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Nanny123 Fri 01-Sept-17 11:40:42

Whenever I go out with a friend if they do the driving I either insist on paying the car parking (and at times this can be pretty expensive) or buy lunch. I would never expect a friend to drive me around AND then have to pay for parking - and yet I have a couple of friends that will just do that. I often go well out of my way to pick them up, drive to where we are going and then they just sit there whilst I go to get the parking ticket - whilst I would never take anything from them it would be nice to be offered. What are your thoughts?

Granny23 Fri 27-Jan-23 11:18:17

A friend of a friend who can't drive due to a disability, always leaves a wee bagful of loose change and trolley coins in the car when getting a lift. This seems very acceptable to me.

Tizliz Fri 27-Jan-23 11:20:36

When my friend picks me up I don’t ask if I can contribute I just put £20 in the central console and she can decide what she wants to do with it, it saves the arguing.

LRavenscroft Fri 27-Jan-23 14:56:39

I have an ex friend who was loaded through inheritance and every time we went out for lunch she wanted me to go halves. She would order surf and turf and drink champagne and I ordered a vegetarian salad and drank water. After a couple of occasions I started to take just the right amount of cash to pay for my £10 meal and no cards. She tried her stunt again for her £25 share and did not have enough money so had to pay for her meal using her card, which surprisingly she did have on her.

Aveline Fri 27-Jan-23 15:01:13

Grannyy23 that's a very nice practical gesture.

JackyB Fri 27-Jan-23 15:45:24

Cabbie21

These days so many car parks want you to input your car registration number, or use an app, so it is simpler for the car owner to see to this. Many machines only take cards, and in general, it is harder to get cash. So other ways of thanking drivers are useful eg paying for their meal. But motoring is costly, and if you are using someone’s willingness to drive, a financial recompense is due. Just need to find the best way to do it, and drivers not to be taken for granted.

When this thread started several years ago, cash payment may have been the norm.

Regina65 Wed 27-Nov-24 21:32:04

Gosh this is why I choose not to have many friends it's always take take take. You soon know who your real friends are

petra Wed 27-Nov-24 21:56:24

JackyB

Cabbie21

These days so many car parks want you to input your car registration number, or use an app, so it is simpler for the car owner to see to this. Many machines only take cards, and in general, it is harder to get cash. So other ways of thanking drivers are useful eg paying for their meal. But motoring is costly, and if you are using someone’s willingness to drive, a financial recompense is due. Just need to find the best way to do it, and drivers not to be taken for granted.

When this thread started several years ago, cash payment may have been the norm.

Even more so now in November 2024
Do people troll through the threads to see if there’s something they can comment on🤷‍♀️

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Wed 27-Nov-24 22:04:32

Such an old OP! Our L’il Miss had just been born …. And she’s in junior school now.

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Wed 27-Nov-24 22:11:35

That said, it’s nice to scroll down ‘memory lane’ and see the names of posters who used to be regulars. 👋