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Foxygloves Tue 18-Apr-23 11:29:55

Now that I live alone I am frequently to be found still in my pj’s at 11 or later having read the paper online, dealt with emails, Facebook, GN and WhatsApp. And sometimes the current book. I may have put a load through the machine or hung up what was washed overnight unobserved as nobody can see into my garden.
Judging by the Good Morning thread though, many others have put in a day’s work before I am even vertical.
However I am encouraged by the occasional sighting of my neighbour -at least while my hornbeam hedge was bare - in her conservatory at the same time, still in her dressing gown.
#sluttygran or is it OK to do what I want when I want and nobody’s business but my own?

JackyB Wed 19-Apr-23 17:22:26

I used to get my housework done in my dressing gown but somehow I can't these days. I go straight into the shower and have to get a bra on to tame the "girls" and be comfortable. I don't feel awake until the water has run over my head and face.

fancythat Wed 19-Apr-23 18:09:43

cc

fancythat

www.marksandspencer.com/l/lingerie/nightwear/nightdresses/fs5/cotton

My goodness, a lot of these look just like summer dresses!

and 4allweknow. Dont they just!

I went to two m&s stores today. In neither did I see the first about 10 on the link.
I was disappointed! But it wasnt quite what I was after anyway. But I did want to see them to see how they looked in reality.

Perhaps they can only be obtained online? I dont know.

Saggi Wed 19-Apr-23 18:13:40

After 51 years of marriage and the last 27 looking after my invalid ( stroked out) husband , as his nurse…then later as dementia the Alzheimer’s kicked off as his psychiatrist! I feel that as he’s now gone into full time care ( after my third stroke!) I’m entitled to do what the hell I please . That includes going to bed and sleeping ( instead of sitting in a landing chair watching him wander the upstairs rooms all night ) that was a two year stretch! Getting up when I please , after my brain teasesing on line with my Elevate app! Doing an hour of my Spanish course and reading my latest ‘on the go’ book….I can and do wander the house NOT doing housework ….usually in pj’s until I’m ready to face the day. It’s your life …live it as you damn well please . It’s taken me 51 years to discover who the hell I was meant to be! And I like it!

fancythat Wed 19-Apr-23 18:14:24

Riverwalk

fancythat

www.marksandspencer.com/l/lingerie/nightwear/nightdresses/fs5/cotton

Interesting - I didn't know M&S sold Cyberjammies.

I've been wearing Cyberjammies nighties for a few years - they're very good quality with interesting fun patterns!

They seem to be an ethical company, in as much as one can ascertain these things - British but goods made in India and paying their workers higher than the legal minimum.

cyberjammies.com/

They do have interesting patterns.
Better nightwear than they used to maybe.
But as I said in the last post, two stores didnt have all of the ones on the link, by quite some way as far as I could see.
But I certainly do not live in an area noted for its fashion.

fancythat Wed 19-Apr-23 18:15:51

Good for you Saggi.

fancythat Wed 19-Apr-23 18:16:13

flowers

SachaMac Wed 19-Apr-23 19:09:14

Now I’m retired I love having the freedom to wake up, get up, shower & get dressed when I’m ready. I only set my alarm if I have an appointment or if I’m going out for the day. Sometimes I’m up earlier than others depending how I’ve slept. The first job when I’m up & dressed is to walk my dog, then it’s back home for a large coffee. Luckily my dog enjoys a bit of a lie in too.

Bijou Wed 19-Apr-23 19:48:31

Even though I am housebound and the only person I see for an hour every morning is my help I don’t feel right unless I wash and dress straight after breakfast.
I have tried to stay in my night dress but by lunch time did not feel right.

Gundy Wed 19-Apr-23 21:18:41

Ahhh, retirement! For 73 yrs I had to be a morning person and make that nasty commute. For the last two yrs I’ve been able to sleep in. My typical day now:
• no alarm, awaken between 7-9:00AM
• feed the cat
• COFFEE
• MORE coffee, check phone stuff
• read the NYTimes, play Wordle
• (11:00) What for breakfast, make it
• what chores, tasks around the house
• shower and dress - NO BRA (outlawed!)
• emerge into the real world for errands, groceries, volunteer, or lunch with friends
• come back home and thank the good Lord I made it in one piece for another day
• feed the cat
• cocktail, anyone? Dinner, anyone?
• go to bed and start the vicious cycle all over again.
Amen!
USA Gundy

Oreo Wed 19-Apr-23 21:28:29

Retirement sounds fun, can’t wait tho will have to as many more working years to come.On my work days I get showered and dressed early on days off I stay in pjs until around 10 a.m.

Oreo Wed 19-Apr-23 21:30:08

Forgot to say Foxygloves not to feel guilty about what you do, enjoy your life I bet you earned it.

hilz Thu 20-Apr-23 10:09:06

How is it that no house calls before 12 happen all week but on those days you get up at blooming 5.30 am mooch about a bit before you do the vacuuming, dusting, washing, ironing and deciding on a shower when you have just finished slouching with your your coffee and catching a bit of daytime TV at 11am that the doorbell rings..Its the same when you sneak back to bed with a cheeky coffee and are still there at 9 am and your friend facetimes looking all smart and with perfect hair and make up. It's blooming annoying.

GagaJo Thu 20-Apr-23 10:16:34

I'm up and working by 7am, take DGS to school for 8.30. Once I'm home though, in front of my laptop ready for the real days work, I'm back in dressing gown and slippers! Looking for all the world as if I've just got up. I wish! 🤣🤣🤣

hilz Thu 20-Apr-23 10:26:41

I am usually driven by needing structure in my day. Up, showered, dressed before going downstairs. and its rare to have a PJ type of a day but they do happen. Annoying to be caught out but hey ho. In our own home we can both suit ourselves.

Supergranuation Thu 20-Apr-23 10:32:35

I always get dressed as soon as I can after I get out of bed around 8.15 am, not because I want to but because my Mum always referred to the film Lady in a Dressing Gown if I didn't and I still hear her saying that every time I'm not dressed and presentable by 9.00am. I am always so envious of most gransnetters who can get up and go straight out to have a stroll around the garden centre, read a book etc etc. Not my Mum but my granny and a very uptight Aunt always cleaning, baking, ironing, folding and colour coding towels etc etc has turned me into having ocd with all of those things before I am unable to relax which is about 8.45 each evening. I am then so tired I shower watch a bit of TV and go to bed. Retirement shouldn't be like this. Has anyone got any ideas how I can relax more please?

Siope Thu 20-Apr-23 10:56:36

What are you worried would happen if you didn’t do those things in that way, Supergranuation?

Foxygloves Thu 20-Apr-23 11:11:21

Love it Gundy !
I like your style

Supergranuation Thu 20-Apr-23 11:24:43

I don't know Siope, thanks for your reply BTWsmile I think it's just deep rooted and I need to stop being so silly, forget about what was planted in my mind years ago, live my life how I want to and just enjoy it!

fancythat Thu 20-Apr-23 18:15:31

Supergranuation Oh dear. That is a shame. Would some therapy help? Not that I know enough about that. But it couldnt do you any harm?

Supergranuation Thu 20-Apr-23 21:47:22

Thank you Fancythat, I've been thinking about looking on line for some self help so may be I'll try doing just that and also try to take some inspiration from other gransnetters!

fancythat Fri 21-Apr-23 09:00:01

Good ideas!

annodomini Fri 21-Apr-23 09:42:28

OP, your routine is my routine.

Kalu Fri 21-Apr-23 10:05:08

Callistemon21

I gave up on the Good Morning thread ages ago, Foxygloves, it was nearly over by the time I stopped to look 😂

Mind you, I had put on six loads of washing and thoroughly cleaned the house from top to bottom by the time I stopped for a coffee and to look at GN.
Not to mention mowing the lawn and weeding the garden
😇

😂😂😂

It is now 10am and I am still in my —jammies— lounge wear.

Kalu Fri 21-Apr-23 10:24:59

Bazingagranny. Kaftans and slip on canvas shoes are perfect indoors or in the garden until I think about getting dressed before noon.
I have a fill length red one and whenever I wear it, DH wishes me a blessed day. 😄…..Handmaids Tale to clarify.

Callistemon21 Fri 21-Apr-23 10:33:14

I used to wear kaftans but haven't owned one for years.

They sound perfect for long, hot summers