Do you envy slim/thin friends who look great in charity shop bargains.

Good for you Biglouis.

I'd say a lot is wearing your best palette of colors and the way you hold yourself. Posture is everything. Body positivity is everything. Making the most of what we have and not negatively comparing ourselves to another person is the best way. As my MIL would say "you're a long time dead" so make the best of it.

I agree it’s about wearing it well.
Know what suits you and wear with confidence.

I have a good friend who loved a dress I had, she wanted it so much and asked if I would be happy for her to get the same dress.
I had no issue as we don’t even live in the same county.

I went with her to buy said dress, she put it on and we both fell about in the fitting room, she looked a b****r in it!

We are not dissimilar in size, shape and colouring so it was a revelation!

I’ve gone from a size 14 to a size 8/10, lost over 2 stone and I hate it. I had a wardrobe full of clothes I loved, they are all far too big for me now. I’m trying to regain the weight I’ve lost but just can’t regain appetite I once had. I’m skin & bone, look frail & hate looking in the mirror. I had a heart attack caused by a large blood clot late last year & spent weeks in hospital. I would give anything to be a strong, healthy size 14 again. Trying to gain weight is just as difficult as trying to lose it.

Six years ago I followed the 5@2 set and lost over a stone easily and speedily. I have maintained this weight by trying to not eat after 6.30 p.m and going without breakfast the following morning. The late lovely Dr Mosley thought of this as 16 hour fasting period. I don't miss breakfast so find this easy to follow. I am under 5 foot and weigh around 7 stone 3. I used to buy from charity shops and jumble sales because I love a bargain. Because I am now old my daughter keeps an eye out for items for me.

Back in the day Trinny and Susannah wrote books on how to dress well for your figure, so if even it is a knack, it's definitely a learned knack that anyone can learn.

The young people of today could tell us a thing or two about Body positivity and self love. It's worth reading up and working on being comfortable in our own skin.

I just envy naturally slim people, especially when you know they eat what they want, while you put on a pound just looking at a lettuce leaf. 🙄
My DH is naturally slim always has been so is his sister and their late mother. His brother on the other hand is much more prone to weight gain .

Yes I know exactlyvwhat you mean . But also there are some people who carry more weight than me but suit their weight if you know what I mean . Whereas I dont- I just look like someone who should be slimmer !

I’ve come to the conclusion that you are what you are and unless the weight is so great it has an effect on health, then just go with it. I am 14/16. I lost a lot of weight recently with pancreatitis and then heart surgery. I wasn’t eating and now I am and everyone tells me how healthy I am looking (heaven knows what I looked like before 😲). A number of my friends are skinny malinkies and, no, I’m not envious. No bottoms , no waists, a bit ‘boney’, just straight up and down and they’re always cold. Sure they look good in their size 8/10 outfits, charity or otherwise, but so do I in my larger versions. Life is too short to worry about aesthetics. I should know having come close to not having one!

Do you envy....no.

I agree with Marmight. After a couple of near death experiences this year already, I'm fortunate to be alive. It really puts things in persective. I'm happy to be here, wearing my favourite colors.

I am so very shallow I am jealous of anyone size 12 or under.

I do find that the offering in charity shops is a bit on the frumpy side when you get into the larger sizes.

I don't feel envious of smaller people but I do often find things in charity shops which would suit me if only they were bigger!

My DD2 says to eat more cake, because fat people are harder to kidnap! 😂

I'm far too old at nearly 79 to be worrying about body envy! I've always carried too much weight from an early age but I never envied my skinny, wear-anything cousins (I loved them) or indeed anyone who is thin.

I am myself; I wear nice clothes that suit me, and I don't waste time wishing I was a different size or shape, although I would have liked a few extra inches on my height as it would be so useful to be able to reach things on high shelves in shops.