Hurtful comment, never forgotten

Can I suggest you get an orthotist or podiatrist to check your feet. Well worth the cost and they can advise what footwear is suitable for you. This stops so many later problems.

I have one foot turning outwards with a bunion too so the toes bump into each other. Rieker boots and sandals are perfect for me as I can get my orthotic insoles into them (fixed with sticky back Velcro in the sandals).

It seems like that mean flippant comment, all those years ago, was a young man showing himself up as immature, thoughtless, and rude. As you were only 15 you took it to heart. I will scroll back and read some of the earlier pages. As you say it’s nice to read comments from those who don’t appear here now for whatever reason.

Wear sandals Shinamae, get those feet in the fresh air and be proud of all the hard work they have done how many miles have they walked over the years? Put some pretty nail polish on too, when you meet people in the street you look at their faces not there feet no one will notice.

Still devastated by a remark from my less than tactful mother. I was in my thirties, a mother of two little ones, when she was visited by an old childhood friend of mine.
My mother said how lovely she looked and added “of course she was always the pretty one of the two of you”.
It hurt so much then, even if it was true, and hurts still today 40 years on.

DillytheGardener

I had a similar comment about my hairy arms when I was about 24 (they are fair but lots of hair, thanks dad). I started shaving them and now thankfully have had them lasered off.

Does the laser work on fair hair?

Blinking heck 😩

I did pay £30 a couple of years ago to see a podiatric person in my town
He actually did very little he made some sort of toe separator with some sort of pink plastic stuff (which the dog ended up eating!) Apart from that, he didn’t say anything made me walk up and down a few times, but did suggest some sort of shoes but they were way beyond my price range
When I sit in my back garden, I do wear sandals and I will walk to Tesco’s in them as well but would not go to town in them
Thank you for your interesting and varied comments

Mt61

Blinking heck 😩

Quizzer I bet you have the brains?

You and me are the same then .try wearing flat pull on shoes something between sandals and trainers.i am nearly 68 and have flat feet and arches.also bunions.i have never worn ill fitting shoes in my life .but still walk like a flat footed duck so who cares .just be yourself ....words may hurt.but imagine that person naked and laugh at them .if they ask why you laughing .tell them you imagine them naked .or say at least I have feet and not a big mouth..

As long as you are comfortable in your sandals .wear them whoever you want

My teacher use to shout ‘rusty bun’ across the the classroom, I had red hair & would wear it in a bun.
Another time the school stud asked if I used brasso on my hair, in front of his friends 😩 he went on to ask me out many years later- but gave me great delight to turn him down, said I don’t go for the bald look. I do though as my hubby is bald & very attractive 😊

So much casual cruelty! I’ve been told many times about my footballers legs, but my feet are the only part of my body these days which still look good. Possibly because of boarding school brown lace up shoes when all my other friends were wearing winkle pickers. I’ve often wondered why we humans are so obsessed with what we’re born with. Is it really so important?

Millie22

When I was a teenager I was really quite slim and had all the comments like don't walk over a drain and in December one year I was told I needed fattening up for Christmas.

Someone once told my tall, slim aunt, in her late teens at the time, that if she stuck out her tongue she would look like a zip fastener!

People can be so cruel. Ex husband and sister had similar rather large ugly. However, they never let it bother them and just said.how useful they were! DS has inherited same feet but it doesn’t bother him, he slops around in flip flops 70% of the year. Must check out Dgc feet next time I see them! But surreptitiously.

I have the odd comment over the years but generally nothing I didn't already know, but I remember a lad I fancied telling me I was cross eyed and it made me really self conscious.... 30 years later I actually asked an optician and he said I was not. Cruel to say it when it wasn't even true.

My mum was always calling me stupid. This really worried me until my lovely uncle told me he thought I was a very sensible young lady so I chose to believe him

It's those young comments, before we've built that protective shell that just rebounds unhelpful one-offs, that stay with you & influence you for the rest of your life.
When I was young my mum used to say, I guess you're a career woman, I'll have to get used to the idea that marriage & children aren't for you & be proud of what you achieve yourself. Nothing made me more susceptible to the advances of men/ boys when I outgrew the "ugly duckling" stage. (Which, judging from photos, existed only in mum's mind)
A lovely Indian lady commented on my hairy arms when I was about 50, & I just put it down to cultural difference (Hairy legs = hideous, hairy arms if they're fair are natural in GB) & have never been bothered by it.
There were helpful comments too - my much derided primary teacher discerned my fear of getting things wrong very early & said "the man that never made a mistake, never made anything" & that has stayed with me & counteracted my Mum's judgemental attitude, for life.

I was once told by a man that “no man in his right mind would fancy you” and someone else told me I was so ugly that nobody would ever look at me and it was no wonder I lived alone! I look back at pictures and I was actually quite pretty but the comments still stung. I did find someone for whom I was not totally repulsive and we had a lovely little family together

SueDonim

My brother commented in a not-complimentary way about my legs when I was a teenager and I’ve been self-conscious of them ever since. Ridiculous, really, but cuts can be deep and leave scars.

My DB said similar about my long neck. I felt self-conscious about it for a long time, but years later realised it is not really that long!

I cannot say that no one ever said horrid things about me when I was a child, in fact I was the target of some sustained campaigns of running me down, but I never dwelled on them.

I had the immense advantage that so many people thought me odd and I found other people so incomprehensible that since I was always at one with myself and at odds with the rest of the world. I didn't much care what other people thought.

When my husband and I got married we were young, penniless and full of dreams. My future father in law refused to sign the consent saying it was ridiculous as his son was only 19 and I was too frivolous, stupid, and flighty to marry his son. Persuaded by my future mother in law, who adored, me he refused to attend the wedding and told anyone who would listen it wouldn’t last five minutes as I had no idea what being a wife involved.
We did survive somehow, good times and bad times, and as we opened our 60th Anniversary from Queen Elizabeth 11 and celebrated with our three children and eight grandchildren I thought of that man who never accepted me and the hurt I had suffered from his nastiness over all those years.
We celebrated our sixty third anniversary before my husband died and he did say his dad was wrong and I was the best wife anyone could have had.

QVC do a footwear brand called Vionic . They are designed by a foot specialist and have inner souls to support ‘flat feet’ and other foot problems . Their sandals are lovely and can hide bunions and other problems . Have a look at them , you might change your mind about sandals .

Thisismyname1953

QVC do a footwear brand called Vionic . They are designed by a foot specialist and have inner souls to support ‘flat feet’ and other foot problems . Their sandals are lovely and can hide bunions and other problems . Have a look at them , you might change your mind about sandals .

I’ve never been on that channel before, but I will try and have a look, thank you

My ex-husband was watching me bath one night when all of a sudden he asked me whether I would have a nose job done if I could afford it. I was quite offended and have hated my nose ever since.

I'd mention that we all have bits we would like different i'd say to choose a sandal that most suits your foot., I prefer to have a back in mine and Peep toe, and painted nails, some sandals have wide straps etc. embrace those wonderful feet but have carried you around. I hope you get your bunion sorted very painful.