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Back to a difficult position

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Aveline Tue 02-Jul-24 15:32:43

A couple of months ago I mentioned on here how difficult my neighbour had become. She's 93 and always a bit odd. She's also deaf now. There was a lot of emotional blackmail to try to get us to do things for her. Anyway. The couple who have POA for her managed to get her into a lovely care home. It is really nice. However, she hated it and was unpleasant to other residents and staff.
Just heard today that she's coming back on Thursday. SW is going to 'try to arrange' carers! Even if this miracle does come about they'll be daytime only and we'll be back to being woken up three times a night by her opening and shutting her front door.

I just don't know what will happen. Other neighbours are concerned. I've asked for the SWs contact info but no luck. I'm so fed up. We looked after my Granny, mum and MiL. I really don't want to be landed with this difficult neighbour who I didn't ever have much to do with.
Sorry. Just offloading.

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MissAdventure Sun 07-Jul-24 14:23:46

I know she's a nuisance, but the poor old soul, really, as well as all those disturbed by her.

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OldFrill Sun 07-Jul-24 15:25:44

Do you have the phone numbers for the POA's? I'd ring them to ask them to speak to her EVERY TIME she disturbs you, along with Social Service and the Police. To get this resolved you are going to have to become a greater nuisance to others than she is to you, involve all your neighbours too if you can. The more calls the quicker the outcome.

Absolutely agree with you MissAdventure these situations are tragic and any one of us could become that poor old soul.

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Aveline Wed 04-Sept-24 10:01:57

Update.
Well she went into a care home but refused to stay. She put the SW out of her flat. She doesn't get dressed any more and wanders about on the landing talking to herself.
Last night things came to a head. At 3am she started banging and thumping and shouting at her front door. I suspect she couldnt get it open for some reason. She wasnt injured or hurt just raging at it. The noise was appalling and woke the whole block up. I emailed and DH phoned the POA couple. No response.
However, I see they've just arrived. Apparently SW have appointed a carer but thats no use in the night. She needs 24 hour care. I've done a SW referral highlighting that she's at risk of harm. There's already been a fire incident.
No response from SW to urgent referral.
What will it take?? Argh. I'm so tired. Sorry just letting off steam.

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