The Sadness

I didn't have time to mourn my father when he died as my mother was so needy, but there are times when the missing him really hurts physically and other times when he seems to be beside me. I remember on one wonderful day last year we were sailing in a perfect breeze on the Meditteranean sea and he was there too. No reason, out of the blue, he didn't sail, but there he was. Perhaps there is an afterlife.

I find this quote very true

"There is only one certain truth - even if I had known there would come the cruel grief I suffer today I would endure it all again for the wonder of having had you in my life "

Aka what a wonderful quote and gosh how very true. I think it says it all really.

Phoenix never think you are mad, grief is hugely physical. I lost my middle child my only son in 1984 when he was nearly 5 . Not a day goes by that I don,t think of him even though I have 2 beautiful grown up daughters and 2 even more beautiful grand daughters who are a joy to me there will always be someone infinitely precious missing from my life.

Through the years I have lost grandparents, parents, and 3 very close friends but nothing compares with losing a child., you belong to a club no one wants to join. I send you love and sympathy and the empathy of someone who understands something of what you feel. No one understands completely because all loss even similar is too individual.

I hope there is still happiness in your life but do not be hard on yourself because of your sadness you are still surviving. Well done!

Twiceasnice, so true. We do all carry our own individual grief, which is impossible to describe, though can nevertheless empathise with those who carry theirs.