Dating

I would leave him to his life in lodgings. Find someone else! You can't know someone seeing them on Sundays only. What if he gambled all his money and is only trying to get yours? He could be seeing another girl on Wednesdays and a third on Fridays. Especially if he is going Dutch.

When I was young, I went out with a chap for a few months - until I found out that his girlfriend was pregnant! I hadn't met his friends or family, of course.

After that, I wouldn't trust anyone until I knew their family and friends very well. I'd want to know all about their day, too, where they worked etc. (and I'd check).

be careful is my advice. the past is often a look into the future.
it may relate to his past.There are horror stories out there, but good ones too re dating. Be careful that your heart does not rule your head.In 2017 i had the' eyes meeting' across the room experience, it messed with my judgement, only good friends held me back from getting too involved, they were right ,i dodged a big bullet! take it slowly.....

No not just you. I would his behaviour quite strange too, why Dutch women is my first question? Sounds to me as though he is just using you to fill his time once a week!
Come on dear your worth so much better. Don't undervalue yourself.
As for dating when your older yes it's a minefield, yes it's scary and yes you should be wary.
None of the usual dating websites do any background checks and that in itself tells you how easy a target you are for the most unsavoury characters, be careful, don't give too much personal information if you take that route.
People usually say join a club an interest you enjoy like painting, sports, music and so on, however if you're anything like me I am not a joiner which makes meeting anyone taking that route a big no.
Your still young I know that sounds totally inadequate and blaze but I hope you meet someone in time you'll find happiness and fun with.

I had what appeared to be a lovely man who lodged with me for a short time.I felt sorry for him and did his cooking and laundry but one morning I discovered he had left without paying. Soon after this I saw him on Crimewatch after robbing a building society,

I am the horribly suspicious type after two failed marriages which I was really committed to! So I personally would be thinking ‘why only Sundays?’ Does he not want to be with you more of the time? Has he never wanted his own space rather than someone else’s? Do you holiday together or does he not take them? Seems like a) he has another life elsewhere or b) he has no intention of committing and just wants to pootle on the same old dreary way forever! Or he might just be hedging his bets for a ‘nurse or a purse’! Whatever way, you deserve so much better than this! Don’t waste your time any further and go find someone who wants the happy and fulfilling relationship you do! I myself at nearly 67 have given up looking now as the last man I dated (only dated a few!) spent a great deal of time exaggerating small illnesses and expecting me to take them as seriously as he did. A lucky escape for me! You are young enough to make a fresh start. Good luck!

I’d say what does your gut tell you. I used to date a guy long distance and would see each other every second weekend because of work, he mainly came to mine. I did go to his every now and again. His neighbors would look but not speak and I just had this feeling I couldn’t shake off sometimes I couldn’t get hold of him he said he was working so I thought I’ve got to visit unannounced because something isn’t right. Yes I wasn’t only one on his list he also had someone else and she didn’t know about me neither. So I’d say listen to your gut if it’s saying something isn’t right get shot as quickly as you can.

It might be okay , but I have a bad feeling about this guy .
If he's free :
how come he can only see you on Sundays ?
Being a lodger for 15 years at age 60 is strange too .
I walked away from two relationships which made me feel uncomfortable .

One guy could only see me at my house late on Saturday leaving on Sunday after lunch because he didn't like to leave his cat !
He was very scruffy .
His home sounded like a tip .
And he was increasingly bad tempered and unpleasant .

The other guy , introduced to me by a friend seemed great at first .
He liked to see me during the week and then on Fridays seemed in a blind panic to get rid of me in case his children came over .
He was obsessively neat and tidy and hypercritical of me .
I realised that he was an alcoholic and that his life was a fantasy .

It would be nice to meet someone , but if they aren't right - then it's just not worth it .
Wishing you lots of luck whatever you decide .

He sounds like a bad deal to me. I’d steer clear. He’s not telling you everything.
Future dates? “Sorry, I’m busy.”

If he keeps asking, then questions you “why not?”… depending on your answer, watch his real personality emerge. That would be a real clue as to his character.

Personally, men who are this frugal and stingy with their $$ and time are not personable.

A real man who is interested in you would start picking up the check after a while. That wouldn’t make you obligated. You could also treat him then too occasionally for a breakfast, lunch, movie, etc.
Good luck!
USA Gundy

Don't waste your time. Simples

It's wise to be cautious. I wouldn't make a harsh judgement on the few details you've given.

By the sound of it the relationship hasn't progressed to a physical one and if only seeing him once a week and both paying there should be no feeling that you owe him a meal or drink etc and have to see him again. I would be finding out a lot more first eg if he told you he has been living in lodgings for 15 years ask about his life for the previous 45 yrs. You should pick a lot up from his answers. Not just the verbal responses but how cagey, avoiding or honest he seems. You also haven't said how long you've known him or where you met. This could give answers too.

Tread carefully but don't judge too early.