Fake profiles and accounts

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So I'm afraid it doesn't matter how she feels as they are my priority

Umm.

VioletSky

We are respectful of our children's needs and wishes in our home, none of them want a relationship with her.

So I'm afraid it doesn't matter how she feels as they are my priority

And they don't want any contact from her and do not like it when she sets up another profile and messages them or tries to add them as a friend

She has no right to my children they have their own rights

Absolutely!

I am afraid it doesn't matter how she feels, she destroys her own relationships and only has herself to blame for that.

My children shouldn't carry any guilt for that, the guilt is hers to carry

If my children wanted to see or speak to her they would, especially the grown adults. I don't tell them what to do

Some relationships are toxic and have to end. This can be hard for both sides but in most cases one side doesn't continually harass the other.

I would find that totally unacceptable.

I do too and I don't understand how it's less frowned upon than say, an abusive ex husband.

On the other side, it's obviously not a healthy mental situation for the person doing it.

I would like it to stop really. I left the door open for a long time in regards to getting counselling together etc

But then I found out from another family member that she would estrange us after we had let her back in and she got to have her say.

So I asked for no contact

The other issue is that these new profiles pop up for people's special days and sometimes upsets them on what should be a happy day.

AGAA4

Some relationships are toxic and have to end. This can be hard for both sides but in most cases one side doesn't continually harass the other.

I would find that totally unacceptable.

Indeed.

Cut offenders away, be over with all toxic behaviour.

The other issue is that these new profiles pop up for people's special days and sometimes upsets them on what should be a happy day.

I'm sorry, I don't understand this. People have to be invited to access someone else's account. How are these new profiles popping up?? Have I misunderstood?

AreWeThereYet

^The other issue is that these new profiles pop up for people's special days and sometimes upsets them on what should be a happy day.^

I'm sorry, I don't understand this. People have to be invited to access someone else's account. How are these new profiles popping up?? Have I misunderstood?

I don't use a lot of social media and I have deleted all but one to prevent this issue and have high security

I had to shut down my old email and create a new one too which was a mammoth task.

But my mother sets up new profiles to message my children. My children block her and she starts a new one. Facebook, Instagram, even Snapchat so each new email or phone number she gets means an influx of new profiles.

It's interesting to me because I always believed her when she said she wasn't tech savvy. That is blatantly not true

But my mother sets up new profiles to message my children. My children block her and she starts a new one. Facebook, Instagram, even Snapchat so each new email or phone number she gets means an influx of new profiles

Is that not harassment? Can you involve ? The police?

I've tried and they said because it's in the public domain, it is OK...

I think that's wrong and we should be stamping down on this sort of thing really

What's the difference between a family member and a bulky if the family member is the bully

If a person asks another person, not matter who, not to contact them any longer, it should be respected. Not doing so becomes harassment at best.

You were right in making the decision to stop contact for yourself and your minor children due to the abuse you have described. I also commend you for allowing your adult children to make the choice, it is her fault if they do not.

I'm surprised anyone would say that it's okay as it's in the public domain.

This is from the Met Police website:

If a person sends you threatening, abusive or offensive messages via Facebook, Twitter or any other social networking site, they could be committing an offence.

The most relevant offences are 'harassment' and 'malicious communications'. For harassment to be committed, there must have been a clear 'course of conduct'. That is, two or more related occurrences. The messages do not necessarily have to be violent in nature, but would need to have caused some alarm or distress.

It may of course depend on what is said in the messages as to whether the police would get involved, I don't know.

www.met.police.uk/advice/advice-and-information/har/harassment-on-social-media/

It's a tough one, I think we are just not quite over the boundary..

And some people just don't seem to see the issue

Her messaging my children how hurt and devastated she is just looks like her pain to some..

To me it looks like she is trying to make them feel bad on their birthdays when many other days are available.

Even with police I guess you don't know who you are going to get

This sort of thing is so so common now!

People set up fake profiles to get into people's private social media, or to be nasty and pretend it isn't them

I just can't understand that thinking

Honestly, I think this type of behavior and the consequences from it is in it's infancy.

If all she is doing is creating new account and messages do not include violence, threats or abuse, there is nothing the police can do.

It is something every person who is stalked goes through. There never seems to be enough to prosecute, and IMO a lot of abusers know where the line is to not cross. It is part of the tactic of harassment they use. They aren't breaking the law, but still are terrorizing their victims.

I think for many people (not all) separating from one's parent causes a continual ache. A wound that refuses to heal. In this circumstance someone, like you VS, would only maintain this separation if that wound is preferable to the alternative. It is, you know it is. Not all parents are healthy or impart love in a healthy way. Your mother by all accounts was awful. She was cruel. I wouldn't have let a person like that near my children. That someone is blood related to you doesn't automatically make them safe. There are of course many accounts on this board of good loving grandparents deprived of their healthy relationships but that is not every case or your case.

There are certain people who thrive on fake accounts!

Sometimes they seem to have more than one but in the end you can pick them because they revert to type! VPNs can be a curse as well as a blessing.