Is being quiet and sensitive a good thing?

Remember what peace there is in silence. I should imagine that you have a calming effect on those around you x

Ineedamum .When younger,especially as a young child,I was very quiet and sensitive .I have gradually become more assertive with age and life’s knocks. I am still sensitive ,but will now speak up about things which bother me. I still believe that it is much nicer to be quiet and sensitive ,than to be over confident and probably not very pleasant to others at times. I guess your friends and workmates would much prefer you to such a person.Try not to let any of them bully you ,thinking they can get away with it because you may not challenge them about it.

I'm glad I'm not the only one!

Someone once said that because I'm sensitive - I have a 'heart' and am 'human'. I try to remember that but it's not easy!

Be yourself.

Ineedamum

I don’t wish to sound rude, but could it be that you’re reading too much into situations.

My daughter always thinks people at work are talking about her, they probably aren’t, but so what if they are?

She always thinks we, her family, are arranging things behind her back, and excluding her, we certainly aren’t!

Maybe just possibly, things aren’t as bad as you think.

You say you have been told you are quiet and sensitive. What do you think yourself? You say you kept bringing up the fact you were being bullied, so you haven’t been that quiet. You seem to be wondering if it is a criticism, because you ask if it is a bad thing. If others say someone is sensitive it can be a criticism. It can imply over sensitive. This can be used as a way of denying that someone is being hurt or bullied. You will have to decide what to think yourself. But bullying often involves gaslighting which makes people doubt their own judgement and believe they are at fault and deserve the abuse they are getting. Being bullied and ostracised is horrible. I am so sorry this has happened to you. Unfortunately it is a very common human behaviour and most people encounter it at some point. You seem to have dealt well with it. The manager didn’t do their job properly. No-one should be told they are toxic. It sounds as if you may have been made a scape goat. This comes about because of insecurities of others. It is the social relationships in your work place that have been toxic. Hopefully your new work place won’t have that dynamic. Good luck.