Calling parents but their first names….os it acceptable?

Oldnproud calling their mums and dads 'Mummy' and 'Daddy' rather than'Mum' and 'Dad'. It sounded so hilariously babyish to me, and 'posh' too

I am not posh but my 3DDs still call me mummy.

Wouldn’t worry me a jot. My daughters often use a shortened version of my first name. It’s the name of a character in a drama piece they both did in 6th form. Most of their friends from those happy school days use this (unusual) shortened form of my name.
I’m grannie shortened first name to our grandchildren
It’s the relationships that count

My late DH was first to be married out of 6 siblings . Up till our marriage I called his mum ‘Mrs V’ but once we were married I couldn’t do that as I was also ‘Mrs V’ .
She never suggested what I was to call her so I decided on a derivative of her name that wasn’t the one everyone else used . She was ok with that and her 3rd DS also started using it as a term of affection.
For some reason I also called my own DM by her Christian name too . She didn’t mind in the slightest .

I remember my first childhood holiday down south, when I was about eight - I couldn't believe my ears on the beach when I heard big children, many even older than I was (!), actually still calling their mums and dads 'Mummy' and 'Daddy' rather than'Mum' and 'Dad'. It sounded so hilariously babyish to me, and 'posh' too. Why didn't they speak normal (Yorkshire), like everyone else I knew - weren't they embarrassed at how silly it made them look?
Heaven knows what I would have thought if they had been using their parents first names!

Amusingly, my own older two DGC (9 and nearly 11) still often call their parents Mummy/Daddy, though it's gradually changing. I've noticed, however, that my youngest DGC (nearly 4), their cousin, has already started using Mum/Dad sometimes. Not their first names, though - yet ?

Is this not a case of “I don’t care what they call me, as long as they call me” ?

If it is okay with them, it is okay with everybody else.

as long as I’m loved that’s all that matters.
So true, Redhead

Yes. It's more than acceptable. It's SO lovely to have the people (^especially the tiny ones^) you love call you by your name.
I'm with Baggs on this one.

I don't call my son "Son" or my granddaughter "Granddaughter" or my husband "Husband". These are to me more a title or role. It's not really a person.
I definitely wouldn't want to be called "Wife"!

I don't care what words other families call each other. Why is it a problem for a family to choose to use their actual names?

There's no confusion. Everyone knows who their mother, grandfather, daughter is. We don't need to use these generic titles to love and be loved.

Two of my SiLs call me by my first name and the other calls me granny since the birth of his children, which I don’t like.

My SiL was a family friend to start with so to have him suddenly start calling me Mum would have been very strange. He's also quite a bit older than DD which would have added to the strangeness. My children call me all sorts of things. Daft Bat is one that comes to mind.

My old next door neighbours did thatBoat they were quite elderly and they always called each other Maw and Daddy .I used to say to my other half will we do that when we're old..we haven't so far.
My Daughter used to call me by my first name when she was a toddler but it was just because she was in work with me all the time and everybody called me by my first name ,never bothered me at all but my mum used to sit with her for ages and tell her I wasn't Paddy I was mum.She stopped when she went to school,around the same time she started sleeping through the night .

boat

My parents called each other Mother and Father (1940s). I didn't know their names until I was fifteen.

That’s astonishing, boat!

Two of my GC call their parents by their forenames and nobody objects. It's their choice. My sons have never called me anything but Mum. DS1's new fiancée calls me Mum as well, but I don't mind. DS2's partner has always used my forename. Horses for courses!

I lived with my grandparents in the school holidays for several years, and I can rmember my grandmother looking at an announcement of the death of someone she had known a long tme ago and said, with a sigh ' She was one of the last people to call me 'Connie'. In the 1950s, she was Mrs T , or Mr T's wife, at home, even her husband called her 'mother'. I vowed then and there, if ever I was in her situation, I would never let any DH, I might have in the future call me anything than by my first name.

My parents called their parents 'mother' and 'father'. I always called my parents 'mummy' and 'daddy', however affected that may sound. DD does the same. DS calls us 'Mar' and 'Par'

When my mum developed dementia I started calling her by her name I got more response. When my son was little he called me by my name it didn’t bother me. When his sister arrived he started calling me mum. Growing up if I annoyed him he called me mother as long as I’m loved that’s all that matters.

My parents called each other Mother and Father (1940s). I didn't know their names until I was fifteen.

snowberryZ

Some people just like to be different.
What's wrong with Mum and Dad?

Nothing's wrong with Mum and Dad and I don't think anyone has suggested there is anything wrong with those sobriquets.

Being different is obviously outrageous though ? ?

I think adults calling parents Mummy and Daddy sounds affected.

My children call us Mum and Dad, and their partners use our first names. We were always first names to their friends, so we were introduced to their partners as ‘this is my mum, Doodle’, and this is dad, Hisname’.

Adults were never called by their first names by children when I was young. They were Mr/Mrs/Miss, or if they were close friends of my parents they became honorary Aunts or Uncles. By the time my own children came along that had almost totally died out, except for one of our neighbours who was always Mr Jones from when we moved in until he died.

I don’t think that calling your parents by their first names is unacceptable, but I like being Mum - only my children call me that, which makes it special.

Call me old fashioned but it’s Mum and Grandma for me.

Floriel I agree, grown adults calling their parents Mummy and Daddy personally make me cringe every time I hear it. But that may be because sadly my own parents were abusive.

Off on a tangent here, but does anyone else find it slightly irritating when grown women still call their father ‘daddy’ ? Perhaps I’m being jealous because I was never that close to mine but I find it a bit little-girly.

Mine

My father called his mother Maggie all his adult life...He adored his mother.. When I asked him why he said it was a term of endearment...All us grandchildren and great grandchildren called her Granny Maggie....

Perhaps it’s a Maggie thing, Mine.

Our girls have always called me Mum, and their boys call me Nanna. But DS usually calls me Maggie. To his two boys I’m Nanna Maggie. I actually really like it.

Not at all

It is more important how the relationship is than what it is chosen to call watch other

I do not see what acceptability comes into it. Parents should be, and are, free to decide what thay want their children call them. The fact that other people do not like their choice is irrelevant,

B9exchange

Off on a bit of a tangent here, but what do your DiL/SiLs call you? I am used to not being called anything, very happy to be called by my first name by them, but I do find it really strange being addressed as 'Granny' by one of them when there are no children present. It is as if I have no personality, function or purpose except to be Granny to her children!

I was just wondering, did you ever suggest to them how you would like them to address you, B9exchange?

My rather intimidating late MiL never gave any indication of what I should call her, so I never did, for fear of it being the wrong thing.. That once led to me ignoring someone knocking at her door, because she was upstairs and I didn't know what name to shout to get her attention!

I later found that it wasn't just me. I discovered years later that her other dil was exactly the same and never called her anything until children came along and 'Grandma' could at least be used if they were present.

OH and I made sure that our dils knew right from the start, when we were first introduced, that we were happy for them to call us by our first names, and they are both happy with that.

Naturally enough, our sons continue to call us Mum and Dad just as they always did.

No I wouldn’t like it not for me. Like being mam.