Anyone else already hating the wet, dark cold nights

I am quite comfortable with cold even wet weather. Because I find the heat to be a big problem I enjoy autumn and winter even more. I'm quite happy walking the dogs in the rain, not so much all the wet paws when I get back. I like relaxing on the sofa with a good book and watching the rain etc. I am sure if I was still working I would feel a bit differently as now I can pick and choose when I go out - dogs permitting.

I’m unsure of why it’s considered pessimistic to talk about your real circumstances. We are chatting about the dark months and people are saying how they feel. That’s not bringing people down or raining on anyone’s parade, it’s just life. If we cannot speak about the sadness, coke and worry here, especially if we do not have a loved one to share these thoughts with, then what’s the point? I like winter but I don’t like hurting with arthritis or worrying myself sick about the heating. I’ve already had pneumonia due to restricting my heating this year, that makes this normally optimistic person feel scared. Sorry, but that’s true. Come on the warm months.

I find early morning and late night dog walks in dark dreary November through February quite difficult to recount happily. Winter, especially now until Match is hard for many -- but it passes. I try to look forward to spring!

Me too re the dog walks Norah. Especially the evening ones. I’ve tried taking our dog out earlier while it’s still light but her clock says the 8 o’clock is the time to go for a walk so even if she’s been out earlier she’s standing by the door at 8 o’clock.

Nanatoone

I’m unsure of why it’s considered pessimistic to talk about your real circumstances. We are chatting about the dark months and people are saying how they feel. That’s not bringing people down or raining on anyone’s parade, it’s just life. If we cannot speak about the sadness, coke and worry here, especially if we do not have a loved one to share these thoughts with, then what’s the point? I like winter but I don’t like hurting with arthritis or worrying myself sick about the heating. I’ve already had pneumonia due to restricting my heating this year, that makes this normally optimistic person feel scared. Sorry, but that’s true. Come on the warm months.

I agree, Nanatoone. There is a big difference between saying how it is for you, and implying that others shouldn’t do the same if they do enjoy it though. I’m not saying you have done that, but the ‘think of those sleeping on the streets’ posts are going down that road.

Maggiemaybe said But I enjoy the run up to Christmas at least with plenty to do, Halloween, Bonfire Night, Light Nights, Christmas markets, etc, as well as settling down to more crafting, reading and the TV.

Even with these entertainment there are people who like to do them down. Halloween? Kids begging for sweets. Bonfire night? Fireworks scare my dog. Light Nights? Waste of electricity. Christmas? An orgy of excess and plastic tat. There’s always someone who wants to spoil others enjoyment.

Thinking even more on this, I’ve realised it’s not the dark nights I mind, it’s the gloomy days! It’s good to be snuggled up in doors and I do count my blessings for that.

I’m definitely an autumn and winter person, like Anne of Green Gables I’m glad I live in a world were there are Octobers. The heat and brightness of summer really get me down. Spring I like for the newness and freshness but really do prefer autumn and winter. I’m glad I have a few on here who feel the same!!

I hate this time of year, I dislike the dark, greyness and the cold, here is hoping for a summer next year as this year's was abysmal.

Mollygo

Me too re the dog walks Norah. Especially the evening ones. I’ve tried taking our dog out earlier while it’s still light but her clock says the 8 o’clock is the time to go for a walk so even if she’s been out earlier she’s standing by the door at 8 o’clock.

I’ve got the opposite dog problem. Mine absolutely hates cold, rain, and wind, and he can’t bear getting muddy. I make him come out for half an hour and when the weather’s bad it’s really hard work. At night he goes in the garden, but if it’s wet it will be on the patio because he hates wet grass. Of course he’s then a pain in the house because he’s got an excess of energy. Roll on summer.

DamaskRose, kindred spirit. x

I love the Summer but love the Winter too, apart from the torrential downpours. I must be the only one who still enjoys getting up in the early hours when everything is quiet, there are few cars (and people) around and the air is clear and smells fresh. I've been known to plodge around the streets after rain, there's no one to see me usually. Years ago we would meet the milkman or postman but now there are few milkmen and you don't see a postie round here before about 9 am. Then home to a warm breakfast and hot chocolate.

Nantoone talking about how you feel about winter is fine. It is part of the dialogue about how we feel as indiduals about the winter. Remember the text the OP posted is: I already hate the dark cold and often wet nights.

What is irritating is people not saying how they feel but using other amorphous groups of people 'the poor', 'the homeless', people whose opinions are unknown as they have not been consulted but which they claim to know, in order to rain on other peoples parades.

Were there a similar thread about summer, I would be one of those saying how depressing I find it.

It wasn't that long ago that some posters on here were complaining about the weather being too hot; I think we had had three successive warm days and they didn't know how they were going to cope.
Sad, really.

Thank you Maggiemaybe.

eazybee

It wasn't that long ago that some posters on here were complaining about the weather being too hot; I think we had had three successive warm days and they didn't know how they were going to cope.
Sad, really.

It's just being British to complain about the weather . I don't see it as 'sad' at all - it's just chatting.

M0nica

Nantoone talking about how you feel about winter is fine. It is part of the dialogue about how we feel as indiduals about the winter. Remember the text the OP posted is: I already hate the dark cold and often wet nights.

What is irritating is people not saying how they feel but using other amorphous groups of people 'the poor', 'the homeless', people whose opinions are unknown as they have not been consulted but which they claim to know, in order to rain on other peoples parades.

Were there a similar thread about summer, I would be one of those saying how depressing I find it.

I totally agree with this post. I find this alot on GN, if you like something, you will always get someone along to make you feel guilty because of people who are not as well of as you. I find this patronising as we don't know what these people think at all.

Then you open the door and see this over the rooftops just now. ❤️

I find this alot on GN, if you like something, you will always get someone along to make you feel guilty because of people who are not as well of as you.

I'm annoyed by posts implying something is wrong with how money, hard saved, is spent, and we're not particularly 'well off'. Cruises, holiday homes, uni fees, expensive cars - all spending others find excessive. For example, I'm decidedly not wasteful, mostly this very old house will see us out, no need to fit a new kitchen, But fine for those who wish. Everyone is different.

It is the politics of envy. No matter what we do, even if there was no poverty at all, there will always be a variation in income, also people will have different priorities.

We also need to remember that just as for most people in that situation, poverty is part of their life, but not their whole life. So someone who is well off now may well not have been well-off all their life, and may well have experienced periods of poverty.

However to get back to the thread. This evening, may be dark, but it has not been either cold or wet. We have had a na autumnal sunny afternoon, all yellow leaves and yellow sunshine and a wonderful sunset.

Joseann

Then you open the door and see this over the rooftops just now. ❤️

Lovely.

We've glum rain, wind - that we could have your view!!

Cosy inside, nice to hoover - food dropping GC and pet hair.

I find the damp, grey dismal days when it never seems to get light all day, the worst - and we seem to have more of those than the bright, frosty, blue sky days. The damp seems to eat into my bones. The lights need to go on earlier, and the curtains closed earlier to keep it out, so I understand what you mean optimist1. It’s well known that some people suffer from SAD at this time of year. I don’t, but understand many do. However, I really don’t like the dismal days, they affect my mood a bit (but not to the extent of someone experiencing SAD), and I look forward to the lengthening days. Yes, each season has its beauty, which I appreciate, but the damp, grey days are unpleasant to me.

Sadly, there have been some posts on here that have been either somewhat condescending and rather unkind or bordering on the virtue signalling and also rather unkind. We are all allowed to say how we are affected by the weather without the need for someone to come along and either tell us to “stop moaning” or “appreciate how fortunate we are”. Of course we know there are others are in a worse position than us in some way, but it shouldn’t stop us from chatting about how the weather affects us, and also, if we want to moan about the weather, so what!

It really is just a few weeks before it starts to get lighter again.4 days before Christmas so not long at all .I prefer winter to summer ,I'm neither a sunworshipper or a beach lover so I'm happy when its cooler ,even when it rains and I love to watch a good storm lighting up the sky .I'm still working in the garden and theres hard landscaping to be done before Christmas
I'm happy.

Oreo

kittylester

Sorry, but I love it! I love drawing the curtains, putting the lights on and hankering down. I love watching bad weather.

Me too😄
Just love lighting candles and snuggling under a fleecy throw.

I like them too.. snuggle down with a good book or film and a hottie.. bliss..

You are not alone. I love Autumn it is so beautiful but not keen on these dark winter nights. Don’t feel like doing anything, except to keep warm and hibernate for the next 6 months.

I will be happier in my warm home if we do not need a new roof. Nearly feel out of my chair when I received the first quote.

Feel sorry for those people whose homes were flooded recently. My DD moved house in the middle of Storm Babet after six stressful months. There were only three groups of people in the chain but her solicitor and her buyer’s solicitor were both incompetent.

When she arrived there, half of the garden was waterlogged and the cellar with outside access to the garden was ankle deep in water. After a few days, the water disappeared much to her relief.

Doodledog

eazybee

It wasn't that long ago that some posters on here were complaining about the weather being too hot; I think we had had three successive warm days and they didn't know how they were going to cope.
Sad, really.

It's just being British to complain about the weather . I don't see it as 'sad' at all - it's just chatting.

When I worked in a very public-facing role, you could absolutely guarantee that whatever the weather, someone would be moaning about it.

Too hot, too cold, too wet, too dry, too ‘humid’ - that last did quietly amuse me, having lived in countries where at certain times of year humidity was 100%, with the temperature in the stratosphere, and you could wring your top out after being out of doors for 5 minutes.
There often seems to be a quaint assumption that heat anywhere abroad is invariably ‘dry’.