Phoenix's Curse

GrannyGravy13

eazybee surely the spirit of GN is participating in threads which interest you or those which you are knowledgeable about.

I would not dream of posting on a knitting/crafting thread, saying i do not understand why you like knitting it’s just ridiculous or something similar.

Nor would I go onto a memorial thread discussing someone I didn’t know, with demands for explanations.

I do not feel the need to be involved in the minutiae of everything GN, it’s a chat forum not my life.

Well said GG13

Elizabeth27

When Honey asked who and what this was about it should have been explained and all would have been well, but instead it was replied that you had to be in the know to get it.

If you wanted it to be kept between the few then this should have been in a WhatsApp group or PMs.

If a man had put a similar poem about women on here without explanation there would have been uproar and calls for him to be banned from gransnet.

All this is so childish and could have been avoided if Honey was replied to sensibly.

Agreed, would have been quite simple.

I have been following this thread and am sorry to see the way it has gone. There are threads on GN which have upset me, there are threads which I disagree with and some which I have no interest in so I choose to scroll past them and find something else. Life is too short to spend time arguing with someone you don't know and who you will probably never meet and who has no impact on your life. The origin of the poem has been explained - so why not leave it at that.

We all think that then we get deleted/reported/banned

I started this thread after The Curse had been mentioned a fair number of times on the Our Phoenix thread and I did not want it to be missed.

I feel it was very disrespectful for people who presumably read all the threads to nit pick on a Curse that was patently meant to be funny and supportive.

I repeat Curses are not real - if they were my ExSil would not still be strutting round wreaking havoc with other women's lives.

nadateturbe

I reported this yesterday. Don't expect anything to be done.
I am surprised by how some have reacted from whom I expected better.
Why would anyone want to be part of a group of silly nasty girls who haven't left the school playground?

You ruined your own thread.

I won't be taking part any longer, I won't be missed - I wasn't part of the "clique".
Nor did I ever agree with something just to be popular.

No doubt this post will be deleted very quickly!

No
Clique (as has been explained )

eazybee

This thread is following the same pattern of baiting that resulted in previous suspensions.

If a post is placed on a public forum all members may comment on it how they wish, and very silly of those who understand its relevance not to answer the early queries.

I don't believe advising posters to leave a thread is in the much-debated 'spirit of Gransnet'.

Yet posters have been advised to just that !

And, just because some of us have been on GN for years and years and know each other and knew Phoenix doesn't make us a clique - it makes us old!

And, welbeck, it is fairly difficult to avoid the father of 2 much loved grandchildren.

GN has got very po faced lately.

I sometimes think it’s policed by the Taliban kitty. Certainly feels that way on occasion.

GN has got very po faced lately

Yes kitty unfortunately it has.

Define clique ???

GrannyGravy13

^GN has got very po faced lately^

Yes kitty unfortunately it has.

Indeed

All this is so childish and could have been avoided if Honey was replied to sensibly

All this might have been avoided if Honey had asked politely what it was all about.

But I will repeat that it's not right to descend to someone else's level of rudeness.

Honey did post politely and ask what was going on - she deserves a huge apology

This thread is an internal joke that only some members are privy too and is very easily offensive to others not in the circle.

This is a high school- how disappointing

Describing the ‘curse’ as nasty and sneering before having it explained is not being polite.

It isn’t ‘an internal joke’. I wasn’t around in Phoenix’s day but I had heard about her humour and am not excluded from enjoying it.

What you mean by this being a high school I have no idea but please don’t trouble to enlighten me. The way this memorial thread has been trashed - there is no other word for it - is appalling.

It's not an internal joke

It's not a clique or a circle
It's some members reminiscing.

Many threads are not of interest to some posters so they skim past and don't keep on disrupting them.

Thanks GSM

I find the lack of respect, after the situation has been clearly explained, distressing Calli. No ‘oops, sorry, I didn’t realise - I’ll apologise and leave’. I was brought up to honour the dead, whether I knew them or not. Sadly others have rather different standards.

Honeysuckleberries

I really don’t understand what you are on about.

Who is the curse aimed at? Who is your sister in law or is it son in law?

Why would you post such a nasty thing on gransnet.

I’m beyond baffled at such a sneering post.

I don't call this asking politely!

Keep going Kitty most of us old timers know it was a joke. There is no clique it’s just some of us have known each other for years and know the past history of some of the stories and participants.

You beat me to it Kitty!
If that’s a polite enquiry, I’m a boiled joint of gammon.

FannyCornforth

You beat me to it Kitty!
If that’s a polite enquiry, I’m a boiled joint of gammon.

Saw what you did there FC

FannyCornforth

You beat me to it Kitty!
If that’s a polite enquiry, I’m a boiled joint of gammon.

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Good post kate. Don't tell anyone we've met in real life - that might definitely be a clique!!

I am sorry for those close to Phoenix that this well meaning acknowledgement to their much-loved friend has degenerated into the proverbial bunfight.
I came late to the party, but always looked for her name and the merriment and pleasure her posts brought to the forums.
I never contributed as I felt that would be an imposition by one unknown to those others posting: to me, that would have been rude.
But, as with all posts here, I felt I could read, enjoy and move on/linger for as long as I wanted.

Bit like the successful Cruise threads that were, and the Argy.
Non-judgemental fun, all welcome with no defined membership specified.
Now depleted of regulars, leaving behind a divided readership, bereft of much spontaneity and laughter.