Getting anti social

Sadly, I feel my social life has all but disappeared. I don't really mind, as hubby and I are happy with our own company (and our two cats). It's definitely an effort to go out these days. I had to "jolly" my husband into going to a Garden Centre today for Lunch - it's his 71st birthday! He does struggle with poor health, and has a back injury, making it painful to drive. We live in a very small village (two streets, no bus service, no shop/pub/Church etc) and as I am partially sighted, I struggle to get out on my own (I have Arthritis in most of my joints, as does hubby). We do find that "people" get on our nerves a bit, these days, though I feel that we should make more effort!

My social life has diminished over the last ten years I divorced and no longer enjoy going out with the couples we knew together .I work full-time and just can't be bothered to make the effort at weekends I do occasionally go to the the theatre with work colleagues but I find this expensive and can only do this a few times a year however I must admit I enjoy my own company maybe a bit too much and therefore don't make an effort to go out and socialise

On my birthday last week [68th], DH and I used our bus passes to go out at lunchtime to our local centre. We did some wine tasting at our favourite wine bar and had a lovely lunch at a bistro. It was very relaxed and preferable to going out in the evening when I'd have felt I had to get "dressed up". I did go out one evening to a friend's 50th birthday and had a lovely time but still would prefer now to do social things during the day.

I’m 64 and still working, 4 days a week. I don’t like going out at night anymore, but enjoy meeting up with friends on my day off, for lunch and a chat. In my younger days I was always out, but now feel that been there done that, so don’t need to do it anymore.

I'm 72, and friends and acquaintances, like myself, say they rarely have people in their homes these days.

I have always been rather quiet, and don’t have many close friends. I don’t entertain formally at home, but enjoy people popping in (by arrangement) for coffee and a chat. I certainly haven’t noticed that I have become any more anti-social than usual.
At the age of 80 I am still involved in plenty of activities. U3A, two choirs etc, but enjoy having time to myself. I am never lonely.
The last few months have been rather too busy for me. I am in Australia, visiting family and friends and attending my daughter’s wedding. Sleeping in different beds in different houses. Lots of eating out and travelling around.
I can’t wait to get home and relax into my normal routine, though I will miss everyone.
However, I will be back here again in May, when my son and DIL welcome their first baby. That will definitely not be a relaxing time!

Mealybug Mon 13-Jan-20 12:43:13
I couldn't give a gypsies curse at the moment.
I'll perk up when the sun starts shining again.
I hope!

I think my evening events have fallen off considerably but the DH and I get out and about a lot in the daytime still.

He likes to be entertained with a non stop social programme which he does nothing to organise and where he, even, as a host, acts as if he is a guest. I have stopped accommodating this quite so often but when he complained recently about seeing others less frequently I was able to direct him to the calendar where, last year, there was a major event every month and many smaller get-togethers in between.

When I retired I found very quickly that loneliness is a curse but some solitude is a blessing.

Lilyflower I would tell him that if he wants to entertain he can blooming well organise it himself! Men!

Yes, I do notice that I’m less inclined to socialise, except with very close friends/family. I’m very busy on and off with Gdcs so that is an additional reason - I really need my chill time in between.
But I no longer feel bad for saying no to things I just don’t want to do, or know I won’t enjoy, whereas when younger I’d have gone because I felt I ought to, or ought to want to.
Not that it happens very often, but def. one of the advantages of getting older!

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With my ill health the last year we have certainly found out that people who we thought were good friends aren't and have virtually disappeared. So now my DH and I are enjoying being by ourselves and enjoying the quiet life. It has certainly made a positive difference to our bank account though.

Yep, me and husband are also becoming more unsociable now, 65 and 66. Can't be arsed to be honest. Also, we moved from London to Exeter 8 years ago and whilst we have friends down here, they are not old friends if you know what I mean. Also, whenever we had friends round, I used to clean the house until every surface and corner gleamed. Whilst our house is clean, it no longer gleams if you know what I mean? Just don't have the energy now.........

I'd need about a week to get anywhere near 'gleaming' these days. In the distant past I could hoover a large house and clean all the windows in a day!

I prefer to go out to group lunches/chats/picnics/walks (or whatever) as I have the option of leaving early without letting anyone down.

Sometimes I'm in pain with my back and I really just want to get home and lie down!

Cid24: We're both 72 and have quite different interests, apart from music and certain films. I really don't like going out in the evening during Winter months , but I love being outdoors in the Spring & Summer, or at any time if it's not pouring with rain! I don't think I'm anti social, as I love to cook and entertain my family & close friends, but am very selective these days.

I’m only 50 but DH and I both work f/t and by the time we’ve got home, cooked dinner, ferried the 12 year old to wherever he’s going and caught up with household chores we cannot be bothered to socialise. Weekends are a bit better but not by much - it’s just a huge effort on top of everything else.

We used to do lots years ago, dinner parties, drinks parties etc.which has all gone by the board now ( which is fine).
We mainly meet friends for lunches rather than evenings, but we do have friends to stay for 3-4 days at a time, and all enjoy it still.Our friends are all far flung so we need to either stay with them or they with us ( we vary it.)

Same here lemongrove, our close friends, with one exception, are too far away for a day visit so they come and stay or we go to them. Otherwise we socialise with neighbours in a very low key way, volunteer a bit, are roped in to help with childcare, spend time with family when they have space and enjoy local outings. All very mundane and usually day time but it suits us. I love to garden, Mr C does the labouring under protest, he’d rather read. Not much chance of anything gleaming here. It no longer feels as if we ‘have’ to do things, we choose to do them instead.