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Off on a bit of a tangent here, but what do your DiL/SiLs call you? I am used to not being called anything, very happy to be called by my first name by them, but I do find it really strange being addressed as 'Granny' by one of them when there are no children present. It is as if I have no personality, function or purpose except to be Granny to her children!
I was just wondering, did you ever suggest to them how you would like them to address you, B9exchange?
My rather intimidating late MiL never gave any indication of what I should call her, so I never did, for fear of it being the wrong thing.. That once led to me ignoring someone knocking at her door, because she was upstairs and I didn't know what name to shout to get her attention!
I later found that it wasn't just me. I discovered years later that her other dil was exactly the same and never called her anything until children came along and 'Grandma' could at least be used if they were present.
OH and I made sure that our dils knew right from the start, when we were first introduced, that we were happy for them to call us by our first names, and they are both happy with that.
Naturally enough, our sons continue to call us Mum and Dad just as they always did.