CardiffJaguar It sounds as though Robert died suddenly. That is so traumatic. Our eldest son, of two, had PMLD plus complex health issues. He lived with us and life worked around him. He went to respite one Thursday night after school, doc checked him in as per usual. He died in his sleep shortly before getting up time. SUDEP. There was a massive space in our house and lives from then on, very intense. All the usual markers in our days gone, up early bath prep for school bus, home ready for arrival back, meals, etc it was shortly before Christmas, formalities sorted just in time, funeral in early Jan. Christmas was no fun but an amazing shut down for us to 'just be' and rest. Our families are in Ireland so we quietly cocooned.
Look after yourselves. Try and eat well.
It's an unreal time and I'm so sorry ???