of course, I haven't decided that particular people are among the most popular and highly respected; it is obvious from the attitude of other Gransnetters towards them over a period of many months.

Absent knows who the popular and highly respected members are because she is their friend and confidante.

No bias there then

Getting nasty again. Completely unnecessary!

Some of them, yes, petallus.

No sneering either in my post or in my intention. I am sorry you read it like that but as that was not what I did, and I think you know it was not, imo it says rather more about you than it does about me.

I think this is another case of you attempting to portray me in a bad light. Please desist.

Alright Absent. It's nice to have friends, women friends in particular I always think.

I am not interested in portraying you in any sort of light Movedalot. Everyone on Gransnet can portray themselves in any way they wish. I interpreted the second sentence of your post as sarcasm, having forgotten that you have already told me that you never use sarcasm. I apologise for thinking you were being sarcastic – and, as far as I know, there hasn't been any such poll.

It was neither 'sarcasm' or 'sneering' Absent and I disagree politely with your first sentence, as the evidence would appear that you are.

I am not going to continue to bat this backwards and forwards with you. It is too silly to continue to discuss your ongoing problem with me. Neither am I going to be drived off GN.

Would anyone like a nice and ? Gather round the fireside...perhaps we all need a wee [hug].

A 'love in!'

Good idea soop but I am not sure if it will work! It seems some bits are well and truely between some teeth.

I will drink a virtual cup with you though.
Any other takers?

My lovely DH has just brought me a nice warm drink, so I don't need any but thanks.

Can i have vodka instead?