Sending a Hug to the Keyboard Warriors

I agree with Alegrias and others.

The only way to deal with unpleasantness is to ignore it. Protesting that unkind posts may affect other posters' wellbeing just proves that the arrows have hit their mark.

Starting a thread urging people to be kinder just fuels the fire and most of those threads end up being deleted so I often wonder if the aim is just to stir the pot?

I am often amazed at how many posters are drawn to certain threads like a moth to a flame even though they know it's going to upset them.

Just Walk On By!

Apologies, got the two posters names the wrong way round.

Love that song, Walk On By. It was already in my head when I read Merlots post. Very good advice. People hate being ignored.

There is nastiness on Gransnet, that’s for sure, but there is also kindness and compassion. I have absolutely no problem with disagreement, but I do have a problem if posters are sanctimonious. Unfortunately a few are just that. I know there have been a fair few threads on this question recently, so maybe it is getting worse. For example, being told by another poster that you don’t understand when you understand very well, but happen to take a different view, how sanctimonious is that?
However, I’ve seen numerous threads where posters have been offered kindness and compassion, so it’s certainly not all bad.

“ I am often amazed at how many posters are drawn to certain threads like a moth to a flame even though they know it's going to upset them.”

Hmmm.

What a thoroughly nasty snide sanctimonious patronising passive aggressive gfery of a thread. I take it you are all
approving of the terribly naice pile on on another thread? Or as I well suspect, are some pile one acceptable depending on the poster being piled upon?

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gfery ?

Well yes it does depend on the poster! There woudnt be anything to say if said poster hadn't been rather short and cruel to someone trying to be helpful would there?

Clear as mud suziewoozie

GrannyGravy13

gfery ?

It’s a less polite way of saying the thread could be seen as deliberately stirring up negativity or in another less polite way s**t stirring.

I thought it was a typo suzie.

Chewbacca

Do you feel that any of the comments could be alluding to you Suziewoozie?

QED my post about starting this thread. Let’s all wonder who is being referred to, let’s make nasty little responses and innuendos, just lets. What a sweet nice helpful,thread this is aimed at making us all feel better and brightening our days. Well done OP have a ?and ?

?? Here we go ......again...

If any of us had any sense we’d leave this thread to sink into its own .......

Poppyred

?? Here we go ......again...

Well exactly - that’s why the thread was started.

Notinthemanual

I found your opening posts one of the most patronising and snide posts I’ve read in a long time.

Talk about the pot calling the kettle black.

Those of us who have not been intentionally unkind, harsh or unthinking, will not be unduly bothered by this thread, or in discussing the subject matter. Those who are uncomfortable with it might take a moment to reflect.

Chewbacca you have it in a nutshell.

I think some people find it very difficult to recognise when they are being unkind, I would much prefer a direct arguement than this kind of undercover meanness.

Ahh but they won’t Chewbacca ...too busy feeling outraged by the OP daring to post such a thread.

Before the thread gets deleted can I point out something VERY interesting I’ve observed here
It has united those normally on opposite sides of the political spectrum!! In finding the premise a little patronising etc

Spot on Chewbacca

Chewbacca. Entirely agree

As a floating voter I do object to being categorised politically based on my opinion on this thread,