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Endometriosis charity appoints trans woman as the new head of the organisation.

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Smileless2012 Tue 14-Nov-23 13:33:20

Endometriosis South Coast (ESC) has appointed transgender Labour activist Steph Richards as the organisations new head.

It's a debilitating, distressing and extremely painful condition that can result in miscarriage and can lead to infertility. Why on earth would anyone not want a biological female in such an important and possibly influential role when this condition can only affect natal women?

VioletSky Tue 28-Nov-23 16:51:40

glorianny my absolute favorites are:

"Are you saying that [insert absolute nonsense that I have never said]"

"You are the one who always says to be kind etc" when I am always polite to polite people... But am somehow expected to act as a human punchbag for others unresolved issues and just sit here and take it lol

I don't know how people hold their heads up sometimes and don't realize how they come across to others... Someone should be telling them otherwise personal growth cannot happen and goodness knows the world is a terrible enough place as it is

Also Just watched Doctor Who, wonderful trans actress, loved it.. progress continues as always

Glorianny Tue 28-Nov-23 17:04:02

Doodledog

*The amount of misinformation spread also astounds me. But I do notice that those who claim to care so much have no response whatsoever to the level of violence suffered by transpeople.*
Can you be a bit clear about what you mean by this please? It is impossible to know whether to agree or not when you are being so vague. What misinformation, and who exactly are you accusing of 'claiming to care'? How have people (specified would be good, please) failed to respond - I assume that it is taken as read that all violence is bad, and that nobody condones it. Where there is something that can be done to minimise the level of violence (eg stop men in female spaces) then people suggest it. I'm not sure how anyone on here can suggest ways of minimising violence suffered by transpeople though. Unless posters perpetrate it themselves, which I doubt, there is not a lot any of us can do, and transpeople are already protected by law, which is your usual response when women complain about the risk from having men in prisons, hospital wards, changing rooms, DV hostels etc.

The concept of people using facilities which align with their natal sex is plain ridiculous and offers no protection at all to women, it actually exposes them to more dangers.
How? How on earth does segregating by sex rather than so-called 'gender' expose women to more dangers?

Of course transpeople are among us. We know that, and the vast majority of those who comment don't mind in the least. What we do mind is the way in which women are being pushed aside in all sorts of oft-repeated ways in order to accommodate them, and the way in which children are enabled to make changes to their bodies that could ruin their lives.

Try reading the whole thread Doodledogall your questions will be answered there. No point in going over and over the same ground.
There are none so deaf as those who will not hear.

Galaxy Tue 28-Nov-23 17:13:49

Can I be really clear that how I appear to you VS is not in my priority list.
I also have no idea how people hold their heads up when they make really unpleasant generalised comments.

Galaxy Tue 28-Nov-23 17:15:25

Sport and prisons are very much returning thankfully to being segregated by sex no matter how ridiculous you find the legislation allowing for this.

Mollygo Tue 28-Nov-23 17:52:07

I cannot improve on what DoodleDog and Smileless2012 have just put.
This
^ What's so sad is until all this nonsense and unpleasantness started, we were living quite happily with trans people and they were able to live their lives in peace.^
is true, even though Glorianny et al won’t admit that the violence perpetrated by some TW and fans is at the root of the harm to women and those trans, mainly TW, who were living peacefully and unobtrusively.
This behaviour of some TW and fans and the person mentioned in the OP, also clearly reflects the disrespect with which they regard the sex that they claim they want to be.
But clearly that behaviour and disrespect is acceptable to those on here who refuse to condemn it.

VioletSky Tue 28-Nov-23 17:54:12

Galaxy

Can I be really clear that how I appear to you VS is not in my priority list.
I also have no idea how people hold their heads up when they make really unpleasant generalised comments.

That's fine Galaxy

I think as humans we are far too different to have it worry us

But I am not trying to get a rise or a reaction... Just stating the truth...

Intersectional feminists work hard for equality for everyone to live in a fair and safe society and the "others" I was referring to are the ones who belong with us

VioletSky Tue 28-Nov-23 17:55:26

Sometimes they just don't know it until they read these sorts of threads

Mollygo Tue 28-Nov-23 17:59:59

VS🤣🤣🤣

Galaxy Tue 28-Nov-23 18:00:51

Yes that doesnt sound at all like a cult grin or a religion at the very least. It's probably why my atheist self rebels so much against it

VioletSky Tue 28-Nov-23 18:30:39

No not very cult like... we don't lie about what others think or feel or their motivations and we definitely do not blame any group (including women) for the actions or words of a few...

Now, these threads show all the earmarks of a cult:

When facts are proven wrong it is not acknowledged

Propaganda is shared in the form of memes and other quotes

You must agree with everything stated or you are not acceptable.. (this coming from someone who agrees on quite a few issues)

Solutions to issues aren't sought or wanted

Nothing ever changes... No new ideas are ever introduced, no changes to the mantra, just pure blind repetition and a determination to search for new excuses to say it, facts be damned

I know you don't like it but it is what it is.. The way you all feel about me stopped mattering to me a while ago now... Here or any other thread people here can't be objective on

Glorianny Tue 28-Nov-23 18:50:48

Galaxy

Sport and prisons are very much returning thankfully to being segregated by sex no matter how ridiculous you find the legislation allowing for this.

No one has said legislation separating prisoners is wrong. We have said that transwomen need to be accommodated and putting them in male prisons led to suicides.
It disturbs me that some people think sending transwomen to male prisons where they are undoubtedly more at risk of rape and abuse (not to mention suicide) is acceptable.

As for sport it is still an area where women are treated badly. Caster Semenya won her case of discrimination at the European court.
These words should upset anyone who supports women
As Human Rights Watch and experts argued in an amicus brief submitted to the European court, the 2019 regulations perpetuate the arbitrary scrutiny of women’s bodies in ways that are degrading and invasive of privacy, on grounds that are scientifically contested. Such regulations are incompatible with respect for women’s rights to bodily integrity, freedom from cruel, inhuman, and degrading treatment, dignity, and non-discrimination.

That is at the heart of the matter.

International sporting bodies set regulations with scant regard for international human rights norms, as if they are exempt from human rights standards. The European court decision debunks that, finding that the Swiss Federal Tribunal had ‘failed’ to uphold human rights norms despite ‘credible claims of discrimination’.

Mollygo Tue 28-Nov-23 19:30:40

It disturbs me that some people think sending transwomen to male prisons where they are undoubtedly more at risk of rape and abuse (not to mention suicide) is acceptable.
That disturbs me that anyone anywhere is at risk of rape and abuse (not to mention suicide)
but I find it equally disturbing that people are happy to send trans women to female prisons, where female prisoners are at risk of rape and abuse by males who have been imprisoned for exactly that crime.
If we’re talking about Separate areas for transwomen prisoners, then, why shouldn’t they be in male prisons, especially when they have been imprisoned for crimes of rape and violence towards women or towards anybody actually?
They would be as safe in separate areas there as they would be in separate areas in female prisons and the other female inmates would not be at risk from them.
How do you justify this urge to protect males and put them in places which would put females at risk?

Doodledog Tue 28-Nov-23 19:59:55

VioletSky

glorianny my absolute favorites are:

"Are you saying that [insert absolute nonsense that I have never said]"

"You are the one who always says to be kind etc" when I am always polite to polite people... But am somehow expected to act as a human punchbag for others unresolved issues and just sit here and take it lol

I don't know how people hold their heads up sometimes and don't realize how they come across to others... Someone should be telling them otherwise personal growth cannot happen and goodness knows the world is a terrible enough place as it is

Also Just watched Doctor Who, wonderful trans actress, loved it.. progress continues as always

Who is using you as a human punchbag, VS? Can you give an example, please?

Also, could you be more specific about who shouldn't, in your opinion, hold their heads up, and who should be told about personal growth etc (and by whom)? When you are so vague it is difficult to know whether to agree or not.

I'm not a Dr Who fan, but I wouldn't see someone's trans status as relevant, any more than their colour. If they can act, great, if they can't, not great. Liking something because of the so-called 'gender' of an actor is strange and a bit patronising, IMO, but to use your phrase, 'you do you'.

I have read the whole thread, Glorianny. Some posts are very vague, and allude to things rather than stating them, however (I ask for clarification in these cases, but it is rarely forthcoming) but I am otherwise capable of following, even if I glaze over at times because of reading the same script for the hundredth time.

I fail to see how segregating by sex is 'plain ridiculous', however, or how it places women at higher risk.

Doodledog Tue 28-Nov-23 20:07:30

I've just read Molly's post, and realise that you might be suggesting that transwomen are more at risk if segregated by sex. This is what happens when the language is mangled - I thought you meant women.

As Molly says, though - women are at risk in prison if incarcerated with male-bodied rapists/sex offenders. Of course they are. Transwomen threatening suicide is not a reason for putting women at risk. Threats of suicide are often emotional blackmail, and I believe that figures show that those who threaten suicide are less likely to follow through than those who take their lives without threatening to do so. In any case, the prison system should not be held to ransom by threats.

I agree that transwomen are likely to have a hard time in a male prison, and am tempted to say that this should discourage them from raping women, but that wouldn't be in the spirit of fairness, so what I will say is that when weighed against the risk to women, the rights of male rapists should come second. An alien concept to you, I realise, but there are times when even intersectional feminists must realise that something is objectively true and that men should not always come first?

Rosie51 Tue 28-Nov-23 20:18:57

For those offended by a meme (Glorianny and VS) , here's the sentiment without an accompanying picture.

If somebody's secondary sex characteristics do not define their gender, how does chemically or surgically altering these same characteristics affirm it.

Rather low blows from VS and Glorianny but sadly not a surprise.

Galaxy Tue 28-Nov-23 20:20:46

Many men have a terrible time in Male prisons, women are not human shields for these men. In terms of prison the advice from many in the prison service at the time was that housing men in the female estate was an absolute disastrous idea but the TWAW mantra overrode that.

Rosie51 Tue 28-Nov-23 20:22:44

Young attractive men and those with learning difficulties or physical weakness are at risk of rape in male prisons, so should they also be accommodated in female prisons? Or should more be done to ensure that nobody has to suffer rape or violence in prison? Loss of liberty is the punishment, not loss of safety.

Rosie51 Tue 28-Nov-23 20:23:30

You made the point while I was typing Galaxy.

Iam64 Tue 28-Nov-23 21:44:49

Rosie51 and Galaxy make the point made often in these discussions,
Men are more violent, they’re violent to other men, to women, to trans women and I’m certain to trans men.

Doodledog Tue 28-Nov-23 22:23:54

Iam64

Rosie51 and Galaxy make the point made often in these discussions,
Men are more violent, they’re violent to other men, to women, to trans women and I’m certain to trans men.

Exactly. So why is it up to women to deal with their problems?

Glorianny Wed 29-Nov-23 09:44:17

Mollygo

*It disturbs me that some people think sending transwomen to male prisons where they are undoubtedly more at risk of rape and abuse (not to mention suicide) is acceptable.*
That disturbs me that anyone anywhere is at risk of rape and abuse (not to mention suicide)
but I find it equally disturbing that people are happy to send trans women to female prisons, where female prisoners are at risk of rape and abuse by males who have been imprisoned for exactly that crime.
If we’re talking about Separate areas for transwomen prisoners, then, why shouldn’t they be in male prisons, especially when they have been imprisoned for crimes of rape and violence towards women or towards anybody actually?
They would be as safe in separate areas there as they would be in separate areas in female prisons and the other female inmates would not be at risk from them.
How do you justify this urge to protect males and put them in places which would put females at risk?

No one has ever said transwomen should be accommodated in women's prisons Mollygo It has been explained that the judiciary were faced with a difficult situation after a large number of transwomen in male prisons committed suicide, and wrongly sent some to women's prisons.
Facilities for transwomen are being made and they will be accommodated there.
It might be nice if you could stop accusing people of having views you completely manufacture

Glorianny Wed 29-Nov-23 09:50:09

Doodledog

Iam64

Rosie51 and Galaxy make the point made often in these discussions,
Men are more violent, they’re violent to other men, to women, to trans women and I’m certain to trans men.

Exactly. So why is it up to women to deal with their problems?

No one has asked women to deal with men's problems. We are however part of society as are transpeople and we all need to work to create a more tolerant and inclusive society. That isn't done by blaming one section and targeting them or by passing the responsibility for violence onto one section of society.
And certainly not by stirring up hate and division then standing back and blaming others.

Doodledog Wed 29-Nov-23 11:53:46

Who is stirring up hate and division if not the TRAs who scream TERF and threaten death and rape to those who disagree with them? Asking questions about the language, sport, the welfare of children and the privacy and dignity of women is not 'stirring up hate and division'. Violent objection to the fact that the questions are being asked is another matter, though.

Also, who 'explained' that the judiciary were faced with a difficult situation after a large number of transwomen in male prisons committed suicide, and wrongly sent some to women's prisons? I don't remember such an explanation, other than by you, and unless you are in a position to objectively dictate what was done 'wrongly', you are as reliant on your own opinion as the rest of us.

Mollygo Wed 29-Nov-23 12:21:07

Thanks Doodledog
All the hate seems to be stirred up by TRAs, some violent TW and in this case Glorianny.
Why do you keep bringing up hatred Glorianny, without acknowledging that your Posts are the posts that mention stirring up hatred?
Are women or TM going into male safe spaces and punching men who say they make them feel threatened?
Are women or transmen lying
and cheating their way into male sports?
Are TM taking male jobs on the grounds that they “feel” they are men?

Glorianny Wed 29-Nov-23 13:10:08

Doodledog

Who is stirring up hate and division if not the TRAs who scream TERF and threaten death and rape to those who disagree with them? Asking questions about the language, sport, the welfare of children and the privacy and dignity of women is not 'stirring up hate and division'. Violent objection to the fact that the questions are being asked is another matter, though.

Also, who 'explained' that the judiciary were faced with a difficult situation after a large number of transwomen in male prisons committed suicide, and wrongly sent some to women's prisons? I don't remember such an explanation, other than by you, and unless you are in a position to objectively dictate what was done 'wrongly', you are as reliant on your own opinion as the rest of us.

These replies vividly illustrate what I posted applies to all who pedal hatred.