Deni, I, too, have a transgender child (biologically male). Well, she's 27 now, but from the very beginning, she insisted she was a girl. I never really felt the loss of a son, because she was adamant from as soon as she could talk that she wasn't a boy. Even before she could talk, she'd put a cloth on her head, and never take it off, and eventually when she could speak, she told me it was her long hair! She, too, went to the Portman Clinic at the Tavistock, and we also attended Mermaid meetings! When she was 17, I paid for her to have reassignment surgery, privately. She now looks and sounds exactly like a biological female. She is a beautiful, funny and wise young lady, and I couldn't be more proud of her!