My children live very different lives. DS is married with children. DD is resolutely heart whole and fancy free. We have at various times helped them in different ways, which I think, is roughly even, but it would be difficult for either to calculate what one has had compared with the other because they do not always know what the other has received, not because we do not want them to know, but because they live several hundred miles.
DD knows we bought son and family a new cooker at Christmas, because we all went shopping together, whether they are aware we bought her dishwasher three years ago I am not sure because we did that when we were visiting her and may or may not bothered to tell DS. Anyway DS would not remember even if we told him every day for a month, he is the classic absent minded academic.
My father simply divided his estate between his two children. My sister and I then made a Deed of Variation to transfer some of it to our grandchildren, each set of grandchildren taking the money from their mothers share of the estate.
Alphabetical girls and boys names January 2024