Parents-in-Law. What do/did you call them?

My Dh called my father by his Christian name and my mother “mum”. I called my in-laws “your fathers mother “ and “your fathers father” to our kids “dhs mother / father”
To anyone else. We were estranged for decades so I never had to call them anything to their thank goodness!

Mine were Ma and Pa and then Grannie and Grandpa.

I referred to them by their first names but hardly ever used those.
DMiL died last year aged 98. They both outlived DH and I miss them all.

I used their Christian names. They then became known as nanny Flo, nanny Flora when we had children

My MIL would have died on the spot if I'd used her first name. I didn't call them anything for many years but somehow I eventually called them Ma and Pa. I never used these terms with my own parents so it wasn't the same as using mum and dad but specific to the in-laws.

I had to call my mother in law Mrs and her surname .
I was told that it was disrespectful to call your elders anything else .
Initially , she was very warm and welcoming and she quickly cooled and developed a kind of genteel bullying .
I found her manipulative and yet when she died suddenly I was very sad .

I only had the one and I can’t remember calling her anything. Certainly not her first name and certainly not, ‘Mum’. Looking back, she was a true and honest type but not easy to get on with, full of criticisms of her grandchildren. I think she was pretty lonely, her husband died when he was only 39.

my mam and dad have both passed away.
i call my in laws by their first names.

I called my father in law by Christian name my husband called my parents mum n dad

I called my mother-in-law "Erm..." until one day she said, " For heaven's sake, Liz, call me Lilian! "
Just like you Marmight, I had my own mum and dad but also, here in the North East it's 'Mam' and I couldn't say that even though my husband called his mother Mam. It just wouldn't come out even though I was born in Liverpool, where 'Mam' is normal enough 🤔

So, Lilian and Harry.

I didn't have any inlaws as my husband's dad died when my husband was 6 and his mum died shortly after I met him aged 47. My dad died shortly after we were married aged 57 and my husband always called my mum love. My husband had no other living family member on his parents side and our two sons only had one grandma. My husband died 10 years ago. I am the last woman standing from our family from the past. I am the Matriarch.

My mother in law requested that I call them Mr and Mrs........but swiftly changed her mind when my parents insisted that my husband addressed them by their first names.

First names for me and husband also called mine by first names

My DH always used first names for my parents and I was a bit miffed that I had to call his DM Mrs xxx. His dad I called the same friendly nick name as my DH used. Eventually I called his mum Mrs X, which she didn't like at all 🤣so I was finally granted permission to use her first name!

I called them mum and dad as soon as we married. I felt very uncomfortable about it but thought it was the thing to do. They never batted an eyelid even though it wasn’t discussed. As soon as our children were born I reverted to Grandma and Grandad, even when speaking directly to them. I felt much more comfortable with that. I don’t recall my husband ever calling my parents anything. My son and daughter in law call us by our first names which is how we initially introduced ourselves. Our ex son in law probably has a few choice names for us but the feeling is absolutely mutual. He doesn’t like us despite everything we did for them when they were married and probably hates the support we give to our daughter now.

My husband's father had died before we met, and I called his mother by her Christian name. My mother called her in-laws Mum and Dad, but her own parents were Mother and Pa.

Mum and Dad, they were so lovely to me always. My DDiL and DSiL call DH and me by our first names.

I called my in-laws by their Christian names. I could never call them mum and dad as those terms were unreservedly meant for my own parents.

Marmight how sad for you -6 weeks apart , I lost my parents a month apart Dad died because my mum was in a home with dementia , and mum died - well not sure why . We always say Dad didn’t trust us to look after her as it was one month to date and time !!!

Like a lot of people on here I didn’t call them anything, probably just mumbled

My fil was called “Father” by everyone in the family, so I did the same, strangely enough, it didn’t seem formal at the time, I always regarded it as a term of endearment! My mil was known by her nickname “Nin”. We were very close, I became the daughter she never had, and when she asked me to call her “Mum”, I was really touched, even that my own Mum was still alive!

My hubby was bought up with his gran his dad died by a drunk driver and he didn’t get on with his step dad he called them both by first names and a few in between lol I called them both first names but his gran i called gran

Initially I called them by their first names, but after a long period and my own Mum had passed, I started to call them both Mum & Dad. It felt right and we got along so well.

I’m ten years older than my husband and only 16/17 years younger than his parents, so I’ve only ever called them by their first names. This has now spread throughout the family so their sons and grandchildren also call or refer to them by name. As they both hated the prospect of being old enough to become grandparents this suits them very well.

I hated both my in-laws and avoided speaking to them or about them as much as possible. They were lousy parents to DH and awful grandparents! When I did speak to them I used their first names!

kittylester

Like Marmight, nothing at all. Maybe Grandma and Grandpa when the children were around.

We had a great relationship despite that.

That's what I did.

There was no way I would have called them mum and dad. They were the same age as my maternal grandparents and I don't think they would have wanted me to be on first name terms. DH did call my parents by their first names.