AIBU?

Apologies. Forgot all my question marks. ??

Yes, I've noticed it too and I don't get it either.

In light of today's events, does it really matter right now?

People have issues with the word 'old' as well, even when it's appropriate.

I guess it's based on a kind of fear.

I think it all depends how the person grieves

"Died" is more direct and factual than "passed away" or similar.

I can't remember where but some years ago I read somethng about doctors having to use the word died because euphemisms could be misinterpreted and that usinf died overcomes that because it is direct and factual, and not about how anyone feels.

Facing up to the death of a loved one is hard.

I am so with you Wake, it drives me mad. It’s almost as if the actual death has been glossed over.

I could not agree more- if somebody has "passed" to where have they passed? They have died, end of.

I say passed to kids trying to be gentle but now it has become a habit. Funny thing is the kids seem fine being blunt about saying dead so maybe am trying to be gentle with nyself

I would always say died and am another one who dislikes "passed".
On a related note, I prefer to say "toilet", than the various other words often used - though "loo" is ok. I particularly don't like "bathroom", for toilets in public places which don't contain a bath!

Bet you love “rest room”, farmoor ?

Oops! Sorry for miss-spelling your name

I agree and I also am not keen on the euphemism ‘lost’ to describe a death.
It seems strange to me because we lose someone in a busy shopping mall or supermarket.

I guess though if the bereaved person finds comfort in using these words, who are we to criticise?

Everyone has their own comfort zone, say what suits you I think of and use the word died but I haven’t got a problem with any other words All I can’t stand is when animals ‘cross over the rainbow bridge’ I feel quite sick then and the other one is when a man says ‘we are pregnant’ I inwardly scream no your not pregnant, your wife is

JenniferEccles, yes 'lost' can cause problems. I explained, to my granddaughter, that I was hugging a neighbour because - she was sad as she'd lost her baby. GD instantly looked horrified, and said 'Where did she leave it?'.

My Mother in Law had a neighbour who was always loosing people. Very unfortunate turn of phrase.

Yes, we all noticed. It’s been discussed a few times.

I couldn't care less if others don't like it, if I want to say my daughter passed away, or I lost her, I will.

I have used the word died since my OH died - I use it with the GC and anyone else with whom I am having a conversation about it. It is real and it is clear.

If people don't understand what is meant by losing someone, or them passing away, then I feel sorry for them.
Mu mum died, my girl passed away.
Allow the bereaved to deal with it in their own way.

I agree MissAdventure although I don't particularly like the term 'passed over' it's more gentle maybe than saying the person died.
Each to their own whatever gives them comfort.

I don’t think this is a modern phenomenon at all. People have said “passed away” , “passed over” (Victorian) ) or even “gone to glory” for decades.
“Passed” on its own is more recent however - US influenced perhaps?
Does it matter to anybody but the bereaved though?
Respect for their feelings should be paramount.
(I think there are much worse things to obsess about. )

I've read in here before that it makes people want to scream.
Try saying "my child is dead. End of", when someone doesn't know and asks how they are.
That will make you want to scream.