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finns Thu 07-Sept-23 11:29:51

i’ve always wanted to be a midwife/ nurse and come from a family of nurses and paramedics police military etc.

i started training in my 20s but was happily sidetracked by having my own babies and decided not to be a career woman ha ! I did get a degree later and have done lots of fabulous jobs, but the dream of midwife never left me. Now my children are mostly grown up and i thought about going for it - to finally have the time to myself and dedicate myself to my own dreams. I could start the journey by college and renewing old qualifications as a mature student alongside my life experiences of birth and losses and everything in between, but yet again i’ve had a crisis of confidence- am I just being a past it old fool ?, all be it a young 53yr still lively not ready to write myself off lady ? I’d be 58 at qualifying
is it too late ?
fx

naughtynanny Sat 09-Sept-23 12:15:46

This may not be totally PC, but, I'd far rather have a mature MUM, nurse/midwife, with life experience helping me deliver my baby, than someone with a zillion paper qualifications, but who actually doesn't know what I'm going through. Go for it, enjoy this new adventure. Good Luck

hilz Sat 09-Sept-23 12:18:35

All those life experiences are transferable skill and a huge value in any work place. Its heartwarming to know that despite all the negativity around nursing and NHS that someone with a genuine passion to nurse may soon join other trainees.

Treacletoffee Sat 09-Sept-23 12:19:23

How fabulous- go for it - my retirement age will be 67 so you would have over 10 years left anyway to share your expertise ❤️

Bella23 Sat 09-Sept-23 12:20:59

Have a big think after reading these posts then if you still want to "Let them reject you, not you them" before you even apply.

Harris27 Sat 09-Sept-23 12:22:55

Go for it I qualified as a nursery nurse mid 40’s never looked back.

Kanny Sat 09-Sept-23 12:29:01

Absolutely go for it!

ReggieLouise Sat 09-Sept-23 12:30:08

Do it!

Helenlouise3 Sat 09-Sept-23 12:31:23

Definitely go for it. The life skills you'll have acquired will equip you well for the role

sarahcyn Sat 09-Sept-23 12:31:57

I so wish I had retrained as a midwife twenty years ago when I began working as a doula in my early 40s. Promise me you won’t hesitate to start training now!

JLR1220 Sat 09-Sept-23 12:35:13

Fill out the application and don’t look back!!! You won’t regret it and will thoroughly enjoy the journey!! I’m proud of you!

Bridielou Sat 09-Sept-23 12:38:54

Go for it if that’s your dream and it’s possible. Wishing you the best of luck

Carbonated Sat 09-Sept-23 12:44:00

Same here! 53, always wanted to be a psychologist. Would qualify when I'm 57. Applying now.... if I can do it, believe me, so can you! Go for it!

Daisydaisydaisy Sat 09-Sept-23 12:51:10

Love this …Go for it ..,If it doesn’t work out hey ho 🩷💜💚

fluttERBY123 Sat 09-Sept-23 13:01:01

53! You are a spring chicken. And there is a shortage of midwives. You have a duty to the nation to train.

MarathonRunner Sat 09-Sept-23 13:10:06

Absolutely not , I had 3 children , first one delivered by an older midwife and it was a most positive experience . Go for it , you'll be fab

Granabs Sat 09-Sept-23 13:17:08

I’ve recently been a birth partner to a young friend and while the midwives were wonderful I can also see how much as a new mum my friend valued her Doulah. She had day and night Doulahs who were both mature women with lots of experience supporting the choices she made and helping her make those voices work. Doulahs are wonderful and if I was ten years younger ( 58!) I’d take it on a my third career!

SporeRB Sat 09-Sept-23 13:26:31

Before you commit yourself to 5 years of study, it may be a good idea to see whether you can get work experience in midwifery where you shadow a midwife and see what the work really involves.

I looked online and there is a company which provides 2 weeks pre med work experience in London or Thailand.

My younger sister, living overseas, worked as a nurse but she has recently retired age 58.

She started nursing very young. After her O levels she joined the school of nursing and did a three years nursing diploma.

sandye Sat 09-Sept-23 13:47:59

I know someone who started training at 58. Go for it

Lesley60 Sat 09-Sept-23 13:57:25

I started my mental health nurse training when I was 34 and there were plenty of people male and female who were in their 50s doing the same.
People have to work for much longer these days so no way are you to old.
Personally I think women giving birth would prefer someone more mature who has gone through it themselves rather than a young midwife with no experience of going through pregnancy and childbirth.
I would say go for it don’t spend any longer regretting not doing it,
The achievement you feel when you now how much you have helped someone makes you so happy
Good luck 💐

GrauntyHelen Sat 09-Sept-23 14:25:08

Do it

Calipso Sat 09-Sept-23 14:38:36

naughtynanny

This may not be totally PC, but, I'd far rather have a mature MUM, nurse/midwife, with life experience helping me deliver my baby, than someone with a zillion paper qualifications, but who actually doesn't know what I'm going through. Go for it, enjoy this new adventure. Good Luck

I have heard this so many times. In real life it doesn't stand up to scrutiny. I have worked with and mentored many, many young midwives who are intelligent, empathetic and flexible and have great ability to stand in someone else's shoes awhile. I have similarly encountered many who believed that because they had been through the experience of motherhood, they knew and understood it all. Sadly, many of them really did not: they were often rigid in their thinking and not always very kind.

finns Sat 09-Sept-23 15:05:16

Thankyou All for your input ! i have tried to respond previously but my posts have vanished !

Thankyou cupcake

queenofsaanich69 Sat 09-Sept-23 15:26:23

Helping patients is the most rewarding thing in the world,you literally change people’s lives by helping them at a stressful time,you sound perfect for the job.

SpringyChicken Sat 09-Sept-23 15:27:41

You need to speak to some midwives who are currently working in the NHS. From what my friend tells me about her daughter who is a midwife, it’s hugely stressful, high degree of responsibility and unsocial shifts. She has been left alone with patients to deliver babies when she should have had a more senior midwife with her. She didn’t have the right A levels to start her degree so slogged through a foundation course beforehand. It’s certainly no walk in the park.

rugbymumcumbria Sat 09-Sept-23 15:36:19

You won’t get the state pension until you’re 67 so you’d have over 10 years in the field inc training. That is to be worth it!! Go girl 👧🏻