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Sending a Hug to the Keyboard Warriors

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Notinthemanual Sat 14-Nov-20 08:20:26

That was quite a week for unpleasantness. I’ve wondered why some Grans are that way. Do they feel unheard IRL and vent their frustration here?

I saw an anecdote elsewhere recently… A mother had told her young son off for being cruel to his school friends. The child replied “They are dumb, and they need to know that.” I’ve known some really smart, self-reliant, resilient, well-dressed adults who never needed to make sure everyone knew that are others were less so. They had healthy self-esteem, compassion and were wise enough to know that not everyone’s reality is the same.

There are ways to disagree without being disagreeable. There is a preview box. And of course, the guideline to not say something that you wouldn’t say face to face. Perhaps those Grans are as forthright with people they barely know IRL. Perhaps that is why they are here.

I don’t take the good advice to just skip past their posts – I think I have some fascination with the horrible. But I have come to a new conclusion. IMO those Grans need a hug. I’m sending love and smiling; imagining them indignantly trying to bat it away with a fly swatter; my good wishes drifting through the mesh and settling on them.

It also occurred to me that they might just need to up their fluid and vegetable intake.

Thankfully, those Grans are a tiny minority. The rest of you lovely people brighten my day with your kindness, wisdom and good humour.

Callistemon Sat 14-Nov-20 20:57:45

Bungle:
usually complains a lot about the other characters

And Zippy
Say no more
?

phoenix Sat 14-Nov-20 21:10:45

Oh dear, it's all going wrong again.

Now, who needs an alker seltzer?

LauraNorder Sat 14-Nov-20 21:14:59

Is that the only fizzy drink on offer phoenix?

lemsip Sat 14-Nov-20 21:15:07

an op has been 'jumped on' and run to 6 pages in one day. becoming a bore!

not much else going on with other threads!

Grannybags Sat 14-Nov-20 21:22:27

These threads are always so much more interesting than others lemsip!

LauraNorder Sat 14-Nov-20 21:48:08

I think one or two of us having been trying to take the sting out of the tail with a bit of humour so let’s not light the touch paper again. I’m off so goodnight all.

Callistemon Sat 14-Nov-20 22:43:13

Now, who needs an alker seltzer?
Does it come with gin?

trisher Sat 14-Nov-20 22:45:09

If it's a choice between gin and a hug I know what I'm having!

Callistemon Sat 14-Nov-20 22:50:27

Gin and Alka Seltzer it is then! ??????

I think I'll have a dash of lime with mine.

Jane10 Sat 14-Nov-20 22:57:12

Does that cocktail act as a hug repellant? If so, make mine a double.

Gwyneth Sat 14-Nov-20 23:06:36

Cheers everyone but don’t forget the ice ??

Ellianne Sat 14-Nov-20 23:19:25

Jane10

Does that cocktail act as a hug repellant? If so, make mine a double.

Crikey Jane I read that as a BUG repellant. I'm going to have nightmares about the OP's fly swatter. On with the Jungle formula quick.

Callistemon Sat 14-Nov-20 23:23:56

I did too, Ellianne, then re-read it.

I was going to pour gin all over myself before I went into the jungle.

Ellianne Sat 14-Nov-20 23:28:11

Get me out of here, Callistemon!*

Callistemon Sat 14-Nov-20 23:32:37

I think I stayed there very many years ago but it was so long ago I could be imagining it,
Does anyone else remember Gwrych Castle being a Youth Hostel?

There was no gin, I do remember that.

Alegrias2 Sun 15-Nov-20 10:46:29

lemsip

an op has been 'jumped on' and run to 6 pages in one day. becoming a bore!

not much else going on with other threads!

Well we've just had 2 pages in the space of 12 hours on the subject of Prince Harry's beard, so you can never tell which threads will run and run...

Ellianne Sun 15-Nov-20 10:56:03

Please no unkind comments today again.
I fail to see the connection between the two threads.

Lexisgranny Sun 15-Nov-20 11:08:14

Callistemon. If I remember correctly it was used for Jewish children from the kinderstransport, so if it had been kitted out to accommodate them, maybe it would be a natural progression to becoming a Youth Hostel. Maybe someone more local will know, we are some distance away although still in Wales.

Ellianne Sun 15-Nov-20 11:13:56

It looks like it would make a super adventure holiday place. Really close to the coast tto.

Blossoming Sun 15-Nov-20 11:17:28

Happy memories of trips to Wales. My bones and joints are too old for youth hosteling now, and OH has never been a fan of roughing it. Our one and only camping trip together was a total disaster grin

Callistemon Sun 15-Nov-20 11:26:16

Thank you all!

When a thread is started on IACGMOOH (?) perhaps I'll ask again.
I can find nothing about it being a YH and it was a very long time ago.

Bigjohn Sun 15-Nov-20 11:34:09

Good morning everyone

Blossoming Sun 15-Nov-20 11:47:24

Good morning Bigjohn and anybody else in this thread smile

GrannyMosh Sun 15-Nov-20 11:48:47

I'd be glad of a hug or twelve, as long as they are gentle ones. In the last 4 weeks, my best friend of over 30 years has died of pancreatic cancer, without me being able to visit her. My favourite aunt (and godmother) has died of Covid. And now my son is in hospital with heart problems, probably brought on by stress. I have fibromyalgia and am helping to care for my three grandchildren despite suffering from constant pain and exhaustion. Not waving, but drowning here. Overwhelmed by grief.
Notinthemanual, I suspect your offer of hugs was a genuine one, albeit misunderstood by some of the people who have commented. If that's the case, please send them my way, and have thanks in return.
And can someone please tell me who Godfrey is? I can only think of the dear old chap in Dad's Army.

LauraNorder Sun 15-Nov-20 11:51:06

A thread called ‘I Am Cloning Grand Mothers and Other Halves‘ May get you some attention Callistemon