Looking Good - Who makes the effort?

Grand2dogs Thanks. Glad you found something that works for you.

Grand2dogs I love your positive attitude and taking the initiative in dealing with your health issues. It is so important to maintain self esteem, taking a pride in your appearance and generally having a friendly attitude towards others. I wear clean, comfortable clothes indoors, in the garden and walking the dog, and always shower/wash hair, apply a little makeup and perfume each day. I make more effort when going shopping, and even more if out for a meal or the theatre.

I’m a game of two halves. I do exercise and look after my health, and think I’m always clean and presentable, but certainly don’t dress up or put make up on for a day at home.

When the family arrived on Christmas Day and I’d been cooking all morning, I dashed upstairs for a 5 minute transformation - whipped off the pinny, got busy with the hairbrush and makeup, threw on the jewellery and shoes.

When I reappeared, DSIL made a play of looking behind me and claimed he was wondering where the old washerwoman had gone. It’s a good job we get on.

I have never 'dressed up' to attract a man, so it follows that I have never had one to slob for after I had 'caught' him.

This, however, doesn't mean that I have never formed a partnership or got married. It means that all my relationships have been based on the mutual attraction of equals, and, since I have always been economically independent I have never needed a man for his income. I am not now and never have been a kept woman.

I was brought up to believe that dressing well, which has nothing to do with expenditure, and looking well-kempt, for either sex (as it was in my youth) was an essential part of self respect.

I have always respected myself, I have always dressed well (hoever you define the word)

Thanks BlueBell I think having the rain check by other people has really stimulated my thoughts. When I was younger I played a lot of sport and represented my County and carried that theme through life. I understand how people look good for themselves it’s brilliant I guess that’s why I make the effort as it’s so easy to stop bothering, there’s something in me that just makes me do it.Thanks for your kind comments.

I’m so pleased to read that you are getting your “mo-Jo” back after all your treatment Grand2dogs.
Sometimes, it can be hard to make an effort, and I would guess that many of us have felt that way at times. (I certainly have).
Personally, I like to make an effort at being smart and tidy even in casual dress, though I don’t bother much with makeup unless I’m going out somewhere. Being clean, smart and tidy is important to me - it’s not especially done for anyone else, but I suppose they benefit from the effort I make 😁.