Soop's comfortable and convivial kitchen.

ann it was not exactly a medical emergency starting your H on antibiotics early am for a UTI and informing you at 7 am. I think you are going to have to have words with them. It is nice to be informed but to apply some common sense.

I am afraid I do not have much faith in the urgent care centre or 111. When my DH had Legionnaires disease they examined him and told him he had a bad dose of flu. They did not even diagnose pneumonia.

I will try and get him to the surgery. It is difficult because I cannot gauge his pain as his pain threshold is so much lower than mine and while I would get up and struggle on he seems to be unable to do that. Maybe it is a man thing.

Mamissimo I have pm’d you.
Dagonfly if your DH is in such pain will he need physical support getting in and out of the car and surgery?

You have done the right thing Mamissimo...my backing and am sure most other gransnetters.....

I have pm'd panache and I am happy to advise in any way that feels right for her. I hope she will reply when she is able.

I am off to the panto with GD this afternoon and I am looking forward to that.

Good wishes to all.

Maw I am not sure how much support he will need. We do have sticks and a wheelchair if necessary which I used for my parents. We also have a four wheel trolley.
He managed to get down stairs today albeit slowly.

What a wonderful place the kitchen is. It is lovely to see how caring you all are. I do hope Mamissimo’s efforts gets the Panaches the help they need. Good luck with the doctors for your DH, Dragonfly.

My dear GN friends your real insight and genuine caring has really touched me this day and I am writing in tears.
I hear all too well what most of you are saying and yes I am independant and like to stand up for us both ................however although we are surviving,I know I have been far too quiet and do not like asking for help.
Further than that I have to consider my dear man whom is VERY private and does not like strangers or such like.
So far I have walked a middle line so as to protect him from further stress.
This is the last thing he needs.
The biggest problem being he was probably unable to give a proper picture of our dilemna in the Hospital because of his lack of speech, then he was discharged before seeing a Doctor and sent home via Hospital car,so I had no conversation with anyone....................let alone a Social Worker.
We are coping and I think,hand on heart he is showing signs of improving...................our biggest problem is coping in the future............everything seems on stop here in Wales and we still have not heard from the SS.
We need sorted that we can live comfortably in the years ahead and this future looks particularly bleak at the moment.
I feel sure the dear ones that have well and truly offered help will now help us there..............there are several of you and so I mention no names but your kindness and genorosity truly moves me so very much.
I appreciate your caring and thinking of us but please at the moment I beg you just take my word that we are managing........FOR NOW.......even making a meal together.

dragonfly, we have found 111 to be really good. They were brilliant with Dh's eye. Leggionaires is maybe a bit specific? I'd offer to come and help but we are off to LGH at the crack of dawn.

massimimo. Thank you for taking charge - I'd have done it with or without permission after our visitors have gone. I think I have enough to go on.

Please keep us posted. Back later for an update!

Glad to see you panache. Thank you for updating us. Take care.

How lovely to hear from you!
You sound very brave and upbeat Panache but how can any patient be discharged without a discharge letter which must be actioned and signed by a doctor?
Independence is one thing and a wonderful thing, but common sense must also prevail. Accepting help does not necessarily mean a invasion by social services, but your DH needs and is entitled to input from physio therapy and occupational therapy for his well-being and safety.
Then there is your own well-being.
Take care, keep safe x

Bravo, and WELCOME Mamissimo in abundance.

I'm about to play the daily game of "catch up"...bear with me, I shall return in due course.

Selling your house is stressful at the best of times Panache. Please consider letting an Estate Agent take the strain.

Please also consider selling to the retirement home company in a part exchange.
A neighbour did this with Mcarthy and Stone and it went through very quickly.
Her husband died suddenly and they had no family so was not concerned about taking less than market price but it wasn't a huge amount less. They wanted a sale after all.

Sending love and hugs Panache and MrP. Will hold you in my thoughts ?

ann Bless you and your dear husband. I'm reading through your latest post and shaking my head in disbelief. Common sense appears to be in short supply. Yes, you should be informed of any change in your husband's condition. But, at least wait until a sensible hour in which to inform you of an issue that you are familiar with. I feel like rolling on the floor and throwing an almighty strop (the sort of thing a two year old can do with aplomb.)

dragonfly Please ask for a home visit when you contact the GP. I'm sure that the doctor will take your circumstances into account. Speak up. Tell him how it is...and us lot would very much appreciate an update in due course.

Hello again, Marydoll...when is the delivery due? Stay well.

Greyduster You've had a classic frustration dream. Like trying to run against a hurricane-force wind and the likes. It's that time of year. Stressful in part but everything falls into place eventually.

corner Anything of an "electrical nature" deserves respect. If in doubt, do nowt. Or am I over reacting? Are you about to replace one of the Christmas tree lights?

Having read P’s long post I am going to change tack......I have stood down the full referral because I respect Mr and Mrs P’s total desire to be together.....BUT I am going to speak to Adult SS in their area to express concern that they seem to be falling through the net at great speed. This will leave the option to move at speed if the situation deteriorates further.

I have asked GN to provide a safeguarding policy/statement on the site for if we ever need help. Just seems sensible to me.

So very good to hear from you Panache...been so so worried...know you are fiercely independent but hope that you do get help that you are entitled to..glad you are both able to prepare a meal together...x

It's good to have your company, Nandalot, farview, Luckygirl and Pittcity.

Thank you soop ..it's a privilege to come into a warm kitchen filled with love and care ?

farview Thank you. It seems a lifetime ago when I thought to myself...I wish to open a forum that doesn't encourage the type of "argy bargy"that I wish to have no part in. So far, so good. By the way, the Argy Bargy Cafe is well worth a visit. The folk are good and kind and funny with it. The drinks are suspect. So, beware if you call in for a packet of pork scratchin's and a snifter of home-made wine. You've been warned.

Sorry, meant to extend a warm welcome to eazybee. The catch-up game always takes me a surprisingly long time to complete.

N&G Take very good care of each other.

Maw (((hugs))) from me to you.

Relieved to hear from you panache, my love to you both. I totally understand the desire for independence but sometimes outside help is needed to accomplish it and for life to be as good as it can be.

Sounds a good plan mamissimo, thank you for caring.

It seems I was required to hold one end of a long cable, help manoeuvre it through a gap and hold on again while Mr C dealt with the other end. I was assured he wasn’t plugging it into the mains . In any case it seems the issue, whatever it was, is resolved and all is well in Mr C’s world. That’s good then .

Little happening here today. Mr C is now engaged with a jigsaw puzzle, I have a book to read and will not open a box of chocolates. Well, maybe later

Keep safe everyone.

corner Our chocs are being enjoyed by someone other than we two. I wish that I had just a couple for this afternoon. Hey ho!
I'm pleased to hear that you have come to no harm. Electrical stuff can be tricky. Relax and enjoy a few chocolates with me in mind.