Phoenix's Curse

Oh no!
Is that you?

Angela73 asked. If you were attending a memorial event for someone, would you stand up and loudly say something like, “The wording on the sheet should be in Times Roman, not Comic Sans”?

No, I would not.

Anglela73 stated You seem to me to not be showing respect for the lovely Phoenix, yet wish people to respect your lifestyle choices, such as veganism, at all times, in irrelevant ways

I was answering questions specifically asked to me.

The original post did not make any reference to in memoriam.

It was a posting of a nasty text which included nasty reference to a specifically male body part.

There is no reason for anyone to post such nasty text in Gransnet. It is no excuse that it was repeating someone else's words.

StarDreamer I think you are extraordinarily rude and insensitive, not only have you tried to derail this but also the other post that was in memory of Phoenix, even when to be requested to let it go out of respect you ignore the requests and follow your own self centred agenda promoting your own views. And, if you report me and I'm requested to leave GN for for saying this, so be it. I also sadly think this thread should be deleted.

It was written by a woman for other women. And much enjoyed by them. You are speaking ill of the dead and many of us find that distressing. Please stop.

Thank you everyone for your support

I didn’t know Phoenix and the original post by the OP until it was explained did seem rather offensive.

At this rate, most of us will be in the doghouse perhaps that is what some posters want?

Men who pop up on Gransnet seem to be such sensitive creatures and more than a little preachy. Phoenix used to incur the wrath of another one every time she started a jokey thread about her OH’s shopping mishaps.

I think he was shown the door by HQ.

Are you the same bloke, SD?

I am not going to report you.

I don't want anyone to leave Gransnet.

I did not try to derail another thread, I answered an issue that was raised. A lady had suggested to me that I read that thread, otherwise I probably would not have looked at the thread due to the title of the thread.

I have not even looked at the thread that is in memoriam of Phoenix.

If someone asks me a question or criticises me, I consider I have a right to reply, not just "take it".

merlotgran asked Are you the same bloke, SD?

No.

There is no reason for anyone to post such nasty text in Gransnet. It is no excuse that it was repeating someone else's words

SD to put it in context: the Curse was first posted very many years ago as a joke and to help someone in distress.

It has been repeated more than once on Gransnet over the years and it is still there on threads. Not deleted.
Perhaps you need to take it all with a large pinch of salo?

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Oh my goodness, wouldn't Phoenix just have revelled in the to-do that this has caused.

The way this thread is going, this group of friends of Phoenix will end up being suspended, just as she was.

eazybee

The way this thread is going, this group of friends of Phoenix will end up being suspended, just as she was.

Who would be to blame though?

No thoughts from me on it as I am completely lost over what on enough it is about. Better things to do sorry

Callistemon21

Oh no!
Is that you?

No.

The original OP has been explained several times yet those who didn't understand are still posting about their hurt feelings. Everyone now knows how the original post upset and hurt some so why keep telling everyone - let it go and leave those who knew Phoenix and her sense of humour to remember her in their own way

Is it too much to ask that those who don't like or understand what the poem is about just move on. No point staying on a thread you find offensive.
Asking politely for respect for Phoenix.

Oh Wind Your Neck In StarDreamer!! (Yawn)

GrannyGravy13

eazybee

The way this thread is going, this group of friends of Phoenix will end up being suspended, just as she was.

Who would be to blame though?

I have the t shirt.
Available in a range of sizes, many customers to date.

Having made your point, would it now be appropriate for you to leave the thread StarDreamer? That is a query on my part, not a suggestion. (Please don’t tell me the difference between a query and a suggestion)

I reported this yesterday. Don't expect anything to be done.
I am surprised by how some have reacted from whom I expected better.
Why would anyone want to be part of a group of silly nasty girls who haven't left the school playground?

You ruined your own thread.

I won't be taking part any longer, I won't be missed - I wasn't part of the "clique".
Nor did I ever agree with something just to be popular.

No doubt this post will be deleted very quickly!

This thread is following the same pattern of baiting that resulted in previous suspensions.

If a post is placed on a public forum all members may comment on it how they wish, and very silly of those who understand its relevance not to answer the early queries.

I don't believe advising posters to leave a thread is in the much-debated 'spirit of Gransnet'.

eazybee surely the spirit of GN is participating in threads which interest you or those which you are knowledgeable about.

I would not dream of posting on a knitting/crafting thread, saying i do not understand why you like knitting it’s just ridiculous or something similar.

Nor would I go onto a memorial thread discussing someone I didn’t know, with demands for explanations.

I do not feel the need to be involved in the minutiae of everything GN, it’s a chat forum not my life.

When Honey asked who and what this was about it should have been explained and all would have been well, but instead it was replied that you had to be in the know to get it.

If you wanted it to be kept between the few then this should have been in a WhatsApp group or PMs.

If a man had put a similar poem about women on here without explanation there would have been uproar and calls for him to be banned from gransnet.

All this is so childish and could have been avoided if Honey was replied to sensibly.