I don't know what to do...

Everyone is allowed to cry x

You are doing a wonderful job Daffydilly I pray you stay well for your own sake & for your family too.

There's a big chunk of us that are At risk of catching it with dire consequences. Just remember that they are all working hard to.find a vaccine. Ring your Dad a couple of times a day. He would enjoy that and he won't Be quite as isolated. You can get frozen meals delivered to.the door for either of you so bear that in mind. We are all apprehensive so you are not alone. Try.to take every precaution but just think.day by day. Do.things that engage your mind so.you aren't thinking about it.

Draw up.a friend list.That you can call to have a chat. Preferably people who.make you happy. This won't be forever

Amazing that you are so caring and your siblings just don’t bother.

I have a lump in my throat reading all these posts. It’s not wimpy to feel upset and frightened.

Daffydilly, I hope you can manage to make arrangements for your work, keeping distance etc as other posters have said, and as others have said thanks for keeping on under such strain.

Like most posters I have worries to about family, DS has MS and is police officer. He’s been told by his line manger to go home, but is determined to keep working. He is in CID, so is in a position to work office based. It’s his choice, just praying it is the right one.

DiL is a nurse, so they’re both at risk (but who can say who isn’t?). I have been asked to self isolate because of a health condition that has never really bothered me. I have to share care for my 91 yr old Dad, so I feel backed into a corner. I will still have to carry on with that, but I’m sure he wouldn’t survive the virus.

We usually see dgds every weekend, but that will come to an end too.

to all goers who are stressed, frightened and upset.
It will end, and we will get through it. It’s come as a shock to us all. Perhaps it’s just a case of getting resigned to it, and keep going as best we can. Sorry if I’m just reiterating everyone else’s thoughts.

Sorry, typo, meant gransnetters, not goers. Enthusiastic predictive text.

Daffydilly, I feel for you and thank you for continuing to work at the pharmacy so that people like me can continue to get essential medicines. It is horrible to read that pharmacists and other health workers are being verbally abused or physically attacked as angry people take out their frustrations at being unable to get certain things. Shops having to employ security or bring in the police (it'll be the army next). The world is going a bit mad and we can each only do our best to make the decisions that are right for us, our loved ones and the wider society. I had need to speak to my pharmacist a couple of days ago and she was being run ragged yet still brilliant with advice, reassurance and knowledge - I am grateful and appreciate her and people like you still caring and being professional when you have your own families to think of too - a nightmare. Please just keep yourself as safe as possible and give serious thought as to how to maintain some sort of contact with your dad even if it is different.

I fall into high risk categories and my better half is terrified of infecting me so we've had verbal contact only for over a week - likely to continue this way for the foreseeable. He has even prepped to move into his shed if he has to! His business partner lives with parents who are both highly vulnerable so we've all been discussing possibilities of how we would manage if the 3 of us end up here - a room each and lots of sterilising/wiping/bleaching/hand washing/laundry.

Guess the overriding message is to just do the best you can and hope that others do too. Stay as safe and positive as you can everyone - it's likely to take a while before life is 'normal' again.

Oh daffydilly I feel for you so much. I’ve lost both my adored mum and dad so I totally understand the loss of your dear mum and the love you are desperate to physically share with your dad. I feel for you too with the lack of support and visits since your mum passed away from your siblings. Try to keep well and safe yourself (sooo hard with your job I appreciate) and eat well and keep an exercise routine going- the stronger you are the better for YOU and the better to keep your dad in good health too. Look forward to better times to come - they will - they have to - look forward to the blissful huge hug with your dad. Love. Love always. ❤️❤️

So sorry to hear about your worry and pain.

This article may be of help dealing with the emotions this ordeal brings out. I am rather stoic, but I had a cry thinking about how the whole world has changed, and wondering if it ever will seem normal again.

[https://hbr.org/2020/03/that-discomfort-youre-feeling-is-grief?utm_source=pocket-newtab&fbclid=IwAR2233Khqju0VmQDPy5OYap-yphPM6FLCJ0DVXW0CHSzaTckHoi56-upn3A That discomfort you're feeling is grief]

I tried to hyperlink the article, but failed. Hopefully this works. That discomfort you're feeling is grief. See:

hbr.org/2020/03/that-discomfort-youre-feeling-is-grief?utm_source=pocket-newtab&fbclid=IwAR2233Khqju0VmQDPy5OYap-yphPM6FLCJ0DVXW0CHSzaTckHoi56-upn3A

Daffydilly,I hope you know you are much loved and appreciated.

I am 88 and have been aware for some years now "this may be the last time". It is sad, but it's better to face facts than not.