Feeling betrayed by name change

No, if she still has your name somewhere be happy and enjoy your new granddaughter xx

No. Short answer I know but if you want to stay friends don't go to war on this, She can name her children who she likes. They are hers. Your will probably end up giving the baby a pet name of your own.

I’d feel hurt too if it had already been mentioned but not humiliated. Do the names flow better the other way round perhaps. Anyway can’t be altered now. No point in raising it.

Like @winterwhite, I wondered if the names “flow” better now. Try not to feel hurt though. Life’s too short!

For goodness sake, no. Let it go, it really isn’t worth falling out over.

It is so easy for us - the other grandmother and I have the same name! It’s our granddaughter’s middle name.

My sons first daughter has her other granny’s name asa middle name,daughter number two has her other granny,s name as a middle name (ten years between then and a different mum)when daughter no three arrived in the spring they told me that she was having an old fashioned “flower” name and my old fashioned name as a middle name.I was surprised and pleased and never assumed that’s what they,d do ,I get on well with the other grannies and GD one lived with us half of every week for ten years.That didn’t give me rights their babies their decision.
My mother really disliked my daughters name and refused to call her it ,she insisted on calling her by her middle name for months until my Dad called her out on it ,she wouldn,t have been happy if my granny had done that with her kids.Dont cause a problem where one wasn,t intended just enjoy the baby,they don’t stay wee for long

She has your name, what difference does the order make?

Don't take offence .
You are being honoured !

Perhaps the initials are better the other way round?

What a fuss about nothing.

I didn't give my children family names.. it never occurred to me.. not because I didn't get on with them.. it's most probably to do with flow or maybe which one she actually prefers.. does it really matter?

Neither my mother nor I have had our names used for children or grandchildren. The only ones that have been used are my fathers. He died many years ago and I am sure would be really touched. Don’t upset yourself, your name is there and will be on all sorts of documentation down the years.

She has your name , the order is unimportant!

Lots of people just don't do this anymore, so I think you are being a bit over sensitive

I wouldn't have given my DC family names except for the fact that I like my mother's middle name and it was fashionable again.
After I told her we'd picked it for DC1's middle name she said "Why? I've always hated it!" Then said she was rather pleased. 😃
DC2's middle name was just picked randomly after no-one in particular.
Years later I found these two names were the names of my great-great grandparents.

We didn't give our children any of the grandparents' names so as not to leave anyone out.

I sometimes find it hard to believe the trivial stuff people decide to be upset about, but I see you were already feeling "neglected". Please stop feeling sorry for yourself.

You are fine; your daughter is fine; your grandchild is fine.
Make the most of that.

Baggs

I sometimes find it hard to believe the trivial stuff people decide to be upset about, but I see you were already feeling "neglected". Please stop feeling sorry for yourself.

You are fine; your daughter is fine; your grandchild is fine.
Make the most of that.

👏👏👏

What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet;

Our DD used one of my, least liked, middle names for first born DGD, other DGM's name as first name and a semi precious stone of special significance as another middle name. With the surname, the initials spelt 'REAR' initially(!) but were changed round on the birth certificate to RAER made up of DGM's first name followed by semi-precious stone, then my not much liked middle name then DD's surname. I was neither up nor down about any of it. Her choice.

I was neither up nor down about any of it. Her choice.
Precisely

Do I say something
Yes.
You say "Thank you for the christening invitation, we'll look forward to it. Now what about a gift?" 🙂

Betrayed? 🤔
It's a 🤷‍♀️ moment.

When you talk to your grandchild just use the whole name - hello little Julie Kate - and your granddaughter will get used to you saying your name as part of her name. Be thankful you got a special place in her name!

Life is too short for this kind of wrangling.

It’s a difficult one, I can understand you feeling hurt, but not sure I’d mention it. My first Gd has her other grand name in her name and when my second gd was born she was given my middle name, I foolishly asked if the was her mums grans name and was pleased when my son said no they’d picked it because it was mine.