Whenever I find it impossible to say “No”, I respond with just “I don’t think so”. It avoids needing to explain myself, and leaves the other person with really no room to move
What time do you get up and go to bed?
I have new neighbours moving in this week I know the family and they are decent people but I m in a bit of a pickle the lady has just come to ask me as they can’t get their wifi put on until after Christmas and have children could they I use my password for a couple of weeks and they d willingly pay me to do that I d feel terrible to say no but will it make any difference to my plan (which is wifi only with a landline but as long as I don’t use the landline for outgoing calls I pay no extra)
Hope this makes sense
On the whole I can get by technically but not very clever about all the out of normal stuff
Whenever I find it impossible to say “No”, I respond with just “I don’t think so”. It avoids needing to explain myself, and leaves the other person with really no room to move
Smile on face, bright and breezy: say "No", explain (e.g."I've checked my contract and I can't do it"), then explain alternatives (as mentioned in thread above). Big security risk and what guarantee have you got that they'll ever get their Wi-Fi sorted out if they're using yours? Then, when you inevitably ask when they are getting theirs, you will feel guilty again. Be content to take them a shepherd's pie around the day they move.
They can use their mobile phone’s hotspot. I don’t have WiFi at all and use my phone to access the internet, download films, YouTube and everything else someone with a router can do.
I’m not very technical but could they not pay to use a BT Wifi hotspot instead of piggybacking on yours?
Also the idea of getting the internet company to pay for enhanced 4G access whilst waiting to get wifi connected that someone suggested here is a good one.
No. Absolutely not !!!
I would suggest they buy dongles which are sticks containing allowances of WiFi as far as I know
I think you are obliged to let them do this and start off being good neighbours. You can show her your current bill and if the next one is higher if the children have downloaded films or anything like that and the charges are increased she could just pay the difference.
Cp43, perhaps, you haven't actually read the whole thread and the reasons why it would be foolish to do to give access to WIFI?
It's nothing to do with cost, but all to do with protecting BB's online security.
Yes their mobiles can be used as hotspots (they can connect to wifi on it) my 2 sons used to connect to mine in pre-covid days if we stayed in hotel overnight while visiting family for example as they have iphones which seem to do everything on wifi and i had a different one but i had our main family account.They used to watch stuff &play games on their phones tablets etc all from my phones hotspot.
Also we were faced with same problem when we moved recently- ours ended up only a few days but if it had been longer one of our options would have been to purchase a 'dongle' which can provide internet.Tell them to look into that now before christmas they can purchase them most places where they do 'tech'.Theyre not too costly, depends how much you need.(i learned all this from nessessity and from 2 sons so their kids will probably know this if theyre older& gaming etc.
Cp43- NO ONE is 'obliged' to let others share their wifi connection/passwords.Its not about being a good or bad neighbour- its a security risk- Not only as in whatever next doors may be downloading but most folk do internet banking/tax forms/dvla/government accounts/DWP etc- all online- if anyone hacked into her accounts on anything consequences could be dire.Who knows who may visit them at christmas & new year and they might all end up using the internet and have the password.Her neighbours may be decent people, but how about everyone who enters their home? Theres no way of knowing- so best to say no.I cant see the OP's internet provider agreeing to this.🤔
Yes Newdawn thats exactly the ones i mentioned.Tell them to ask at phone shops or Currys or ao.maybe or even argos.These dongles are sold in most places now.Amazon as well probably, they have everything.
I take it the very few who are condoning this are the mumsnet folk?The younger ones who dont think twice about security and ask for a password as soon as they enter a building? 🤔😆
They don't need to use your WiFi they can buy a dongle providing data. My daughter did this when she moved because she needed access to the web for work but her WiFi wasn't in.
Well done BlueBelle- pop the letter in a nice christmas card- you could also take them flowers or a pot plant to show no hard feelings to stay good with the new neighbours- thats up to you but please dont let them change your mind.(Also with the festive entertainment& new vid games out etc the downloading could have way exceeded your allowance & then faced with huge bill) - the neighbours said they'd pay extra to you but what if it was more than they had? What then? You would be liable to pay bill as well as the security risks.
I wouldn’t give them your password - they will have access to all the sites you use. You don’t know them well enough to be sure they will not misuse access. Say you are willing to sign them in for short periods, but no more.
Cp43
For your own sake I hope your not so ignorant with regard to Internet security.
Decline - apart from all the other good advice, if lots of people are using your wifi your own speeds could be negatively affected and remember that once you've given your password your neighbour has it for good, so next time that person's family wants to use your wifi they can do it without even informing you.
Perhaps you could invite the family round to watch your TV for any programmes they particularly want to see? Nice gesture to welcome them too.
Absolutely no. You don’t know these people and even if you did, you have no idea what they may be acccessing. Let’s say worst case scenario- child porn…
The idea put forward by another post is brilliant- tell them you’ll just check with your WiFi provider, then come back to them saying they’ve said no - it would compromise your contract etc. Frankly, I’m surprised they have asked.
I don't think there is any need for discussion. DON'T DO IT! They may be good neighbours and everything might be fine but if it goes wrong you have to deal with the consequences.
I'm not good at telling people "no" and it seems that takers pick up on that quickly. I'd begin with these neighbors by having boundaries, something I'm learning to do in old age. Saying you're just not comfortable with it is explanation enough.
i have had this situation in the past and foolishly gave the passcode to some one i knew they then told me they had sorted out their own (but they hadnt ) and as i was on a data allowence which went over due to them constantly using it i was charged extra and never saw payment from them, my advice is no never share your passcode regardless of who it is
I was in the same boat in January after moving house. We had no signal on our phones (an absolute dead zone here!) so couldn't do that either! Completely uncontactable for 3 weeks, it was a nightmare, as obviously when moving you also have a lot to do online!
I am waiting to go onto fast fibre broadband sometime in the spring, so when my daughter moved out and took the broadband contract with her I was a bit stick ....
I am now using a monthly rolling contract with NOW Broadband - the only one I think that's available. It's not GREAT as I occasionally get a little buffering when streaming, but it is perfectly adequate for a few months until I go with Gigaclear.
www.nowtv.com/broadband#ib-section-section-3
Scroll down to the 'no contract option'
On the other hand, when I moved into my last house, I used my neighbour's broadband and you can't access anything of theirs, just change password when they are sorted ...
I did this for new neighbours earlier this year and to be honest although nothing went wrong fortunately, I was stressed about it the whole time as I’m not very ‘techy’ and was a bit worried that they could possibly see my private stuff, so I would not do it again for anyone in the future, them included.
We fell out a couple of months ago over a shared bush so do not speak now but my Wi-Fi went down last month for a week which was inconvenient but I have got a dongle that I bought a few years ago and thought I would top that up when suddenly up popped an ad on my phone
from BT allowing me to buy some Wi-Fi which is what I did and although it was more expensive than my normal Sky contract for the week it allowed me access to the internet etc and I didn’t have to rely on anyone else. If I were you I would suggest they buy some Wi-Fi from BT to tide them over.
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