I am grumpy!!!!

Trip to the GP, maybe, glass?

Oh "glass" sympathy to you. I too am grumpy and weepy and can't be bothered with anything. Have had sciatica for ages and feeling sorry for myself. The hot sticky weather doesn't help! Grump grump grump!

glass suggest you just give it a couple of days and see how it goes. Sometimes things just get on top of us and we need to shut out the world for a few days until we get over it.

When I used to get pmt I would scrub the kitchen floor on my hands and knees or do some other physical thing to take out my angst on. The garden grows a lot at this time of year, can you go and hack something?

We all have days like that, so you feel grumpy today and who knows even tomorrow maybe but don't let it go on too long. If it's not in your nature to feel like this perhaps you could stand back and see why you are feeling like you are.
Are the family putting on you, or are you not feeling well.
I know from bitter experience the last thing you want is some idiot saying. "Cheer up there are folk out there worse off than you. "

It must be catching. With the high pollen counts I find I'm more breathless as well. Can't wait to get to sea again where I'm much better. I feel weepy as well. My taxi driver says I'm always grumpy. I'm not a morning person. And after work I'm tired so he's probably right!

The weepiness is so annoying! Feel it is ridiculous at my age. I know if I go to the doctor I will have a weep and he will think I am a neurotic woman - maybe I am!! In a way it is good to know other people sometimes feel like this. Maybe I am not going nuts!

glass; is it a menopause sort of thing [much as I hate blaming things on hormones and hellfireanddamnation to any man that suggests it, our hormones do cause us a lot of grief sometimes]. Also, with the hot weather I think most of the population are into their second week without sleeping well and there's a general grumpiness in the air at the moment.

Glass time we all got together for that meet-up! Are you free at all during the school holidays?

Dear glass, I'm sorry that you're not feeling your usual sunny self at the moment. As someone who I suspect has a similar nature I notice that if I DO get into a grump (a rare occurence) my family feel very uncomfortable and start suddenly becoming 'aware' of me and my needs. I hope this is the case with you and that you're on the receiving end of some TLC until you feel better.

glassortwo I really know how you feel. Dark feelings escalate and can really drag you down. I too have gloomy times when I find one dreary thought seems to snowball into a whole litany of past slights and unhappy events and often ending in really dark memories of great sadness.
I have been reading the 'Mindfullness' book and Ruby Wax's latest offering and, although I am in the early stages of the subject I have found it very helpful to read about the power of these dark thoughts and the damage they can do. What I have found helpful is that these books explain (with useful science based background info) that it is just thoughts, and thoughts are not who we are. I am slowly learning to recognise them, acknowledge them but then say to myself...'well its just a thought so I can unthank it and think of something else. Sounds daft but its beginning to work. I've trained myself to get back to sleep when I wake at 3ish by just going 'don't think...don't think'.
As we get older, those of us with a natural 'glass half empty' look on life cope with so much - hormones, empty nest, loss of parents etc etc. We do need, I feel, strategies to put a little bit of joy back and I do hope you can do that. All the best.

What a good post, Hilda. I must admit that I, too, am a glass-half-empty' type and things can certainly get on top of me. A coping strategy such as you suggest sounds as though it might be very helpful.

glass, I do hope you emerge from your dark cloud soon. It's horrible being grumpy when you aren't normally, I know!

glass I feel for you. I recognise those feelings in myself too. There are times when I have to actively try to 'choose' my mood which is a lot easier said than done. I'm another believer in mindfulness and as Hilda says, we need to develop coping strategies for the darker times.

Have you by any chance seen the Michael Mosely Horizon programme about happiness? I'll go & find a link.

Here it is, I found it interesting.

glass; I was just reading another thread and you say you have cut down your HRT recently. Can't help but feel you may have cut back too much too quickly?

Glass it's horrible isn't? I hope something happens / comes along that helps to life you from under your black cloud.

Sorry 'helps to lift you'

Sorry you are feeling a grump glass. I often feel like that and don't really have any good reason to, especially when it's aimed at my OH who has done nothing to deserve my irritability! I keep telling myself how lucky I am for the various reasons I know I am and then to just stop it, sometimes it even works! For me it is being in my mid-sixties and the fear of time slipping away and although healthy now, what lies ahead etc etc. If you find an answer, all us "glass half empty" types would be very grateful - in the meantime hope you improve soon ((hugs)) and

Yes jane it would be good to meet up, so glass if you can find a spare couple of hours let's do it!

I hate to suggest a glass or two! - never really solves anything.

Best of all, do not feel bad about feeling grumpy - who doesn't at times? Just don't add guilt to the mix.

Mindfulness has helped lots of people and there are some good books and CDs out there.

There was a prog (discussed on here) about improving one's outlook just by choosing smiley faces to look at in a computer programme. I wasn't able to download the computer programme or app - but it an interesting piece of research.

I too have grumpy days and always puty it down to the hormones that have not yet fled!

I do hope that tomorrow is a better day for you.

gass you are usually positive and chirpy, so it stands out when you say you are feeling grumpy. (((Hugs))) I hope it doesn't stay with you for long, but you can always come on here and have a good ole rant!

I meant Glass not Gass, sorry!

glass - here's a warm arm around your shoulders and I hope you can feel it as it flees through the ether to Northumberland. Things get us down, don't they? Grumpiness doesn't just happen - when life seems to be a bowl of cherries (albeit briefly) grumpiness doesn't seem to happen to us, but one or two niggley things that bite and chew at our thoughts - then it's back to gloom again. I had this chat with my friend today, and she says she thinks so much about the past. I do that, too, and although I know I can't do anything about it now, I do so wish I'd not done some of the things I'd done - or at least done them differently. What is difficult though, is to remember WHY we may have done what we did then - only that we did, or didn't do, the right thing. I'm talking about my reasons for gloominess, and these might not be what causes it for other people.
for you glass, and for anyone else who may just be needing them just now. xx

I've read this thread with interest and I've been thinking about all the issues raise, as I've been cleaning the house today. I do think that as you get older, it is natural to look back on your life and the decisions and choices that you made. However, if you're like me, you tend to focus on the things you got wrong, and ignore the good stuff. I was lunching out with a friend the other day, when I noticed that I had taught one of my fellow diners, now a middle aged woman. She recognised me and came rushing across, throwing her arms and around me and declaring : 'Oh, we all loved you so much!' I thought to myself rather sardonically that I wish I had known that at the time, but my point is that we do tend to put ourselves down and it is important to try to strike a balance. Ruminating on the past is not a good thing, I think, because we can do nothing to alter things and we probably weren't as dreadful as we thought we were.

As regards feeling grumpy or weepy or sad - no one can be happy all the time, so I don't think it's helpful to regard these emotions as anomalous. I'm not talking about true depression, of course, which needs medical help, but why should we expect to feel happy or chirpy all the time? Certainly, at my time of life, I have lost parents, partners, good friends, not to mention lovely pets, and there are days when I still grieve for them. I don't equate happiness with success, because bad days come to all of us, but emotions are temporary and the bad and sad feelings do go away. So I would say - embrace your inner grump, be kind to yourself and remember that tomorrow is another day, without any mistakes in it as yet, as Pollyanna used to say. to all who are feeling a bit down.

vegasmags, what a fine post that was! It really does say it all.

Thank you Marelli