Separate beds

Not quite separate rooms or single beds, but we have single quilts now. Bliss, I no longer wake up cold because dh has rolled the quilt around himself

No from me, I couldn't imagine not sleeping with my husband. What do the separate bedroom sleepers when they want sex? Knock on the door and say I'm ready if you are

Yes, started several years ago by stealth!

Progressing from occasional move to a different bedroom halfway through the night because of snoring to full on going to sleep in a different bedroom (but only on days I needed to get up for work) to full time separate bedrooms.

On holiday we book twin beds or kingsize (although we have plenty of bedrooms none of them are big enough for a kingsize bed or we might have tried it).

I also take a single antihistamine which despite claiming to be non drowsy always sends me to sleep! If I can get to sleep first it is less likely his snoring will disturb me.

Yes definitely. I sleep so much better now that we are in separate bedrooms and have done for about 10 years.

We've been in separate rooms since OH moved out to single when I was isolating 4 years ago during covid
We both realised we slept better so continued, at weekends he joins me for breakfast in bed
I do sometimes feel awkward when telling other people as they seem shocked
On holiday just usually book twin room in hotels or two bed cottages if self catering. We do usually end up poking each other complaining about the snoring but as the air conditioning is on when abroad I wear earplugs anyway

Helena Bonham Carter and Tim Burton went a stage further-separate houses !
It still didn't work out though , which is rather sad .

DH was often abroad for work purposes which meant I had the bed to myself. It was OK for a short spell and a few years back I used to have the dog to cuddle whilst DH wasn't home. But I couldn't imagine sleeping without him in a separate room. It's been cosy and comfortable for so long

King size bed for us but we don’t generally snore or wake each other up. We dread double beds in hotels as that does cause problems

It started as a temporary thing, when we both had colds that meant keeping each other awake with coughing and nose blowing.

But since we are both up and down a lot in the night anyway (ageing bladders!) we’re still in separate rooms. The odd night in a hotel room or staying elsewhere is fine, as long as it’s at least a king size bed.
We still have an excellent relationship.

I cannot, and will not, share an ordinary double bed any more - it feels so cramped.

Funny I should see this thread this morning. I’ve been awake half the night re figuring our bedrooms half the night in my head.
Same problems as a lot of you, DH bladder probs plus I suspect he has reflux as he’s started coughing through the night too.
We have two small en-suite bedrooms I can just about get two single beds in our room, our king size could move next door.

Have any of you bought extra long singles my DH is tall ? Looks like I’m going to be busy.

We have separate rooms too- just like Royalty! Much the same reasons- prostate, insomnia, snoring etc. We do get into bed together initially and have a cuddle.
Thing is I don’t usually tell people because it seems to have some stigma attached. So it was good to hear all your stories.

Sometimes. I had a painful knee recently so he slept in the other room. That has had to happen a few times over the last year. I don't want it to be permanent - but we've sort of got used to it.

We’ve had separate rooms for years. He likes a warm room, goes to the loo endless times and snores like a train. I prefer a totally unheated room. We also have two separate rooms on holiday. But, if we have visitors, I have to give up my room and sleep in a single room.

Separate rooms for us too. We've slept apart for years. We kept very different hours while working. DH still rises three times a week at 03:30 and always woke me when he got up.
If I wake in the middle of the night I have difficulty going back to sleep. I also still suffer from hot sweats and need a cooler bed than he likes. It works well for us.

When my husband retired I carried on working for another 5 years. He would watch tv until 2 or 3am and I had to be up at 6am so he started staying downstairs all night so we didn't disturb each other. Just after I retired 10 yrs ago he went into hospital with a heart problem and once he came home he couldn't manage the steep narrow stairs so bought himself a recliner chair and I don't think he ever went upstairs again. We moved 18 months ago and despite installing a stair lift and a profiling bed he only went upstairs to sleep 2 or 3 times before he died 9 months ago.

I dream of winning the lottery, just so I can have a bedroom and bed of my own.

Yes, absolutely.
My bed - my space.
We are both comfortable with the arrangement.
The usual reasons are: snoring, bad dreams, thrashing around.
Not me. Other half, so he’s relegated to the spare room.

Separate rooms for us for the last couple of years mainly due to snoring, heavy breathing and my insomnia. Funnily enough we now find sleeping together exciting - we look forward to going away and always book a KS bed plus I do have unexpected visits in the night!! Silly I know but it works very well for us. Both in our 70s.

Love our separate bedrooms. I am constantly hot, often restless and anything and everything disturbs me. DH is cold, shouts in his sleep and flings his arms around. Visiting each others rooms always seems a bit exciting. We usually go self catering on holiday with two bedrooms.

I snore! He tosses and turns, separate beds apart from holidays ! Love it !

I'm single but my wee dog sleeps at the bottom of my king size. I love having my own space

Yes separate rooms here.After years of insomnia in the peri menopause , DH snoring and both making trips to the bathroom at different times I finally moved into the spare room when I was ill with covid.And never moved back!But honestly I sleep so much better and am so much happier and not grumpy any more.We are very close, still kiss ,cuddle and laugh a lot.We do share if we're in a hotel but book twin beds .If self catering we book 2 bedrooms.But if we have family staying eg at Xmas we're back together. But tbh it's always a relief to stretch out on my own in a silent ,cool room.

Sounds like us bazaa. I am a light sleeper dh not. When he woke his side of the bed looked like a tornado had hit and even the mattress always askew from the base.
While I sleep very tidily….hardly move at all, and since moving into the other room I sleep soooo much better. Even if I still manage to wake at an unearthly hour.

Definitely separate rooms for us! I’m a very light sleeper and even heavy breathing disturbs me. I have to say it suits me better than DH who could sleep through a nuclear attack.

hubby refused to consider separate rooms on a permanent basis , though a few nights a week if my snoring is bad or I am talking in my sleep or being particularly restless, he does move through to the back bedroom.
We do have separate single beds in the same room brought about 4 yrs ago by my asthma playing up and struggling to breath so I bought an electric bed that I can sit up to help my breathing, and now my regurgitation as well.
Like others I hate using a quilt or being warm, he uses a 10.5 tog even in the Summer, I use a 4.5 in the winter.