What would you say if your husband told you to stop squawking?

Plain rude and offensive.

I emphasise - my DH who also has some interesting issues not dissimilar to those mentioned will snap "Don't start" the minute I challenge or try to raise a subject he might be uncomfortable with. It is very hurtful and fills me with a sort of impotent rage which is hard to get rid of. My usual response is " I haven't started but I will if you carry on". On the whole though I just avoid the conflict......

I have one like that - he says “what are you going on about” - I always feel like saying F off but now just calmly leave the room (if it suits me) …it’s usually about a topic I have discussed but he had his ‘deaf ears’ on when I was speaking …twit!
Saying what your DH said is offensive and you should tell him to stop using that kind of language - I will if you will 👍😘

Is that the worse you’ve had from a husband
Mine sticks his tongue at me ( yes…like a three year old!)…or wags his hands at me in a dismissive fashion!! Or…. When he wanted my attention would ‘ whistle’ yes! Like a dog! I’d take squawking. Mine doesn’t do it now as he’s gone into full time care after me caring for him for 25 years after his stroke! This behaviour wasn’t stroke induced …he’s done it from day 1 of marriage! Apparently he did it to his mother and sisters with no reprimands from parents …that’s where all this behaviour starts…..I blame parents!😂😂

So I would cease all comms altogether but if he has a matter of extreme urgency, he may squawk you on emergency code 7700.
At all other times you will remain remain on “listening squawk code 7000” but this is a monitoring service only.
All the best, Kimberly, SportAir Flying Club!!!!

I would have slapped his legs and sent him to bed without any tea !

I agree, Monica.

Maybe a divorce might be the best result.

Thanks MOnica, as ever, neatly summed up.

We have two threads going on here. One is about the vocabulary used. The other is about the context.

The vocabulary is innocuous. the context isn't.

Callistemon21 🤣🤣

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How long has he been like this to you?

I'd say..... Speak to me like that again and you'll hear what squawking is really like. Now wise up!

She has told him not to use it, but he still does. He knows it upsets her.

icanhandthemback

I'd have pecked him ferociously!

Little birdie flying high
Dropped a message from the sky

I'd have pecked him ferociously!

Squawk:

(of a person) say something in a loud, discordant tone.
"‘What are you doing?’ she squawked"
complain or protest about something.
"he is well known for squawking about price-fixing at local gas pumps"

It's an idiom.

Just bop him one.
to hit someone or something, especially in a friendly way
It's another idiom.

M0nica

welbeck hear, hear.

Hear, hear and hear, hear again!

welbeck hear, hear.

well, i'm surprised.
to me it's a rather comic turn of phrase, nothing that would make me feel insulted or disrespected.
i would not use it in the workplace, as it is too informal, affectionate i'd say, akin to calling someone a silly sausage.

I do not think that the use of this word has anything to do with how the person spoken to had themselves been talking.

It cold simply be that Person A was trying to talk to Person B while they were making an important phone call and Person B was getting exasperated as they couldn't concentrate on the phone call, they might well in exasperation say to Person A, 'for heaven's sake go away and stop squawking while I am speaking to the doctor/solicitor/garage' whether person A had a deep bass baritone voice or high soprano.

What would I say? I wouldn't have a husband that dared to tell me to 'stop squawking' so I can't answer that!

Perhaps you were!

My late DH might not have used the word, but if he had, it could well have been due to my own tone of voice.
Listen to other women/people getting stressed - can you say hand on heart you didn’t “squawk” ?

I am just as likely as DH to use an anodyne irritant word like 'squawking'. Nothing to do with control, all to do with what words all of us use when irritated.

There are far worse words, like 'c*nt. wh*re, and the full gamut of really vile and obscene words contained within the English language, 'squawking' isn't even an expletive!

I refuse to believe that everyone obecting to this word live in perfect relationships, where never a bad word is used, no one ever disagrees. All of us get irritated at times and use perfectly clean normal words but with an inflection or tone that makes them mildly pejorative.

I would include 'squawking' among these normal words that can be mildly perjorative in the wrong context. Parrots squawk, so, do other birds. All kinds of sounds can be described as squawking.

Lats face it, said with the right tone of voice the word 'darling', 'love', or 'sweetheart' can be an insult.

" He’s being nice at the moment. It’s about control."

Spoken by women over decades to describe why soaking up the abuse (whatever sort) REALLY doesn't matter.

Quick test : If he told one of his male friends over and again to "stop squawking" what do you think his friend would say/do in response?

Tell him to get a job involving sex & travel? Deck him? Walk away? Tell everyone that old whats-it had lost it?