nexus63
mawthemerrier, some people don't really have much to look forward to and memories of the past are what makes them smile. i am almost 60, i have lost a husband of 18 years and a partner of 18 years, i will live on my own for the rest of my life, i spend 90% of my life housebound due to illness, i am not sad about my life...it is what it is, i love my old music and remembering dancing with my husband to the song young girl as he was 18 years older than me, laughing with my partner at silly things, but i also look forward to seeing my son and his family and getting phone calls and facetime from other family members. my life is not over...it is just different to how i thought it would be, but sometimes the memories are what keeps you going.
Sincere condolences Nexus .
I too am widowed Paw died 5 years ago, we had been together since meeting in 1966 , marrying in 1970 ( I am quite a lot older than you at 75). I agree many of us have little to look forward to but for me the essential thing is to enjoy or appreciate or at least make the most we can of the present. We all of us have our memories- I don't dismiss them or all the pictures I treasure and I spend many happy moments and hours remembering the good times - those will never come back but there is nothing to be gained (for me) in dwelling too much in that past. My first lippy/film/record/favourite pop song- so what?
The past has played its part in forming the present let's not deny the importance it has in our future. Psychologists tell us it is important not to look too far into the future - that is often depressing, but take what pleasure we can from now and the short term future.