Calling parents but their first names….os it acceptable?

Our kids jokingly call us by our christian names sometimes. My user name is my DDs nickname for me. My 3 year old grandaughter was calling me both my name and Grandma today. It doesn’t bother me what they call me I’ll always answer lol.

I think first names are fine, I do not like it when adults call their parents mummy and daddy. However, it is really up to the people involved.

My sons call me mum. DDIL call me by my first name which is fine , .wouldn’t like my sons to call me by my first name tho .

Well, i find it totally not on, and to a point, i find it disrespectful.

My son once jokingly called me by my Christian name and I corrected him.

My DIL and SIL me by my Christian name which is totally fine, I wouldnt expect them to call me mum, but by my own children, absolutely yes.

My kids have always called us by our first names because we asked them to right from the beginning, or rather, we only spoke of ourselves and each other by our first names.

Now my grandchildren call me by my first name too –initially they prefixed it with 'Granny' to distinguish me from their other granny whom they also call by her first name, but that as been dropped now.

I like my first name and don't want to be called anything else.

PS So... of course it's acceptable!

To our two we are mum and dad their partners call us by our first names. One set of Grandchildren calls their other granddad his first name then granddad but not his wife.
Our two always called their uncles and aunts their titles until our nephew and niece stopped so our two did of their own accord.

Some people just like to be different.
What's wrong with Mum and Dad?

My sons always called my husband (their dad) by his first name, up until they were in their late teens. It was probably because that's what they heard me say a lot. My mum thought it was terrible . She didn't like me not wearing my wedding ring, either. I haven't worn it for 39 years (I was 9st when I married, never been that weight since )

My DH called his mother by her first name all his adult life. Not quite sure why, he doesn’t really know himself. Definitely not hippy dippy/walking naked around the house!

Off on a bit of a tangent here, but what do your DiL/SiLs call you? I am used to not being called anything, very happy to be called by my first name by them, but I do find it really strange being addressed as 'Granny' by one of them when there are no children present. It is as if I have no personality, function or purpose except to be Granny to her children!

B9 by my first name and I did the same with my MiL. What else?

No I wouldn’t like it not for me. Like being mam.

B9exchange

Off on a bit of a tangent here, but what do your DiL/SiLs call you? I am used to not being called anything, very happy to be called by my first name by them, but I do find it really strange being addressed as 'Granny' by one of them when there are no children present. It is as if I have no personality, function or purpose except to be Granny to her children!

I was just wondering, did you ever suggest to them how you would like them to address you, B9exchange?

My rather intimidating late MiL never gave any indication of what I should call her, so I never did, for fear of it being the wrong thing.. That once led to me ignoring someone knocking at her door, because she was upstairs and I didn't know what name to shout to get her attention!

I later found that it wasn't just me. I discovered years later that her other dil was exactly the same and never called her anything until children came along and 'Grandma' could at least be used if they were present.

OH and I made sure that our dils knew right from the start, when we were first introduced, that we were happy for them to call us by our first names, and they are both happy with that.

Naturally enough, our sons continue to call us Mum and Dad just as they always did.

I do not see what acceptability comes into it. Parents should be, and are, free to decide what thay want their children call them. The fact that other people do not like their choice is irrelevant,

Not at all

It is more important how the relationship is than what it is chosen to call watch other

Mine

My father called his mother Maggie all his adult life...He adored his mother.. When I asked him why he said it was a term of endearment...All us grandchildren and great grandchildren called her Granny Maggie....

Perhaps it’s a Maggie thing, Mine.

Our girls have always called me Mum, and their boys call me Nanna. But DS usually calls me Maggie. To his two boys I’m Nanna Maggie. I actually really like it.

Off on a tangent here, but does anyone else find it slightly irritating when grown women still call their father ‘daddy’ ? Perhaps I’m being jealous because I was never that close to mine but I find it a bit little-girly.

Call me old fashioned but it’s Mum and Grandma for me.

Floriel I agree, grown adults calling their parents Mummy and Daddy personally make me cringe every time I hear it. But that may be because sadly my own parents were abusive.

I think adults calling parents Mummy and Daddy sounds affected.

My children call us Mum and Dad, and their partners use our first names. We were always first names to their friends, so we were introduced to their partners as ‘this is my mum, Doodle’, and this is dad, Hisname’.

Adults were never called by their first names by children when I was young. They were Mr/Mrs/Miss, or if they were close friends of my parents they became honorary Aunts or Uncles. By the time my own children came along that had almost totally died out, except for one of our neighbours who was always Mr Jones from when we moved in until he died.

I don’t think that calling your parents by their first names is unacceptable, but I like being Mum - only my children call me that, which makes it special.

snowberryZ

Some people just like to be different.
What's wrong with Mum and Dad?

Nothing's wrong with Mum and Dad and I don't think anyone has suggested there is anything wrong with those sobriquets.

Being different is obviously outrageous though ? ?

My parents called each other Mother and Father (1940s). I didn't know their names until I was fifteen.

When my mum developed dementia I started calling her by her name I got more response. When my son was little he called me by my name it didn’t bother me. When his sister arrived he started calling me mum. Growing up if I annoyed him he called me mother as long as I’m loved that’s all that matters.

I lived with my grandparents in the school holidays for several years, and I can rmember my grandmother looking at an announcement of the death of someone she had known a long tme ago and said, with a sigh ' She was one of the last people to call me 'Connie'. In the 1950s, she was Mrs T , or Mr T's wife, at home, even her husband called her 'mother'. I vowed then and there, if ever I was in her situation, I would never let any DH, I might have in the future call me anything than by my first name.

My parents called their parents 'mother' and 'father'. I always called my parents 'mummy' and 'daddy', however affected that may sound. DD does the same. DS calls us 'Mar' and 'Par'

Two of my GC call their parents by their forenames and nobody objects. It's their choice. My sons have never called me anything but Mum. DS1's new fiancée calls me Mum as well, but I don't mind. DS2's partner has always used my forename. Horses for courses!