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Agus haven't seen you for ages. How are you?

I'm afraid I might have disgraced myself in the Argy bargy last night. I have no idea what was in that poteen, I can't remember a thing ?

Hi Crafting and other Gnetters who may remember me. Just been busy with life and a few health issues for DH and I however, fingers crossed, onwards and upwards

Nice to 'see' you again. Hope you and DH on the mend ?

Thank you.

I am leaving a few bottles of ‘Irn Bru’ in the kitchen for those also suffering memory loss. A magical hangover cure, so I am lead to believe Slainte

A great match - well done Scotland I didn't think they'd be able to hang on to that first half lead, but they did!
Both of us had Scottish mothers.

My poteen is the stuff of legend. When it starts gently bubbling it's at its best but memory loss is a side effect Crafting, you will get used to it!

That was a VERY satisfying’s afternoon of rugby ? ???????

“Satisfying afternoon”

I've just popped in to see whether anyone has heard from Ann? Hope everything is OK!

Nice to see you Agus. Hope things are going well!

I'd also like to complain that I saw my ex son in law posting on fb - not good enough grans!!

I shall check in later but we're off to a mid-century fair - which is almost too much for DH'S constitution after clearing his wardrobe yesterday. I haven't told him that we might pop into Ikea as well.

What is a “mid century fair” please kittylester?
Mid 20th century vintage or something (roundabouts and dodgem cars!) for 50 year olds?

First option Maw. we I fancy a sunburst clock and some bright vases and we need pictures for the stairs. We were very silly not to keep the stuff we had first.

I know! It used to be my excuse for not decluttering, but of course it is precisely those things we did get rid of which seem to be in vogue again today.

Just had a call from the hospital SW.
She asked what help I needed and hopes to get it in place soon, we shall see.
I have asked for morning and evening and will review when we get settled.
It has been a really fraught week as my H absolutely hates it in there and I don't blame him.
He is the only one capable of any conversation at all in his 4 bed bay. One poor man just shouts all the time for help, it is so awful.
As soon as I arrive H asks if I have come to take him home, I have been so upset all week but ashamed to say I can't wait to leave as he has been so awkward with me.
His mobility is very poor he needs help even with a walking frame.
I am going to have to sacrifice my very beautiful large cream embroided rug as it is a hazard ? but needs must as they say.
A beautiful sunny day here but like everywhere very, very cold.

Reading your post Ann the first thing that popped into my head was that H is not fit to come home yet if he has difficulty using a frame and needs help. You are no longer 30 years of age and even with help am and pm you are not going to cope during the day.

It must be very cold here because Tara decided to stay indoors until 11.30am- totally unheard of.

No easy answers Annsixty not even difficult ones.
Falls in the house are a major hazard and walking frames can take some getting used to.
Is his the 2-wheeled sort?
Paw usd to have two - one for upstairs and one for downstairs and of course they were not for outdoor use so he also had a 4 wheeled walker, but never took to that as the wheels all had a mind of their own, so he preferred to struggle out to the car on his two sticks.
Physio should have Mr Sixty walking up and down the ward and corridor for extended periods each day, but of course they won’t
This is why I was perhaps less optimistic than some when I heard what sort of ward he had been admitted to, but thought it best to keep my (cynical ) views to myself. It was always possible that you had found a “good” geriatric ward, but looking at the incapacitated patients on Paws Gastro ward,during his first admission last summer, in our experience they got a heck of a lot more “doctoring” than in the geriatric ward where he was admitted in August.
Mr Sixty will also have to show that he can cope with a few stairs, even if you plan for him to live downstairs and you have presumably had grab rails, bannisters, raised front door mats, a shower chair etc delivered/fitted as well as the raised loo “throne”.
If you can get the care plan adjusted, I would be tempted to go for three times a day to give you a bit of a break while you make lunch (or just for a sit down!)
Timings can be incredibly frustrating. The number of times I had just settled Paw in bed and the doorbell would ring with the evening carer, was nobody’s business.
Looking back I do wonder how on Earth we kept positive but I suppose we both did the thing of dealing with what was immediately in front of us, leaving the other bridges to be crossed when we came to them
I just wish I had given him 500% more hugs and cuddles and cried together, instead of being strong and competent
But what’s done is done.

anno What a result! I almost fell from my chair when the final whistle blew. I also had a teary eye. Wow!

Crafting Bless! You did yourself right proud at the Argy Caff. Or so I've been told. That dear man from the retirement home (the one you accosted) has a very silly grin on his face. His blood pressure is recovering. He's been sedated.

Welcome back dear Agus. It's been a long time since you visited the kitchen. Please stay put and let us lot treat you to whatever you fancy. Don't listen to Crafting She's had her head messed with. She insisted on going to the Argy Caff's Friday night frolic and is still spaced-out.

Menopaws I've made a note of the recipe for your infamous poteen poteen. Does it cure "drop bot"? The pelvic floor exercises are not doing the job. I'm told it's because "I'm an elderly female who has given birth to hefty boy babies". Not recently.

kitty Sometimes a visit to Ikea is a cure for most ills. Us women have a liking for traipsing around and spying the very thing that we must have Men see things differently.

Ann My heart continues to go out to you and I too wish that I could do something to help you through this truly miserable time. Maw's eloquent post makes perfect sense.

Our granddaughter's first baby is due today. Baby will become our second great grandchild.

Thanks kitty. Things are going as getting older dictates, seems like one thing after another health wise but as we are all having to deal with whatever life throws at us now it’s a case of coping as best you can and making the most of each day.

I do have some brighter news for you though, DGD1 is old enough and astute enough to see through our idiot and actually told him recently to stop having a dig at mummy. Not at all what he expected and appears to be minding his p’s & q’s lately.

annsixty. My heart goes out to you, what a hellish situation for you and your DH. I’m not surprised you were relieved to be leaving please don’t be ashamed that you are human and can only take so much emotional battering, you are only human after all, not superhuman please be kind to yourself [hugs]

Maw I am heart sorry to learn about Paw I can only imagine what you are going through and that in itself feels unbearable. I’m sure Paw didn’t miss out on cuddles when that was what you both wanted but he would have appreciated having a strong competent wife who lovingly cared for him. [hugs]

A lovely, supportive post, Agus

My first thought Ann is how sad I feel for you! And how much I and all of us would love to help you. Could you cream rug be moved to your bedroom?

However bad you feel for your DH being in hospital, don't be persuaded to cope without a robust care package in place. And, if you are having to pay for your carers after the initial 'home from hospital' time, then hunt for a private company - they tend to fit in with you rather than the other way round. They are more expensive but you might be entitled to extra benefits that may help, eg the Council Tax one! Are you getting both levels of AA. The Alzheimer's Society should be able to let you have the names of private care agencies.

Maw, we know you loved Paw so I am flipping sure he did and knew you were being competent (were you ever not?) for him.

I'm sorry you are both suffering healthwise but really pleased to hear about you DGD - you won't need the leg of lamb at the moment then?

Keep us up to date with baby news soop. Our 'new' baby is making his/her Mummy very sick even waking her up in the night.

Our trip was fairly successful. One large German vase thingy bought and a small lamp and a mirror for the kitchen which is exactly the same as one we had donkey'y years ago. The shocking thing we saw was a wicker table my mum bought for us, which we thought was hideous and kindly allowed DS1 to take off to Uni. It has never reappeared but is now worth £200.

Afternoon all !!

Its been all go here . In an online debate about speeding in the village I found myself volunteering for speed patrol . You get a Gatso gun and everything. Grampy was napping during the crucial moment of volunteering and is more than a little grumpy Grampy now I've told him!!! As I told him - sometimes you just have to get involved !!

That'll teach him not to nap.

So sorry to hear of your struggles ann , I can offer no advice but can only send a hug !!

I must dash - Grampy is cooking and seems oblivious to the smoke alarm !!