nanna8
What a lovely husband you have, AussieGran. Not many men would even pretend to listen. In response to the OP, I suppose it all depends how much you value the friendship.I don’t really like the thought of private messages going round on FB- I think that isn’t very nice and it would be better to either put up and shut up or confront rather than be sneaky.
Hi nanna 8. OP here. The friendship with the hostess is very much valued and she is very stiff upper lip and very traditional but incredibly kind and lovely. Everything is as it would have been in 1950s - i.e. don't name, don't complain. We have all been friends for years and potter through life. The domineering lady is newish to the group but the hostess admires her verve, sparkle and competency and has sort of favoured her over the rest of us. One of the ladies was the hostess's best friend until the domineering lady appeared and now it is all (let's call her Mrs Sparkle). Mrs Sparkle made this, Mrs Sparkle did that. Mrs Sparkle advised that....so the hostess is complicit in the situation. If the rest of us say anything the hostess will be mortified hence the flurry of messages on FB. I think it is a form of relief for all of us. We are hoping she will lose her shine and become one of us. Like I said, I just zone out now as I don't really want to lose the other friends.
