Some of you may remember that my 89 year old FIL had an accident a few weeks ago and wrote off his car. Since then he has agreed to give up driving and has also been on cruise holiday by himself (this is relevant to the story). Dh's sister had visited him with her three children to persuade him to give up driving and he was very upset by this as he felt quite overwhelmed. She has also pretty much told him he will have to move nearer her as he was no longer driving. She lives half an hour/40 minutes away but is in his area 3 days a week for work. Whilst FIL was away she, along with two daughters, started to clear out FIL's house and dumped quite a lot of things including books that he was very fond of. DH has had a couple of very worrying phone calls from a very depressed father since he returned home and we finally managed to visit him on Sunday. We live three hours away. FIL was very low spirited yet angry about his things being thrown out. His accident and the cruise have brought home to him just how old he is. He had apparently been very anxious on the cruise - just stress of whole thing, worrying about his connections getting home, that sort of thing. The trauma of the accident seems to have returned him emotionally to where he was just after MIL died and he's finding life very hard indeed. One thing he's definite about is that he doesn't want to move and lose his last connections to his wife. DH and I feel he should stay where he is, the thought of moving is causing him so much distress. We don't feel he'll ever settle anywhere else and that forcing s move could precipitate a rapid decline. It's easy for us to hold this view - we're not the ones having to deal with FIL on any regular basis and we are def going to clash with SIL on this. We have been researching various ways of helping FIL cope without his car and he wants to try and make a go of things using taxis (reluctantly!) for longer trips, the free shopping bus, online grocery shopping ( he already buys from Amazon and other sites so is quite comfortable with his iPad), and we suggested a little scooter for local trips plus getting him set up with Skype and a decent mobile that will work with his hearing aid.
What would you wise GNetters advise?
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