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Daddima Wed 02-Nov-22 14:52:51

Seeing the widespread wearing of headscarves ( or ‘headsquares’ as my mother called them), do any of you wear them?
And, watching Princess Margaret’s wedding, did any of you promise to ‘obey’ ( I didn’t), and if you did, did you ever have to keep your vow?

Chestnut Wed 02-Nov-22 15:02:47

It was ladies born in the early 20th century who wore headscarves. My mother wore one on occasions. The boomers (of which I am one) wouldn't be seen dead in a headscarf!

merlotgran Wed 02-Nov-22 15:18:03

Chestnut

It was ladies born in the early 20th century who wore headscarves. My mother wore one on occasions. The boomers (of which I am one) wouldn't be seen dead in a headscarf!

I beg to differ. We did wear headscarves but not tied under the chin. They were tied behind the ears at the nape of the neck.

MrsKen33 Wed 02-Nov-22 15:21:14

Married in 1965 so I probably promised to obey. But I just do what I want really. No one orders anyone around in our house. A gentle request is all that’s needed.

baubles Wed 02-Nov-22 15:21:46

Quite so Merlotgran, I remember wearing cotton squares like that.

And no, I certainly didn’t promise to obey.

biglouis Wed 02-Nov-22 15:24:48

My mother wore one but it was folded into a triangle and the ends knotted on top of the head. Then the pointed bit was tucked in to form a turban. She told me that the fashion began in munitions factories to keep women's long hair out of the way of machines.

biglouis Wed 02-Nov-22 15:30:23

The man isnt born yet who could get me to obey him!

Oldbat1 Wed 02-Nov-22 15:31:40

My mum always wore a head square. I can remember wearing cotton Laura Ashley printed squares tied at back of neck in the early 70s.

MerylStreep Wed 02-Nov-22 15:33:22

biglouis

My mother wore one but it was folded into a triangle and the ends knotted on top of the head. Then the pointed bit was tucked in to form a turban. She told me that the fashion began in munitions factories to keep women's long hair out of the way of machines.

That would be my mother in the Woolwich Arsenal.
She was in what they called the Danger Buildings.
She said it was very good money, though.

SueDonim Wed 02-Nov-22 15:42:13

I wear one when out in our open top sports car! I like to think I look like Grace Kelly or Audrey Hepburn but I fear I’m more Nora Batty or Ena Sharples. grin

MrsKen33 Wed 02-Nov-22 15:50:58

biglouis👏👏👏👏👏

kittylester Wed 02-Nov-22 18:23:27

Never worn a head scarf. A big disappointment to my mother. Nor did I wear the twin set and pearls which befitted my 'position' as the wife of a professional man.

Can't remember whether I promised to obey or not. I don't.

Rosie51 Wed 02-Nov-22 18:49:44

MerylStreep

biglouis

My mother wore one but it was folded into a triangle and the ends knotted on top of the head. Then the pointed bit was tucked in to form a turban. She told me that the fashion began in munitions factories to keep women's long hair out of the way of machines.

That would be my mother in the Woolwich Arsenal.
She was in what they called the Danger Buildings.
She said it was very good money, though.

MerylStreep was your mother one of the 'canaries'? The munition workers were very brave women who worked blooming hard for the 'good pay' they got.

Rosie51 Wed 02-Nov-22 18:58:36

I did promise to obey blush the vicar 'forgot' I'd said I didn't want that. Never mind DH knew there wasn't a chance, not if he wanted to stay married 🤣

Chardy Wed 02-Nov-22 19:03:34

My take on headscarves -
WW2 upside down over rollers
1950s and subsequent old lady-look under the chin
1950s cool dudes under the chin then tied round the back (Audrey Hepburn style?)
Late 70s triangles worn tied behind Romany-style

SachaMac Wed 02-Nov-22 19:04:42

I’ve never worn a headscarf but my mum would sometimes wear one when she came out of the hairdressers in the 60’s, occasionally a fine chiffon one.
I got married in the late 70’s and the vicar gave us the option to have ‘obey’ taken out of the vows, we did.

Fleurpepper Wed 02-Nov-22 19:17:20

Would have never said 'obey'.

I like scarves- folded as a 'cravate' to protect my throat. When it gets cold, if my throat is warm, I am warm and vice-versa. On the head, never!

Kim19 Wed 02-Nov-22 19:27:17

Nope to both scarves and obedience. When minister queried my 'request' husband to be said 'whatever she wants'. Wise fellow indeed!

Sparklefizz Wed 02-Nov-22 20:21:58

My 2nd husband (now ex) demanded in 1987 that I promise to obey. The minister said even Princess Diana didn't promise to obey and that it was no longer one of the vows. Husband-to-be shut up, but I should have acted on that red flag!! It was definitely a sign of things to come. sad

Deedaa Wed 02-Nov-22 20:37:59

My mother wore headscarves a lot. She also used to wear those little plastic rainhats - I didn't wear those either. I have a memory of a friend driving me across the South of France in his open top car about 20 years ago. I wore a scarf then but still looked pretty wind blown.

Smileless2012 Wed 02-Nov-22 20:51:05

Never worn headscarves and didn't promise to obey. I would never make a promise I know I couldn't keep.

biglouis Wed 02-Nov-22 21:01:13

I wore them 1960s style in the 1960s. I also wore them as hijab when I visited Iran in the 1990s, together with a long gown that I bought in Manchester. There are women in my area who dress like that today.

biglouis Wed 02-Nov-22 21:02:48

Meant Audrey Hepburn style wrapped around the neck and tied behind.

lixy Wed 02-Nov-22 21:06:00

Yes to the head scarf - cotton squares tied at the back of the neck. I find this very useful on windy days as my hair definitely didn't promise to obey anyone ever.

I did promise to obey - don't remember being given a choice. Luckily it hasn't been an issue.

Harris27 Wed 02-Nov-22 21:07:23

My husband always says ‘ brave man that asks you to obey’ been happily married for 45 years that’s what I told him anyway!😂