I do love them BUT……

Thank you all for an amusing set of comments, despite the fact that I can identify with almost all of your comments! Venus and Mars girls, Venus and Mars!!!!

My son is of the "leave them where it falls" school of thought. That and taking crockery upstairs with a snack and keeping it there - he seems to think that having just 2 of everything in the kitchen is enough!

Ladies don’t sweat the small stuff. x

Re. Being uptight about his whistling.
I’ve excellent hearing, can even hear certain dog whistles. BUT if someone whistles near me then it HURTS.
TRULY HURTS MY EARS
If anyone has an explanation then let me know. Might help in Court next time a whistler in a supermarket gets clouted as he won’t stop whistling even though I’m crying with pain

We all have our annoying little ways, I am sure mine is constantly telling him to shut the door to the boot room when he goes in there. There is only a little radiator in there and is not a room to linger in at this time of the year except to come in or out with the dog or put something in one of the bins. It sucks the heat out of the kitchen but no matter how much I tell him he just carries on with it. But if that is all I have to nag about I am not doing too badly.

I feel guilty now as I apparently have a really loud sneeze, so I’m told frequently. It’s just my normal everyday sneeze, nothing special or saved up, just how I sneeze. I resent being told to sneeze quieter, how do you do that, it’s not satisfying if it’s not a full one! I know a lady who is even louder than me and she said the same!

I recognise most of the traits and irritations already talked about. My H has all of them but the one that is the most annoying is that, whatever he wants at that particular moment, should be right at the front of the fridge or cupboard. He mutters and complains that it’s HIS things that are always shoved to the back! I explain that everything can’t be at the front but he won’t have it, I’m picking on his things! Oh dear!

I hate mine offering to do the washing up. Because in his mind the washing up means all crocks put within his grasp at left of sink…. anything left on cooker top or ‘in soak’ to be done WITH washing up ,doesn’t get done! Anything overly greasy or gross he ‘puts in soak’ to do later!! Of course I do it later.He soaks the floor , then wipes it up with clean tea towels…. he never wipes the surfaces down or the cooker hob! He thinks washing up is 2 plates ….2 knives…2 forks…2 cups. Rather do it myself!

My pet peeve is that DH will take his dishes out after a drink or meal, but then leaves them on the worktop directly above the dishwasher, instead of opening the door and just popping them in. I've told him until I'm blue in the face that this just makes another job, but he won't have it. Still, I'm disabled and he is absolutely wonderful to me, so I try not to complain too often, but what is it with men that they can't shut cupboards or drawers properly? Seems from what I've read that there are a whole lot of them out there, mine amongst them!

I've got one of those !
Every drawer , door, cupboard , lids ,you name it ,he can leave it open.
I come down every single night to let the dog out to be almost hit in the face by the pantry door I had closed before I went up .
Every light is left on , every flat surface a resting place for letters, newspapers, tools .
I have picked his dirty laundry up off the bedroom floor every single morning for 41 years ..... should I go on .
I could write a book , as so could most of you .
However, he's a good , kind , loving man who would do anything for me and the children or anyone else .
Not going to change him now.
I blame my MIL !

The husband is usually fairly well behaved (or at least I am used to his foibles and tolerate them as he tolerates mine). The dog however drives me bonkers ?

The dog is the most loving and wonderfully characterful and lovable being going. He is a rescue and was very badly treated. He was a total mess when we got him, but has developed into the most beautiful soul. He loves us within an inch of his life; as we do him. But…

He believes he should be allowed on the sofas, armchairs and beds. We do not. We never catch him, but the telltale whites hairs, warm spots and dog dribble give the game away! Good job he is adorable…

My husband is great in most ways but, oh, he is so untidy. He will doss things down and not put them in the right place so l have to go round behind him. He writes notes on envelopes and is always frantic because he loses the very envelope he needs. My biggest bugbear, though, is that he will takes his socks off and leave them on the floor next to the laundry basket and l really dislike touching other people’s dirty socks, even his.

Yes, doors and drawers left open seems to be a man thing. DH is a master of this. I look at bedroom drawers left open and things spilling out and I sometimes wonder if he was a burglar in a previous existence. Most blood-pressure- raising offence is leaving bathroom door open AND toilet lid up. What a lovely way to greet guests coming in through the hall and walking past the open cloakroom door and toilet lid up. What is the problem, given that the slightest touch on a soft-close toilet lid silently gets the lid lowered? But hey-ho we've been married for 56 years so I'm resigned to not winning this particular battle.

Oh dear!!

Mine has a few faults already mentioned.

He’s always willing to wash up for me, but never manages to get everything clean. Eyesight poor.

Also never closes kitchen cupboards.
Always puts empty bottles, jars, cartons etc back in cupboard or fridge.

I could go on but it seems men in general are not hugely domesticated.

Esspee

I am sure many of us have people in our lives that we love but who sometimes drive us crazy.
As an example my OH and I are a great match BUT he constantly leaves drawers, cupboards and doors open. I am constantly closing things and I have to check the outside doors as they are often unlocked.
He is 75 so I reckon I am unlikely to be able to change him so I try to remain calm and ignore it.
What drives you crazy about your loved ones?

My son who is 46 does this, i just don't understand why. I go round after him shutting everything, i find it intensely irritating ?

Having just returned from the supermarket, I feel the need to add another one. He won't queue and heads for the self checkout despite me asking him not to. There is always a problem, which there was this morning. It wouldn't scan two of our items. We held the queue up whilst waiting for assistance, which didn't arrive. We had to leave two items behind and then the blessed thing wouldn't scan my loyalty card. A silent car journey home ensued

I can recognise some of the above! I also discovered recently that he couldn’t locate the vinegar after 40 years of it being kept in the same place.
I am sure I can be a bit annoying at times too. Incidentally I am also one with a loud sneeze and have been known to set dogs barking several gardens away!

Oh my, first world problems, think we should be very grateful. At least we can sleep safely in our beds, unlike families in Ukraine !

Mine seems to have to use every visible surface to put something belonging to him - whether glasses, a pen, odd coins, newspaper, diary, phone, letters, etc. etc. and then, of course, can't find what he's looking for. Window sills, cupboards, shelves, work surfaces, tables all seem to have just one or two items but when it's all over the house, it seems a lot! But still, with all their faults, we wouldn't swap them - I hope!

I was feeling cross with DH just now as I tidied up after him, cleared his lunch plate into the dishwasher, wiped surfaces, changed the loo roll and put the inner tube into the recycling, picked up used tissues from around the bin and put the toilet seat down…….
But then when I read about the open drawers, dirty washing on the floor, stuff left lying around and so on, I felt glad that he does have some good points. Especially bringing me a cup of tea first thing in the morning.

Gawd yes, loads of stuff from my 2 sons, 18 & 23, still living at home.Oh and the leaving cupboards &drawers open- thats the one that drives me most crazy!(both of them)??

Crikey! I’ve just realised that I must be married to a saint! Not remembering that the only round chopping board is the fruit only one seems a petty fuss after reading some of your naughty boys’ antics!

My Dh is a very good help he empties the dishwasher but leaves everything on the counter. He cooks meals but I think his main aim is to use all the utensils in the kitchen.
His favourite saying is 'Where did you put my....?
Though I won't say this tomorrow when he gets up at 7 to put the bins out{we have very strong gales] and then brings me a cup of freshly ground coffee.

Put the heating on then leaves the back door open I think born in barn comes to mind. Then moans it is cold.

All of the above,I tell myself I’m getting exercise putting all the stuff away,permanently tidying up messes and looking for stuff he can’t find,good job I love him !

Oh this is all so funny, it's given me such a laugh!! And my DH also does most of the above things too! My main bugbears are that he thinks a teatowel is for cleaning the floor, wiping down the garden furniture, mopping up coffee (grrrr!!! So many teatowels gone in the bin!!). And the biggie!! Keys!! Why can't he unlock something (the shed, for example) and leave the key in it to signify that it is unlocked and will need locking up later? Far too simple!! I've lost track of the number of unlocked doors overnight and key-hunts we've had over the years, and you'd never believe the places we've eventually found them in! Yet once, we were gardening, and he came inside, and locked the door!! When it started raining, I couldn't get in, and banging on the doors and windows did not work. Twenty minutes I was out there in the rain, chucking stones at upstairs windows and banging and shouting (Goodness knows what the neighbours thought!), and it turned out he was in the bath with the radio on! I only realised that when he sheepishly came down, without a word, unlocked the door, and padded off upstairs again, naked, and leaving a trail of bubble bath the whole way!!! And don't get me started on leaving doors open which should be shut, and yet he's incapable of leaving a door open which should not be shut, sometimes shutting the poor cat in somewhere. But, I love him to bits, though I do find I do eye-rolls more and more these days - he doesn't see and it makes me feel better!!!