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Sending a Hug to the Keyboard Warriors

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Notinthemanual Sat 14-Nov-20 08:20:26

That was quite a week for unpleasantness. I’ve wondered why some Grans are that way. Do they feel unheard IRL and vent their frustration here?

I saw an anecdote elsewhere recently… A mother had told her young son off for being cruel to his school friends. The child replied “They are dumb, and they need to know that.” I’ve known some really smart, self-reliant, resilient, well-dressed adults who never needed to make sure everyone knew that are others were less so. They had healthy self-esteem, compassion and were wise enough to know that not everyone’s reality is the same.

There are ways to disagree without being disagreeable. There is a preview box. And of course, the guideline to not say something that you wouldn’t say face to face. Perhaps those Grans are as forthright with people they barely know IRL. Perhaps that is why they are here.

I don’t take the good advice to just skip past their posts – I think I have some fascination with the horrible. But I have come to a new conclusion. IMO those Grans need a hug. I’m sending love and smiling; imagining them indignantly trying to bat it away with a fly swatter; my good wishes drifting through the mesh and settling on them.

It also occurred to me that they might just need to up their fluid and vegetable intake.

Thankfully, those Grans are a tiny minority. The rest of you lovely people brighten my day with your kindness, wisdom and good humour.

suziewoozie Sat 14-Nov-20 15:31:23

phoenix

Hmm. Not quite sure how to take this, although of course, sending hugs to anyone is commendable.

No it’s not - it’s patronising GFery claptrap.

Callistemon Sat 14-Nov-20 15:31:27

Please God don’t anyone offer me a hug. grin

I'd be very careful, self-isolate for two weeks first and wear a mask.
?

Maggiemaybe Sat 14-Nov-20 15:32:01

Lucca

Maggiemaybe..... so temped to offer you a
Ok I won’t.

grin

Chewbacca Sat 14-Nov-20 16:05:37

GFery

Suziewoozie who is Geoffrey and why do you keep referring to him?

Stansgran Sat 14-Nov-20 16:24:17

Among the few benefits of lockdown is not being hugged by randoms.( others include no airports and not standing a reasonable distance in a queue and suddenly finding they are tossing back much longer hair than you thought possible and it going in your face) ( unless it’s Rapunzel let out from her tower)

Gwyneth Sat 14-Nov-20 16:44:51

suziewoozie if there is so much stupidity, lies, false information and laziness on this site why are you wasting your time by being on it then?

MaizieD Sat 14-Nov-20 16:50:56

Gwyneth

suziewoozie if there is so much stupidity, lies, false information and laziness on this site why are you wasting your time by being on it then?

Isn't that suziewoozie's affair, Gwyneth?

We're all supposed to be grownups here who can make their own choices..

(Don't anybody ever hug me, please)

AGAA4 Sat 14-Nov-20 17:16:36

Chewbacca grin isn't Geoffrey one of the llamas at the Argy?

eazybee Sat 14-Nov-20 17:21:40

This reminds me of the village fete a few years ago.
An evangelical church group set up their stall next to the tombola and placed two of their members in front to offer hugs to passing strangers.confused I am not sure what their objective was, but we got an awful lot of terrified customers as they scuttled past to avoid the hug.

ps to Anniebach: bloody but unbowed!!

LauraNorder Sat 14-Nov-20 17:50:24

Group hug anyone?

Now that’s g’fery

Chewbacca Sat 14-Nov-20 18:08:13

AGAA4

Chewbacca grin isn't Geoffrey one of the llamas at the Argy?

Dunno AGAA4 , but he's been banded about prolifically on here today! grin

Gwyneth Sat 14-Nov-20 18:32:25

What is gfery not in list of abbreviations

Lucca Sat 14-Nov-20 18:41:03

Gwyneth

What is gfery not in list of abbreviations

???

I don’t mind the odd hug but I do hate to be called “hun”
Or “lovely lady “

LauraNorder Sat 14-Nov-20 18:47:07

Chewbacca Geoffrey the llama is not bandy.
Gwyneth someone upthread explained, apparently goady fuckery, an expression often used on mums net we were told. Learn something new every day.

LauraNorder Sat 14-Nov-20 18:49:38

Lucca count your blessings, no one ever called me lovely lady and if I’ve been called Hun it could be Atilla related

sodapop Sat 14-Nov-20 18:52:09

grin LauraNorder like the Atilla reference.

Lexisgranny Sat 14-Nov-20 18:53:33

Please tell me that Geoffrey the llama has two friends called Bungle and Zippy

Callistemon Sat 14-Nov-20 18:54:39

I have been called hun by someone very dear to me.
At least, I thought she was but now I'm beginning to wonder!

Perhaps she means Attila the Hun, or perhaps Attilia as I'm a Lady.

BlueSky Sat 14-Nov-20 19:03:04

LauraNorden thank you for explaining GFery! You learn something new everyday! grin

Millie22 Sat 14-Nov-20 19:10:16

I quite like being called hun and honey. No idea what this thread is actually about though.

Blossoming Sat 14-Nov-20 19:26:48

There was an AirFrance stewardess on the Heathrow to C de G route years ago who was known to the regular business travellers as Attila The Hen. I definitely wouldn’t have offered her a hug, she was terrifying ?

Gwyneth Sat 14-Nov-20 20:18:01

Thanks Laura ....obviously an expression used by some people of superior intelligence. ???

Callistemon Sat 14-Nov-20 20:49:55

Or limited vocabulary

Alegrias2 Sat 14-Nov-20 20:52:55

"Studies have shown, however, that swearing may in fact display a use of language that is more, rather than less, intelligent."

www.independent.co.uk/news/science/think-swearing-isn-t-big-or-clever-think-again-a7558716.html

phoenix Sat 14-Nov-20 20:54:58

Surely Geoffrey is a friend of Bungle?