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Poppyred Sun 19-May-24 06:52:21

After reading the Anaesthetic thread, this reminded me of my worst fear…..I have this dread of being in my coffin and still being aware of what’s happening. I don’t mean being pronounced dead by mistake…..

Curtaintwitcher Sun 19-May-24 06:57:07

Sadly, it does happen. You could stipulate in your will that you will not be buried until it is obvious you are actually dead.

baubles Sun 19-May-24 07:16:24

Does it happen? 😱

Marydoll Sun 19-May-24 07:29:31

baubles

Does it happen? 😱

Years ago I read of a case in South America. The elderly woman was in a deep coma, then noises were heard from her coffin. She died soon after the coffin was opened.

I think in poorer countries that could happen, but I don't think it could happen here, given the medical expertise here.

BlueBelle Sun 19-May-24 07:40:51

Well it has happened here, but yes that’s always worried me too, one reason I changed from burial to cremation I thought it would be quicker than waking up underground There have been cases of people waking in the mortuary haven’t there ?

Astitchintime Sun 19-May-24 07:46:38

Given the time that it took the Doctor to actually certify that my Mum was dead, I don't think there was any doubt. We had to wait over a week for the document to be available - Doctor had gone on holiday and forgotten to complete the paperwork - and then, when we went to collect it from the Bereavement Centre at the hospital where Mum died (by appointment only I must add), the clerk in the office was dismissive, bad mannered, and very rude. Certainly not what anyone wants to experience when they are grieving.

Oopsadaisy1 Sun 19-May-24 07:50:44

I’m our area funerals are taking up to 3 weeks to take place, I think anyone who isn’t dead would be found by then.

Poppyred Sun 19-May-24 08:04:37

What I meant was, what if we are still aware of what’s going on even if we are dead? 😱

petra Sun 19-May-24 08:09:06

Poppyred

What I meant was, what if we are still aware of what’s going on even if we are dead? 😱

Then your a ghost šŸ˜‚

Imarocker Sun 19-May-24 08:25:26

The Victorians used to be buried with a string attached to a bell so they could ring for help if they had buried alive. Trust me, once you are actually dead, by definition, you have no knowledge of what is going on.

downtoearth Sun 19-May-24 08:39:12

Imarocker I think that is where the term the graveyard shift was referring to,someone was paid to sit and listen for any bells ringing out.

BlueBelle Sun 19-May-24 08:40:58

Well that’s a different question Poppyred
If you mean is there life after death ..well no one knows many believe there is as many believe 5here isn’t No one to tell us that answer I m afraid of

Poppyred Sun 19-May-24 08:47:05

I believe in life after death, just wondering how long it takes to get there….im claustrophobic šŸ˜‚

PamelaJ1 Sun 19-May-24 09:27:08

A stake through the ā¤ļø should do it šŸ˜‚
I have always said I want a mausoleum so I can get up and go home if someone got it wrong.

keepingquiet Sun 19-May-24 09:39:04

This is where the term 'wake' originates from. The family and community gather round the body until the funeral just in case they 'wake' up. I suggest you make a stipulation in your will (make sure your family know, to make sure) that a wake is held so people can come and visit to check you're dead and celebrate your life with food and drink before sending you off.
If you don't want this doing at home it could be arranged (I suspect at a cost) at the funeral home.

It is a practice still held in many parts of the world and I think we should bring it back here too, if you want of course, it shouldn't be mandatory lol!

karmalady Sun 19-May-24 09:45:14

Poppyred, that silken thread which remains intact until you have permission to leave. It is invisible and your soul/energy will never remain in the confines of a coffin or a funeral home. Don`t fear that your soul/energy/essence will be trapped in your body. It won`t be. That is the time when you will be free to `visit` family and friends, some of whom will sense your presence. The funeral or just saying those words `you can go` will undo that silken thread and the spirit will become completely free

Poppyred Sun 19-May-24 09:59:38

keepingquiet

This is where the term 'wake' originates from. The family and community gather round the body until the funeral just in case they 'wake' up. I suggest you make a stipulation in your will (make sure your family know, to make sure) that a wake is held so people can come and visit to check you're dead and celebrate your life with food and drink before sending you off.
If you don't want this doing at home it could be arranged (I suspect at a cost) at the funeral home.

It is a practice still held in many parts of the world and I think we should bring it back here too, if you want of course, it shouldn't be mandatory lol!

I can’t think of anything worse! Hate being the centre of attention when alive, let alone dead! Thanks anyway.

Poppyred Sun 19-May-24 10:00:18

karmalady

Poppyred, that silken thread which remains intact until you have permission to leave. It is invisible and your soul/energy will never remain in the confines of a coffin or a funeral home. Don`t fear that your soul/energy/essence will be trapped in your body. It won`t be. That is the time when you will be free to `visit` family and friends, some of whom will sense your presence. The funeral or just saying those words `you can go` will undo that silken thread and the spirit will become completely free

That’s very comforting, thank you.

Dickens Sun 19-May-24 10:57:51

Poppyred

I believe in life after death, just wondering how long it takes to get there….im claustrophobic šŸ˜‚

... depends whether there's a current strike on the transport system...

Tink75 Sun 19-May-24 11:02:50

Love it Pamela - stake through the heart - Quite made my day !

Spinnaker Sun 19-May-24 11:05:27

Just in case I'm having a mobile phone put in with me just before the lid goes on
grin grin

henetha Sun 19-May-24 11:06:45

Perhaps we should be buried with a poison pill to take, just in case. Or maybe a loud whistle.
No chance for those cremated, of course.

Poppyred Sun 19-May-24 11:10:30

Spinnaker

Just in case I'm having a mobile phone put in with me just before the lid goes on
grin grin

Good idea!

Germanshepherdsmum Sun 19-May-24 11:28:30

The mother of one of my colleagues had stipulated that if she was pronounced dead her arteries must be cut in his presence. He honoured her wish. Thankfully she was indeed dead.

LottieLouise Sun 19-May-24 11:34:15

I once watched a film many, many years ago starring the actor Ray Milland. It was called Premature Burial. Ray Milland starred as a man who had the illness Catalepsy and he kept falling into a coma and looked as if he was dead and he was afraid he would be buried alive so he had a chapel built so he could be left in it and could ring a bell when he woke up from the coma. That film terrified me and to this day I am afraid of being buried so I have stated in my will that I want to be cremated so I can get it over with quickly.