Did you or didn't you? Sex before marriage!

Bella23

As a student in the late 60's/70's I knew of 50 shades of Palatinate Purple. I'm not saying I indulged nor would I want to know the details of anyone who did.

nobody with integrity would..

I bet that most of us had very similar experiences in that area of life.

All I'm going to say is you didn't need to be engaged to get the pill. If you knew the right doctor (and we girls told each other) you could get it in the mid 60s. The rest is my business.

Actually that might be mid to late 60s

At the London family planning clinic I attended in 1968 most women were either already married or if not we needed to be engaged with an imminent wedding date. We were called by our soon to be married names. Mrs so and so etc snd when I was called I carried on reading my magazine, Dh had to jog me.
Not so swinging 60 s after all,

Well I married early 60 s and yes I had sex before marriage
no problem with anyone knowing I had it before, during and after 🤣🤣🤣

So much importance was set on sex for us born before the pill was widely available wasn’t it. We had to keep ourselves pure or as my m.in.law said, no boy would want us. Soiled goods in her view! It was control of women. The lads could be doing it with those ‘types of girls’ who would let them and were ‘no better than they should be’! What did that phrase arise from and indeed mean. If I had my time again I’d be at it like a rabbit not liveing like a nun because if we didn’t we’d ’be left on the shelf’ ! Another well used phrase of the times. Whatever was the fuss about!!!

As someone who didn’t meet my husband until I was 29 , I find this a strange post.
And Katie59 most young women these days marry in their late twenties and thirties.

Katie59

Probably in the “70s” a lot of women had only had sex with the man they married. Now I guess there are very few, IMO having a lot of partners is bad partly for women’s emotional welfare but also men taking easy sex for granted.

Do you mean the 1870s?? I was an older teen then and I don't think any of my friends married as virgins 😅 I don't think most had one night stands but many had had a few serious relationships before marrying.

Tenko In the 60 s and even 70 s, it was usual to marry early, many were still teenagers.

Tenko

As someone who didn’t meet my husband until I was 29 , I find this a strange post.
And Katie59 most young women these days marry in their late twenties and thirties.

It is a strange post no matter your age at meeting your husband or being married. Age has nothing to do with ones morals or privacy.

I suspect the OP is doing some sort of research.

I divulge too much information apart from this question.

Our astonishingly boring home interior layout is on GN (daft I realized after typing), stored beans/rices are at risk somehow, I'm quite sure.

People become part of stupid news stories, no thank you.

Bella23

As a student in the late 60's/70's I knew of 50 shades of Palatinate Purple. I'm not saying I indulged nor would I want to know the details of anyone who did.

Do you mean Durham Uni or are you referring to the rampaging?

Just curious.

NotSpaghetti

Bella23

As a student in the late 60's/70's I knew of 50 shades of Palatinate Purple. I'm not saying I indulged nor would I want to know the details of anyone who did.

Do you mean Durham Uni or are you referring to the rampaging?

Just curious.

Both. When colleges were known as the" Whores on the hill"' or the" Virgins Retreat'" amongst others. I don't think life was less than colourful. I'm still not telling though.

A woman should retain her mistery
Some say it makes her more interesting

Kittylester. I agree with you- if you don’t like the post just ignore it! Scroll on!

I got married in my early twenties in the early 1960's.
There was no legitimate way I was able to get the contraceptive pill, - back then in East London GP would only give this to a woman who had already birthed a child.

Nothing was given until the bans were called. Then (so three weeks prior to the wedding) we were able to go to a clinic for a cap.

Thank goodness such matters were much improved by the time my daughters all grew into adulthood!!!!!!

Like Franbern, we married in 1962 and could only use the Family Planning clinic on production of the wedding invitation. I often wondered what people did who didn’t have formal printed ones.

What a difference a decade made, in the seventies it was all very easy, no questions asked.

It’s all about the times and how things have changed. I wasn’t quite 19 in 1960 when we married and this was quite normal.

My GP in 1968 would only give me the Pill a month before my wedding date and that was only "so that it would get into my system" apparently.

It never occurred to me to lie about the date . He didn't ask for proof. Ridiculous that a doctor would ask to see a wedding invitation!!

Kittycat

Kittylester. I agree with you- if you don’t like the post just ignore it! Scroll on!

Totally true!If you don't like the subject or the question.....jog on!!! So many "pure" Victorian "thinking" people on gransnet!Who would have thought? Grow up!!

Not wishing to be questioned about such a private matter does not equate to Victorian thinking or the need to grow up. I wonder if your husband or his ex have read your post yet?

Germanshepherdsmum

Not wishing to be questioned about such a private matter does not equate to Victorian thinking or the need to grow up. I wonder if your husband or his ex have read your post yet?

So......just jog on then! No one HAS to read posts or leave a response! Some people just love to put others down! NASTY!

Definitely a private matter and I certainly won’t be sharing.

You're right Nana that no one has to read posts or respond, but accusing those who don't like the subject matter of a thread you've started of Victorian thinking and/or needing to grow up ie attempting to put them down is "NASTY".

You could of course not read posts when it's clear they disagree with you and "just jog on".