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Do you always obey the rules or use common sense sometimes?

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kircubbin2000 Sun 21-Jan-24 11:31:41

We live in a nanny state and a lot of people do what they are told regardless.
I'm thinking king of a couple of things. We were at an event in a sports centre where barriers were used to let ticket holders through(like on the tube) and IN and Out were clearly marked.
When it was over all the gates were open and as I was going through the main exit my friends stopped me and told me we had to use the smaller OUT gate.
On another outing we had decided not to go on a museum tour and I suggested we could go for coffee and meet up with the rest of the party after their tour.
The other ladies were reluctant as Betty the leader might not approve!

kircubbin2000 Tue 23-Jan-24 16:09:46

A number of you as usual have invented complicated scenarios where I have been rude to Betty, led others astray and been very very naughty!
Nothing like this happened.4 people who were not wanting to stand in the cold for half an hour decided to sit and have a coffee.No tickets involved or insurance or anyone else put out.
But of course this is Gransnet!

Gwyllt Tue 23-Jan-24 17:49:34

As you said this is GN on a cold wet January day
What did you expect
Does Betty actually exists ❓❓

Lexisgranny Tue 23-Jan-24 18:04:40

I am not a rule breaker, but sometimes I wish I was!

Gwyllt Tue 23-Jan-24 18:30:27

Lexisgranny
It easy to break rules if you think about who makes them
Liberate yourself snd give it a go

JamesandJon33 Wed 24-Jan-24 11:59:46

When I turned 70, I decided I was going to wear what I wanted, go where I wanted, and do what I wanted. Sensibly of course. It is working well……I am thinking now of saying what I want to, but with a little circumspection I think.

biglouis Wed 24-Jan-24 15:21:04

My university arranged a residential course and participants had to fill out a form stating of they had any special dietary or other requirements. I stated that I had mobility restrictions.

First exercise the facilitator suggested we sit on the floor in a circle. I told her I would not be sitting on the floor as I was disabled with arthritis and went to fetch a chair. Another participant also declined to sit on the floor and suggested we all sit on chairs. Facilitator not very pleased. At this point she could have asked if anyone else had any special needs but failed to do so.

Later was an exercise which I considered unsafe for me and declined to do it. The facilitator ws again miffed. That evening was a business game which had all participants tearing around from one room to another. Having reached my physical limit I decided to sit out. The facilitator told me that she was not "comfortable" with my sitting it out. I had just finished an assertiveness course and told her "Well I appreciate that you may not be comfortable. However you are just going to have to be uncomfortable because I will be sitting this one out."

Later I asked her if she had read the forms of the various participants, including where I had explicitly stated that I had mobility issues. She replied that the information "was not made available to her". I know that if I was going to arrange activities for 15 people I would be finding out as early as possible if any of them had any medical conditions or additional needs which affected some of the activities I was proposing.

When I returned I wrote a report to the head of department stating that the course had made no provision for disabled attendees and I was given the impression that I was being a nuisance by not being able to complete some of the events. There was quite a hooha about it. Even back then universities were pretty hot on disability issues.

JamesandJon33 Wed 24-Jan-24 15:25:36

biglouis I think I might have ‘ asked’ the facilitator to facilitate somewhere else.

Gwyllt Wed 24-Jan-24 17:06:39

Biglouis
You post reminded of when my youngest was about ten he broke his wrist and it was in plaster
Technically I was in the wrong because I didn’t write a letter to school saying please excuse him from sports
However I don’t think anyone would suggest he should participate in a rugby skills session
Fortunately he had sufficient sense to sit it out and apparently stared the teacher out according to a friends daughter who was in the same class and she told me all the girls felt sorry for him

M0nica Thu 25-Jan-24 21:08:14

This evening I was driving home in slow moving interminable traffic. Although I had right of way as a I craled up a long main road, I regularly let cars into the traffic from side roads.

There is absolutely no denying what the Highway Code says. I had priority on the main road and traffic in side roads had to wait for a safe gap.

I chose to ignore the rules and let people out of the side roads into the traffic on the main road. I was not alone, lots of peopl were doing that. Rule breaakers, everyone of us.

Grannie06 Sat 27-Jan-24 21:08:04

When working in a day centre with dementia clients we were told we could not stop them wandering off if they wanted to go. I insisted on going with one client as we couldn't persuade her to come back.

Callistemon21 Sat 27-Jan-24 21:44:42

M0nica

This evening I was driving home in slow moving interminable traffic. Although I had right of way as a I craled up a long main road, I regularly let cars into the traffic from side roads.

There is absolutely no denying what the Highway Code says. I had priority on the main road and traffic in side roads had to wait for a safe gap.

I chose to ignore the rules and let people out of the side roads into the traffic on the main road. I was not alone, lots of peopl were doing that. Rule breaakers, everyone of us.

You'd be in real trouble on our local FB page for committing such a sin!

I see nothing wrong with doing that btw.