Uncalled for comments

pollyperkins

Yes. Just say I disagree. I think you are wrong. My view is ...
Not a problem.

But (as far as I can see) this is what people do.

I haven't seen anyone being 'called names', as was suggested upthread. A few people have said very tame things on this thread in support of the OP, and followed with 'now I will be savaged' or similar. They haven't been, and I genuinely have no idea what they thought would happen.

Having said that, I have been on other forums where I have seen this happen and others insist that they don't see it, and that can be very frustrating, so I do accept that just because I haven't seen it doesn't mean that it's not happening.

I see far more by way of passive aggressive posts on here than anything I would remotely describe as bullying, though.

On a thread last year or the year before, when I disagreed with someone's post, I was told to "clear off and don't come back. You won't be missed."

Was that necessary?

Sparklefizz

On a thread last year or the year before, when I disagreed with someone's post, I was told to "clear off and don't come back. You won't be missed."

Was that necessary?

No! I wasn't around then - did anyone step in and support you?

Not on the thread but I had several lovely supportive PMs. I was under a lot of stress at the time and it really upset me. I gave GN a break for a while.

I seriously have never seen anyone “called names” unless you mean on political threads for example where sometimes those not pro government are called loony lefties ? Is that what you mean ? I’ve never seen anybody told to “clear off”.

What I do find a but annoying is when a few people disagree with the OP and then OP takes umbrage and leaves the thread. A bit pointless surely?

Why should somebody be 'having a bad day' just because they disagree with another opinion or the tone of a thread and even if they are, why should they feel they have to explain themselves?

Yes there is varian as pollyperkins has pointed out.

Lucca I’ve never seen anybody told to “clear off”.

Just because you personally haven't seen things, doesn't mean that they didn't happen.

Lucca can I reassure you that I haven’t taken umbrage and left the thread. I’m still following and reading the comments ?

Sarahmob

Lucca can I reassure you that I haven’t taken umbrage and left the thread. I’m still following and reading the comments ?

Of course you are. Otherwise it would be a waste of a can of worms.

Oh dear - another thread exhorting us to be nice to each other which has had exactly the opposite effect.
Twas ever thus.

I just wonder what the difference is between posters who "stand up" for each other, on the post and by pm and those who are accused of "ganging together" to disagree with a poster.

I guess if you're in the group that agrees and you are nice and if you're in the group that disagrees youre nasty ?

Oh dear, it seems like I can’t do right for doing wrong - ??‍♀️

Sarabob,It puts me me off posting sometimes, why do people have to be so judgemental as if they are perfect, it is upsetting. I think it better every time that I would rather be kind than right. I think if you were a bit down and were judged harshly it could make you quite depressed.

merlotgran

There are lots of nasty, bullying posts on here.

Would you care to point them out?

No Merlotgran, I wouldn’t care to; I have far better things to do but feel free to do yourself.

The posts are clearly of little importance then.

Oh that was snide, ticking bird.

Or as Suziewoizie would say, passive aggressive.

Hmm. Am I standing up for merlotgran or are we ganging together.

I wonder why you asked me to point them out then if they’re of no importance to you?

Passive aggressive - moi? I think anyone on here familiar with me knows I don’t do snide or passive. I say it as I see it. I don’t give a fig for being a forum darling but I detest bullies and call them out wherever I come across them.

tickingbird

I wonder why you asked me to point them out then if they’re of no importance to you?

Try reading my reply again, tickingbird.

janeainsworth

That’s another good one Furret, but I don’t think the two quotes are necessarily in opposition.

If you wanted, or needed, to oppose evil, it might be counter-productive to open your mouth and say something that was groundless or stupid.

True. Fools often rush in. But on the other hand you should not feel you cannot speak out simply for fear of sounding foolish.

If you are calling me out as a bully, tickingbird you are clearly on the wrong track.

merlotgran

Sarahmob

Lucca can I reassure you that I haven’t taken umbrage and left the thread. I’m still following and reading the comments ?

Of course you are. Otherwise it would be a waste of a can of worms.

How unkind,

Aren't you the one doing the nasty bullying tickingbird. You've obviously got a down on merlotgran.

You've had several goes at her.

Sparklefizz

Lucca I’ve never seen anybody told to “clear off”.

Just because you personally haven't seen things, doesn't mean that they didn't happen.

I didn’t say that it didn’t happen. I said I hadn’t seen it.