Its all OK…….for now. Do we ever stop worrying about our AC?

As mums we never stop worrying, Sago. I remember my own Mum saying that when I was 39 and a single parent after leaving an abusive marriage. At the time I was a bit impatient, but now my children are adults and I also have grandchildren, I understand that the worrying never stops.

I'm glad all has worked out for your family Sago. Enjoy.

Yes I agree that the worry never stops although as far as my AC are concerned I never worry! If I told them I don’t think they would tell me anything about their lives! Autumn was a worrying time. Some family members had covid and poor DS was made redundant and had his car stolen the very same week! He now has a new job and a new car and all is well. Phew!

I think it all depends upon whether you're basically 'a worrier' or not. I don't worry about my family as a rule, although, of course, I'm concerned if anyone is ill - but that's a rarity.

I'm not a big 'worrier' as such, but i agree that as a mum you never stop worrying over them even when they're adults.?

I don't think you ever stop worrying and now there's our granddaughter to worry about

Lovely to hear your family news Sago.

My AC are 49 and 51.

I'm currently really happy for my DD and DGD too. They have had an extremely tough two years but life has turned around for both of them and their lives are becoming more settled and happier.

Communication is the key to us not worrying or at least, worrying less. Whilst it is there, I worry less and my DD phones a lot. Even on her year out after finishing her degree. she was abroad and sent me a weekly letter. During her recent tough breakup and DGD problems, she rang me daily for a chat and together we would shed a few tears and as the weeks passed we eventually laughed together. Her worries about DGD diminish as my worries about them both, do the same.

Gaps in communication with my DS cause me great concern. If I do not hear from him for more than a month, I know the next call will be a difficult one. I do text and try to ring him but get no replies and just have to wait for him to call. I'm currently waiting for a call as the last two, left me even more anxious.

I know the moment will come when I will be able to say DS is OK but as you say Sago - ...for now.

You never stop worrying if you love them.

Kate1949

I don't think you ever stop worrying and now there's our granddaughter to worry about

Exactly Kate when you feel you can at last start to relax about your DC along come the DGC, and you start all over again! As they say, the price we pay for love.

I can so relate to this Sago. Life is indeed a wave of troughs and crests especially with the younger generation.
I too have had sleepless nights worrying about my AC - sometimes unnecessarily.
When all is on an even keel I breathe a sigh of relief but realise it is .... just for now!!

I don't 'worry' about my two adult sons. Not at all. They're both able and admirable human beings. However somewhere in the very core of my person there's this little flicker of hope that things will continue to be straightforward and trouble free for them. No heed for this. I didn't plant it. It's just there.

Comes with the mother territory Sago we will always want the best for them and worry when life is not good for them. I know they are adults and make their own choices but even so. Glad to hear everything is going well for your family now.

Thankyou for your post, it's given me something to hang onto. My son is currently going through major transitions in his life, marriage break up, looking for a new job and accommodation. Despite being totally supportive, I am very concerned and probably worrying too much.
I long for the day when he's in a new job and new accommodation, and even have a new love in his life. Until then we'll carry on being supportive as possible.

Sapphire24 I feel your pain,all these things weigh so heavy at the time.

It is amazing how quickly things improve.

Not long after “the photo” my middle son was rushed on a blue light to hospital after falling (drunk) at 3 am.
He nearly lost his eye, thanks to an amazing maxi facial surgeon he recovered and has 20/20 vision still.
It was the wake up call he needed.

I hope your son finds a better job, a new love and a wonderful home.

So glad that your son is ok, and thanks for your comments about my son. Fortunately my lad is coming to stay with us for a few weeks, so at least I can keep an eye on him. Must remember not to say that to him!!!

My eldest has always caused the most worry. I really think he lacks any common sense. He is now in isolation in the middle East after taking 2 long flights and a bus journey so that he could have a holiday! I just hope they are properly insured.

I remember my mum saying to me " if you're doing well then so am I. If you're not doing well I'm
not either".
I understand what she meant now I have ACs and GCs.

You never stop, my son was a pain in the proverbial, feckless, selfish and irresponsible for years. He seems to have settled in the last couple of years, doesn’t stop my brain, for a nanosecond, wondering when he rings.

My son, now 36, has never given me any cause to worry but I always will anyway.

No, is the short answer to the question. A few of mine are Doctors and it’s a inhuman job at the moment. I worry about the toll the pace is taking on them.
Last January was unbelievably terrible. We still have this month in front of them.
For goodness sake Boris, get more Doctors and other medical staff trained, as the strain on those in situ, is immense.
There are no reserves..none. Don’t get ill Gransnetters as you may well get treated by utterly exhausted staff.

They are always your children and however successful or settled they are when something crops up maternal feelings of protection come to the fore, if you were like that when they were young.

Some of us have cause to worry.

We will always worry!!

Since our daughter split from her husband three years ago my husband has become extremely anxious. He phones her at least once a day. He is worried about the children. I feel that they are all fine. He is waiting on tenterhooks for the next catastrophe. Its all very wearing.

I don't think you ever stop worrying. We have had the usual up and downs as a family until about 5 years ago. Our DD had an horrendous event in her life that affected the whole family and I thought my heart would break. Now she has put her life together and we are now again a family with our usual ups and downs. I still worry about my AC but now I am a real worry guts about my GC. It never stops.