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Lessismore Sun 25-Aug-19 16:41:14

I can't quite articulate this but does anybody else feel things have shifted....changed a great deal in a very short period of time?
Things I thought were constant are no longer there and we live in a strange transitory zone. Messages come and go, friends the same....I have lost any sense of what is steady.

merlotgran Sun 25-Aug-19 16:58:29

I thought this was going to be a thread about the countryside. confused

Not sure what you mean, Lessismore but somebody will soon come on and blame Br**it. grin

merlotgran Sun 25-Aug-19 16:59:48

I sort of do know what you mean though come to think of it.

Gaunt47 Sun 25-Aug-19 17:01:06

What a rum question Lessismore - do you mean mental landscape, physical or political landscape? I hope not the latter, because this will turn into yet another Brexit thread! Before it does, can I just point out that nothing, absolutely nothing, is going to happen regarding Brexit for a long time. This is because the 3 professions in charge of 'negotiations' - politicians, lawyers and bureaucrats - are not used to making decisions. They are far happier forming committees, issuing statements, having meetings.
But I do sympathise with your uncertainty. However look at a tree, listen to the birds, sit in a quiet space like a church. Those things are actually always in flux though we regard them as permanent. Metaphysics has never been my strong point!

Lessismore Sun 25-Aug-19 17:03:44

Sorry folks, I don't know what I mean really. I grew up in a small town, with small town thoughts. We went to Church, Angel Delight was a great treat..I thought, I wondered, I read. Now I find the whole landscape has changed....i'm sorry I can't think of a better word to describe it.

MissAdventure Sun 25-Aug-19 17:04:12

Yes, I think I know what you mean, because I think I feel the same.
Somehow removed..

Lessismore Sun 25-Aug-19 17:04:35

please no more Brexit, although it feels like something demolished.

EllanVannin Sun 25-Aug-19 17:05:35

It's the speed that everything is going at, people included.
We've forged ahead so much I feel at times as though I'm meeting myself coming back. Time waits for no man but the way life is lived now is bordering on the crazy.

I enjoy just being on my own gathering my senses and concentrating on the present without, hopefully, any interruptions. My only way of not losing track of everything and everyone around me.

It's getting the balance right. I don't now intend doing anything at break-neck speed------I can't anyway.

merlotgran Sun 25-Aug-19 17:14:54

I still have hopes and plans but I'm more wary of believing in them now.

MissAdventure Sun 25-Aug-19 17:18:43

I feel as if my own personal landscape has changed beyond all recognition in the last few years.
It's very disconcerting.

Cherrytree59 Sun 25-Aug-19 17:18:50

Lessiemore I understand things are changing not necessarily for the bad.

Time doesn't stand still and neither does Man.

Look back and think of all the things that have come and gone in your life time.

Technology has moved at such a fast pace and I feel I'm almost at a gallop to keep up.

For me personally I feel
"The sands" will shift when our Queen dies.

Like many I have only lived under one monarch.👸

dragonfly46 Sun 25-Aug-19 17:21:28

I think every generation feels the same as they get older. The older you get the less you are in touch with what is going on around. My father was born too early. He would have loved computers and all technology but he just missed it and he used to say the same about things changing.

Lessismore Sun 25-Aug-19 17:47:32

I agree dragonfly that every generation maybe feels that sense of displacement,the world I grew up in , is scarcely recognisable any more.

I know I am sounding like an oldie, but all the familiar is going to be replaced by chaos.

WOODMOUSE49 Sun 25-Aug-19 18:15:28

I'm 69

I suppose if we could step back in time (industrial revolution perhaps) the same conversations would be had.

Technology has speeded so much up around us. Our work, play and how we socialise. Changes happen all the time.

Change doesn't bothered me. In fact. I regard changes as a challenge, which I thrive on. I definitely don't feel displaced.

Fennel Sun 25-Aug-19 18:22:27

I can see your point, Lessismore.
I watched Escape to the Country about Derbyshire this pm and wished we could go there for our last years. But it's too late.
How can we escape from the rat race?

Calendargirl Sun 25-Aug-19 18:39:30

I think life years ago (when you and I were young Maggie as Terry Wogan would have said) was just so much simpler. DH and I were only saying yesterday that when we were courting 1970 onwards, life was just work, going out with each other, and no real worries or stress. Took little interest in the news or current affairs, just enjoyed life and each other. 🥰

Lessismore Sun 25-Aug-19 18:52:08

The hand of the state, the Church, the monarchy weighed heavy.

I understand that those living in the time when the trains arrived or the spinning jenny appeared possibly felt worried.

I don't believe there has been anything akin to everybody carrying a small computer about and the breakdown of almost all familiar landmarks ( that word again)

Glammy57 Sun 25-Aug-19 18:53:49

I feel it too.

I was walking along a road, with a vast crowd. Some were friends, others strangers. It had been an arduous journey but I felt safe. On reaching a crossroads, we had to decide whether to turn left or right - the route ahead was divided and chaotic.

We made a choice - some taking the left road, about an equal amount bearing the opposite way. I looked in one direction, it sloped down to the right. The landscape was pale, barren and a little slippy. In the distance stood a bright, plastic light.

I hurried to catch up with my fellow travellers. The path looked a bit rocky in places but the scenery was multi-coloured and lit by a starry sky!

BlueBelle Sun 25-Aug-19 19:02:56

I’m not really sure what you mean Lessie as things are constantly changing, nothing stays the same does it?
we still have angel delight sometimes though
I had a fairly quiet, a bit lonely childhood, exciting teen years, turbulent middle and now a bit lonely (sometimes) quieter end, gone full circle but I don’t really feel any is not right for where I am in the circle, if that makes sense.
I m feeling time goes faster though I no sooner get up than it’s time to go to bed

GillT57 Sun 25-Aug-19 19:05:36

I too have been feeling 'derailed' if that is the right term. Without going into too much identifying details, a relative was not what I thought he was and ruined a special event, an event which will not be repeated, and a sibling lost his rag with me and said some terrible things which cannot be forgotten. This year has been a terrible one, all the basis on which I thought my life was based, the bedrock of family, has apparently been a lie. I am thankful for my DH and my adult children and my friends, but face 'polite' interaction only with my sibling and his partner, all closeness has gone, evidently it was all pretence. I know we don't wish to bring politics into it, but I listen to politicians telling lies, watch Trump strutting about the world stage pretending to be a grown up and I feel as if the world is spinning on its axis.

Mossfarr Sun 25-Aug-19 19:23:56

I don't feel this way but my husband definitely does.

He constantly refers to the past, for example, when we take a bus ride he constantly says things like "oh there used to be a car showroom there" or "that used to be a great pub" or his favourite - "I can't believe how much this area has changed".

It drives me absolutely insane, not only repeating the same old lament, but I keep telling him that change has always been constant, its not something that has suddenly started happening.
When we decide to go away on holiday he always tries to get me to go to places that we went when we were much younger. The last thing I want to do is revisit places we went when the children were young and we had very little money! He just can't seem to find any enthusiasm for visiting new and (to me) exciting places.

I am a very positive, forward thinking person, I just don't understand why people hark back to the past all the time. The future is so exciting.

Lessismore Sun 25-Aug-19 19:24:29

Yes Gill, maybe thats it...a combination of the personal, some betrayal and the wider world.

*The odds is gone
And there is nothing left remarkable
Beneath the visiting moon*

CaroDane Sun 25-Aug-19 19:25:28

Lessismore I understand exactly what you mean.

A lot of the familiar landmarks in life we grew up with have gone, never to return.

Social attitudes, technology, community, security in relation to health, family, housing and jobs have all changed.

We just need to negotiate now by a new map. Not better or worse, just different.

GillT57 Sun 25-Aug-19 19:30:08

No Mossfarr I am not harking back to a golden past, in fact I get irritated when people do so! This has nothing to do with 'ooh, I remember when this was all fields' it is a feeling that my emotional life is out of kilter, that parts of my life have been a lie and not as I thought they were at the time. I do look forward, and I have lots of plans, lots of places to go to and visit, we are fortunate to be able to afford and have the health to travel, it is hard to describe how I feel.

Lessismore Sun 25-Aug-19 19:33:42

no sorry, it's not a harking back, that is futile, its a sense a feeling a long forgotten smell, morality/decency a sense of right and wrong...