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When did 'Passing' become the new word for died????

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Franbern Thu 19-Sept-24 19:02:54

Just that really. Seems to be that no-one can say that someone has died, nowadays they have 'passed'. Okay, that might mean something if you are religious and still believe in life after death.#

To me, it is a rather silly term and is becoming increasingly annoying.

LR10 Fri 20-Sept-24 12:35:37

Totally agree but if ever the word 'died' is used it is always preceded by the word 'sadly' which is totally unnecessary. When it is used every time it becomes meaningless.
A bit like "love you' after every communication - I took an order on the phone from a customer last week who left me with that little nugget. It was obviously a sincere comment hmm

MissAdventure Fri 20-Sept-24 12:35:55

I'm passing away to a kinder thread now. smile
Leaving all of the confused, and outraged to it, and my condolences to those who are bereaved.

Dowsabella Fri 20-Sept-24 13:05:35

I'm with you, Musicgirl.
"Promoted to Glory."

4allweknow Fri 20-Sept-24 13:09:44

To me, passed away has been used for many years as can recall hearing a neighbour had passed away and this was in the 50s. I use died, not accept others prefer not to.

4allweknow Fri 20-Sept-24 13:12:22

Update: I use died, BUT accept others prefer not to.

Lizzie44 Fri 20-Sept-24 13:13:46

I always use the word "died" but I can understand that it might feel too blunt a word for many to use. I don't mind people saying "past away" if that feels more comfortable. But I don't like the term that someone has "past".

jenpax Fri 20-Sept-24 13:16:55

I always say died. I get upset when I think of my late parents and Grandparents but saying “passed” doesnt make me feel any better😳 I guess some people find it less harsh but for me I like to face it head on

Shelflife Fri 20-Sept-24 13:24:22

Each to their own, it is whatever makes the person giving the news feels most comfortable with. Whatever phrase is used people understand the meaning and that is what is important.

win Fri 20-Sept-24 13:32:00

Mollygo

henetha

Perhaps some people just find it easier, on themselves or others, to avoid the word died. I think whatever people can cope with is fine, especially if it somehow makes them feel better.

Yes.

That is the problem, if we normalised using the words died/dying/death, as it thankfully sounds like we are on this thread, it would not be so hard to say. for some people. It is just a words that describe fully what has happened, all the other words are confusing and incorrect especially for children. You need to be clear and precise when telling children about a death, otherwise they cannot accept the situation and are still hoping the dead person will come back at some point.

Peaches7 Fri 20-Sept-24 13:45:15

I say passed away as its more gentler when telling someone,saying died seems more blunt

MammaLjW Fri 20-Sept-24 14:02:07

I believe that people and beautiful flowers die.

You only ‘Pass’ when you don’t know the answers!

grandtanteJE65 Fri 20-Sept-24 14:21:40

Yes, it annoys me too, and I am not sure when it became common in British English, but fairly recently, I think.

When I was a child some people used the term that someone had passed away - that was bad enough, but there seemed to be a superstitious dread of using words like death or dying, almost as if you were inviting Death (with a capital and personified )in.

Brought up in a reasonably regligous home, I was taught to say that people died and that no-one dies until the time God wills , but that everyone has to die sometime and that it makes no sense to use euphemisms such as " we have suffered a bereavement" NN has passed away, gone to a better place, "or the like.

Nor was it necessary to takk about "an addition to the family" or a happy event having taken place. A child had been born is a perfectly respectable phrase.

grumppa Fri 20-Sept-24 14:30:32

I prefer died to the euphemisms, and on checking my (ever growing) stack of copies of letters of condolence I have sent, I find I have always used the word death.

As Tennessee Ernie Ford nearly sang:-

"If you see me coming, then get out of my way;
A lot of men didn't, and they passed away."

Ffion63 Fri 20-Sept-24 14:39:13

‘Gone’ is another one that irritates me. I knew someone who, as a child, was told her mother had ‘gone’ and it was days later when she saw people crying that she realised she had died and wasn’t out somewhere.

Bobbysgirl19 Fri 20-Sept-24 14:42:41

Shelflife

Each to their own, it is whatever makes the person giving the news feels most comfortable with. Whatever phrase is used people understand the meaning and that is what is important.

Totally agree with you. Why some people get so irritated by this I don’t know.

Use your preferred choice of words, and accept that others prefer to use something different to you!

Each to their own.

keepingquiet Fri 20-Sept-24 14:47:52

I only get baffled by going over the 'rainbow bridge,' when people refer to the death of a pet. Wherever did that one come from? I find it very silly, so probably is American!

Summerstorm Fri 20-Sept-24 14:56:16

I also detest the passed or have lost someone. Passed makes me think of exams driving test etc etc. lost sounds like sounds like you’ve been careless and can’t remember where you’ve put your glasses, watch, purse etc etc. I’ve warned my kids that after fighting cancer for the last ten years I will have died and none of this rest in peace etc etc. I will be fighting to the end.

cmcpne Fri 20-Sept-24 15:17:53

You took the words right out of my mouth!

Smileless2012 Fri 20-Sept-24 15:21:42

I agree Shelflife what difference does it make what word someone uses.

Mirren Fri 20-Sept-24 15:24:08

I am a Christian and a doctor.
I absolutely hate this ridiculous term
We all DIE. It is the single unifying experience the human race has.
We are born , not arrive , so why need Pass ??
I know death is said to be " the last great taboo " and a sensitive subject but being twee about a normal occurrence only exacerbates the problem.
Please, call it it dying and died.

Anniebach Fri 20-Sept-24 15:26:52

Very Christian, ridiculing, mocking , criticising,

Anniebach Fri 20-Sept-24 15:29:57

The Bible also offers comfort for those who are mourning the loss of a loved one. Psalm 34:18 states: "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."

winterwhite Fri 20-Sept-24 16:04:07

The French use ‘left us’ in formal announcements which says it all neatly.

‘Sorry for your loss’ always sounds trite and unfeeling to me.

EEJit Fri 20-Sept-24 16:37:00

I'm not so bothered about "Passed", but there is another one I've started seeing, "unalive" or "unalived" for died or killed", it really bugs me.

On the subject of death, I hate the phrase "over the rainbow bridge" when an animal dies or is dead. It sounds ridiculous.

rascal Fri 20-Sept-24 16:45:20

I can't stand hearing passed away.
Very annoying!
A person has not passed away, they have died!