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I do love them BUT……

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Esspee Tue 22-Feb-22 17:38:49

I am sure many of us have people in our lives that we love but who sometimes drive us crazy.
As an example my OH and I are a great match BUT he constantly leaves drawers, cupboards and doors open. I am constantly closing things and I have to check the outside doors as they are often unlocked.
He is 75 so I reckon I am unlikely to be able to change him so I try to remain calm and ignore it.
What drives you crazy about your loved ones?

CornflowerBlue Wed 23-Feb-22 16:58:52

Curlywhirly - my DH is the same, sleeps the minute his bottom hits a flat surface, always has done. He can, and often does, sleep from 10.30pm until gone 8am, then comes downstairs, sits in the chair, and sometimes promptly falls asleep!! He'll often doze on and off through the day. It's a bit of a trait in his family though.

2507C0 Wed 23-Feb-22 17:12:13

All. Of. The. Above. ?

Happysexagenarian Wed 23-Feb-22 17:53:34

MrH does all the cooking, most of the tea-making and loads/empties the dishwasher. All of those things I'm very appreciative of, but he never wipes the worktops or hob of all the overspills, greasy splashes and crumbs etc.

He also leaves large greasy cooking trays to soak in the sink which I then can't use because they're in the way! We have a very large, deep sink in the utility for that purpose. But he just says 'This is nearer'.

He leaves dirty garden tools on the kitchen worktop and washes his muddy hands in the kitchen, again the utility would be preferable.

He doesn't clean the kitchen bins if he empties them.

But I love him to bits and I wouldn't change him for the world. No-one else would put up with me!

sansa Wed 23-Feb-22 18:08:47

Oh dear. This is all so funny! Most of these things my Dh does too. And if he does shut a drawer half of the contents are trapped half way out. And he wipes surfaces but then throws the cloth across the kitchen in the vague direction of the sink, scattering the crumbs as it goes. I just grit my teeth and sort it - it’s easier. And the many good points make him a keeper. So glad to know I’m not alone. Is it our fault for not acting in the early days?!

HillyN Wed 23-Feb-22 18:13:23

My DH seems to be the opposite of many of yours. He always shuts doors, cupboards and drawers- in fact he has just fitted new soft-closers on the kitchen drawers because they weren't closing properly.
The thing that annoys me most of all is that he NEVER makes me a cup of tea. I really envy those of you who get a cuppa in bed in the morning.

GrammaH Wed 23-Feb-22 18:30:31

Leaving dirty crockery on top of the dishwasher; cutting his finger nails into the sink; leaving the living room during the evening & coming back with something tasty for himself without having asked if I'd like something; disappearing from the premises without saying where he's going or taking a mobile; actually, not using a mobile...

GreenGran78 Wed 23-Feb-22 18:36:31

Cherrytree59. If he won't clear up the crumbs, gather them up yourself and deposit them in his bed, his shoes, his underwear......you get the picture. Maybe that will stop him!

Sarah59 Wed 23-Feb-22 19:10:12

Is it a man thing? My husband is exactly the same! No matter how many times I say ‘shut the door’ he has to be reminded even single time!!!!! Drives me nuts ?

Frosty60 Wed 23-Feb-22 19:40:58

My list is endless and there’s more than one person who I love but drives me crazy. I just wouldn’t know where to start, haha ?

Patsy70 Wed 23-Feb-22 19:47:19

I seriously believe it’s a question of evolution and that men and women weren’t expected to cohabit 24/7 for an indefinite number of years. ‘Men the hunters, women the gatherers.’ The first wives usually died during childbirth, probably having had a child every year of the marriage. The widower then went on to marry a younger woman, to ‘keep house’ and have more children! Men and women have different priorities, in my humble opinion.

BlueSapphire Wed 23-Feb-22 20:00:47

On my own now, (and I don't annoy myself.....), but late DH had a habit of taking his tie off when he came in from work, rolling it up really neatly and putting it on a shelf in the living room. By the end of each week there'd be five ties sitting neatly in a row. Did he ever take them up to the bedroom? And he always disappeared into the bathroom just as I was ready to dish up our evening meal. And he hoarded every single thing...... But I'd put up with everything just to have him back with me.

Patsy70 Wed 23-Feb-22 20:19:19

BlueSapphire flowers

mistymitts Wed 23-Feb-22 21:15:04

@Auntieflo, yes, My DH does the same, washes up everything except for a couple of items. Always. I think it’s a mini rebellion tactic.
Also, wiping crumbs off a work surface but just onto the floor.
Slicing a mini gem lettuce rather than pulling off whole leaves for a salad, there by leaving a stub of half cut lettuce.
Turning taps off far too tightly.

happycatholicwife1 Wed 23-Feb-22 21:25:15

Mine is the best man in the world! I don't deserve him. Do I ever get annoyed? Yes, but it's certainly my fault at least half of the time, so I reckon that's fair. I have one funny story, though. I was always keen on getting the leftovers into as small a container as possible. We had five kids, so always needed space in the fridge. That tiny little habit carried over until they were all gone. He couldn't see the reason, then, to put things into a smaller container, but I insisted. One night he said, "You know, I'll bet when I die, you'll be saying to the undertaker, can't you get him in a smaller box?".
I laughed so hard I collapsed on the floor.

henetha Wed 23-Feb-22 23:37:29

Wiggy (cockatiel) can be extremely annoying at times. She hurls seed around with her vicious beak and grins at me when I'm cleaning it up, staring at me with her beady little eyes.
And exactly at 6pm when I settle down with my dinner to watch the news she decides to 'sing' loudly.
Have you heard a cockatiel singing?
It' s a cross between a bad tempered parrot and a cat being strangled.
Wiggy and I have a love/hate relationship.

Kalu Wed 23-Feb-22 23:41:30

BlueSaphire ?

Pepper59 Thu 24-Feb-22 03:06:10

Im just as annoying as my other half. Got to be honest about that.

Grandma2002 Thu 24-Feb-22 07:58:02

In my DH case it is age related so I cannot complain. If I point out (gently) issues concerning drawers and cupboards he apologises so I know he cannot help it.
My main issue with him he bangs drawers and cupboards shut which is not good for the furniture.

Shropshirelass Thu 24-Feb-22 08:53:07

My DH has OCD for things having to be inline and even or straight, cleaning up before I have finished!! Drives me potty. Lots of other things too!! HELP.

Chinesecrested Thu 24-Feb-22 11:07:57

Mine talks too much, usually when I'm trying to watch an interesting program on the tv. Yatter yatter in my left ear.

sweetcakes Thu 24-Feb-22 11:21:21

All of the above ?.

FindingNemo15 Thu 24-Feb-22 11:46:11

Ditto - all of the above plus...

talking to me when I am out of range in another room and then I have to go to where he is and ask him to repeat what he has said. He also mumbles, but will not admit to it.

Yammy Thu 24-Feb-22 12:00:00

My DD suffers even more than me, wet clothes dirty clothes towels all just dumped. She says her father must have been to training school.
When she was first married at the time when ISIS was very prominent, her other half decided to have an impromptu part and emailed her at work with a shopping list. She got home to their flat [ with an intercom ]she could not reach the button, the bag was not stable enough, all she could hear was "Who is it?" in a very professional voice.
In desperation, she put the bag down and all the bottles fell over and rolled under a car. She pressed the button again and when asked replied" Osamama Bin laden who the hell do you think it is." She got down to try and retrieve the bottles when he opened the door asked her what she was doing under a car and told her her sarcasm was just like her mother's. She shouted and fathers and left the bottles for him to retrieve.

Musicgirl Thu 24-Feb-22 13:10:32

Chinesecrested

Mine talks too much, usually when I'm trying to watch an interesting program on the tv. Yatter yatter in my left ear.

Same here.

Tizliz Thu 24-Feb-22 13:14:04

Musicgirl

Chinesecrested

Mine talks too much, usually when I'm trying to watch an interesting program on the tv. Yatter yatter in my left ear.

Same here.

And then ask what is happening in the programme ?